Difficult decisions

@Angel_15 (670)
Manila, Philippines
April 2, 2016 3:18am CST
My husband has found an opportunity to work in a different country. He will be earning much more than what he makes here. The only problem is that it will take maybe a year before he can take me and our daughter there with him. I have mixed emotions about this. I'm happy for this opportunity, but I'm also sad because we will be separated. I know that it's easier now to keep in touch and to feel connected even if we are physically separated, and I trust my husband to do the right thing even if we are apart, so I am taking my chance and allowing my husband to take this job. It would give our whole family a chance for a better life. Have you ever had to make a difficult and life-changing decision? How did you handle it?
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Toni
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
2 Apr 16
Three years ago I decided to go to Bangkok and lived there for 6 months. It wasn't because I was looking for a greener pasture. We were living comfortably here. However, I was having some personal problems that could only be resolved if I take a break and be out of the country for awhile. It was difficult to leave my son and my husband, but my husband understood me. When I came home, I was finally at peace and now life is going smoothly and I no longer have nightmares.
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Toni
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
2 Apr 16
@Angel_15 It hasn't for three years now. Thanks.
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Angel_15
@Angel_15 (670)
• Manila, Philippines
2 Apr 16
@toniganzon I'm glad to hear that.
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Angel_15
@Angel_15 (670)
• Manila, Philippines
2 Apr 16
I'm glad that everything is well with you now. Whatever gave you those nightmares, I hope it doesn't bother you again.
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maezee
@maezee (41997)
• United States
2 Apr 16
Wow! That seems like an incredibly difficult decision. I have never been put in thatvsituation but I can imagine being a year without your husband and THEN having to uproot your entire family and life. Yikes. You will have to keep us posted.
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maezee
@maezee (41997)
• United States
2 Apr 16
@Angel_15 you are right. I am on my own and that would be a hard enough decision just for myself!
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Angel_15
@Angel_15 (670)
• Manila, Philippines
2 Apr 16
We have to make this difficult decision because life here is very hard. Lucky for you that you don't have to make this kind of decision. I'll keep everyone posted.
scheng1
@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
4 Apr 16
Have your husband done his homework about the foreign country? How much is the rent? How high is the income tax? Will he even save up enough to get a place for you and your daughter?
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Angel_15
@Angel_15 (670)
• Manila, Philippines
4 Apr 16
I think he'll be able to. He has friends who have the same job and they're managing well.
hereandthere
@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
2 Apr 16
it's understandable, but it's only one year. as long as you always keep in touch and stay busy, it will pass.
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Angel_15
@Angel_15 (670)
• Manila, Philippines
2 Apr 16
I hope that if we stay focused on what we need to achieve 1 year will pass quickly.
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Jabo
@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
2 Apr 16
The same thing happened to our family when our children were small, but it was only 3 months before we could join him.
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Angel_15
@Angel_15 (670)
• Manila, Philippines
2 Apr 16
Compared to a year, I think 3 months is a short time. There's a chance that we won't need a whole year to be reunited, and I will keep on hoping that will happen.
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Danty D
@DaintyD (1101)
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2 Apr 16
Well this is incredible, congratulations to your husband and fair play to you for being so strong too. A year will quickly pass and your be reunited again. It sounds like it's worth it as your have a much better life in the long run. I wish you all of the best.
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Angel_15
@Angel_15 (670)
• Manila, Philippines
2 Apr 16
I sure do hope that it will all be worth it.
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Danty D
@DaintyD (1101)
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2 Apr 16
@Angel_15 Best of luck to you and your family
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