I Should Have Sent a Gift Card

United States
March 20, 2016 6:24am CST
Yesterday morning I finally was able to chat with my grandson's stepmother. The conversation was quite short. I sensed an undercurrent that made me feel a bit unsettled. Said that I tried to call several times to wish my grandson a happy birthday and only got her voicemail. Her response "we are busy." Then I asked if he received his gift. My concern was that it was left at the side door of their home. She said that they got it. When I asked if he liked the tablet I got for him, there was a long wait for an answer. "He is not allowed to have technical devices." No reason for him not being able to have one. When I sent her messages the week before asking what he needed or would like for his birthday, I received no response. It only takes a minute to type a response. I thought about what to get him and found what I thought any teenager would love, a tablet. I placed the order through Amazon and had it delivered before his birthday. She said she would return the tablet and order him sneakers. Well if I had known that he would be getting sneakers I would have sent a gift card. I am so disappointed. Now I sit and wait for his call. She said that once things aren't so hectic she will have him call. Um, what? Why can't I speak to him for a few minutes to wish him a happy birthday. My heart is broken.
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10 responses
• United States
20 Mar 16
What is the problem with this woman? I am mad for you
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• United States
20 Mar 16
I am wondering what the father is saying as well.
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• United States
20 Mar 16
@ElusiveButterfly This is so bad..yeah wonder what he is saying.
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• United States
20 Mar 16
@TiarasOceanView I guess I will never know. The father hasn't spoken to me since the day I met him when he and my daughter were dating.
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@Juliaacv (28933)
• Canada
20 Mar 16
Oh that is such disrespect. I am heartbroken just reading this. You have no reason to feel bad for what you bought your grandson, she should feel bad that she cannot provide him with a pair of running shoes. I hope that you get to speak with your grandson, maybe he doesn't even know what you got him for a gift.
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• United States
20 Mar 16
At this point I am not sure he even got to look at it. I did also send him a card. I think I wrote in the card that I hope he liked the tablet.
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@DianneN (74051)
• United States
20 Mar 16
She sounds like a controlling and nasty you know what. Can you contact your son to have your grandson call you? He is old enough to do so. I am so sorry. My dil isn't much better.
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• United States
20 Mar 16
His father is not my son. That is a long story Dianne. Sadly he has never even spoken to me since the day I met him when he was dating my daughter.
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@DianneN (74051)
• United States
20 Mar 16
@ElusiveButterfly Oh, my! What a horrific situation. Can you send your grandson a card and let him know how much you love him? Just think, he'll be 18 in 3 short years. I think I understand your problem, now.
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• United States
20 Mar 16
@DianneN I sent him a birthday card that had the perfect verse. I also penned how much I love him and miss him. Also believe I said I hope he enjoys the birthday gift I sent and may have told him it was a tablet. I just hope that they haven't completely poisoned his mind.
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@msiduri (5757)
• United States
20 Mar 16
What a cold, rude [unladylike language]. You will clearly get nowhere with her. I wouldn't even try. Have you tried contacting (if I understand the family constellation correctly) your son, your grandson's dad? Offer an innocent (*cough*cough) apology for not knowing your grandson wasn't allowed electron devices, but that you havne't been able to reach him and would like to speak to him. All innocent and polite, loving, chatting with your son, asking how life is treating him and how was grandson's birthday? I mean, who could object?
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• United States
20 Mar 16
His father is not my son. Long story. I have never spoken to his father regarding my grandson. I only get to speak to his wife.
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@msiduri (5757)
• United States
23 Mar 16
@ElusiveButterfly Ah. That must be rough then. And I can understand how brokenhearted you are.
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• United States
23 Mar 16
@msiduri She still hasn't given me any reason for not letting him have the tablet. All I can say is that he will be of legal age soon and can make his own decisions.
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
21 Mar 16
That is very sad for you. She seems very difficult to get along with.
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• United States
21 Mar 16
I have never met the woman. I have only talked with her on the phone. Hoping that one day I can meet her face to face. She will probably be very judgemental, because I get that vibe from her.
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
21 Mar 16
@ElusiveButterfly She doesn't seem a very pleasant person at all. Hopefully when your grandson is older he can make his own decisions about contact with you.
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• United States
21 Mar 16
@JudyEv I can only hope and pray that he will.
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@Jessicalynnt (47790)
• Centralia, Missouri
20 Mar 16
the step mother is controlling everything, and who knows if those things are even true or not, and I have a feeling they are not.
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• United States
20 Mar 16
I just wish she would talk to me and let me know wtf is really going on.
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• Centralia, Missouri
21 Mar 16
@ElusiveButterfly she prob wouldnt even if you were there to ask
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• United States
21 Mar 16
@Jessicalynnt, I don't know the woman well enough to know for sure. Still irritates the heck out of me.
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@rina110383 (24145)
20 Mar 16
She's one mean stepmom that needs some good amount of slapping
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• United States
20 Mar 16
I would like a better reason for not giving it to him. Slapping is not the answer though.
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@PainsOnSlate (20081)
• Canada
20 Mar 16
I feel sorry for your grandson and you, the mother sounds like a witch. There is nothing yo can do about it but send a gift card next time.
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• United States
20 Mar 16
I usually send gift cards at Christmas to my grandson and his two siblings. They are not my grandchildren, but it is Christmas and I feel it is the right thing to do. On his birthday I wanted to give him something that was well thought out and not an impersonal gift card. But, I guess until he is old enough to make his own choices, I will have to send gift cards.
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@marlina (71226)
• Canada
20 Mar 16
What an awful stepmother! I understand how you can be so upset.
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• United States
20 Mar 16
I am heartbroken that she couldn't even take the time to hand him the phone.
@jstory07 (65304)
• Roseburg, Oregon
20 Mar 16
She is trying to keep you out of the picture. Which hurts your grandson.
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• United States
20 Mar 16
That is becoming clear Judy. He will one day be 18 and can make his own decisions. Hopefully they have not tainted his young mind.