Why Do So Many People Think It Is Alright To Lie To Writers

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Preston, England
April 11, 2016 6:12am CST
I am getting seriously sick of petty-minded cruel insensitive lazy, lying morons who promise to read, print or stage my work or create and offer me performance opportunities without really having any intention of doing so. Recently I have had publishers sit on submissions in perpetuity instead of accepting or rejecting them at all, newsletter editors request features from me only to then run their publications as if no communications were ever exchanged from themselves to me and vice-versa way ahead of deadlines, cabaret organizers discussing shows with me in some detail and then ‘forgetting’ to add me to the performance lists and theatre managers promising to stage my shows and even offering me dates for them without actually reading my scripts, offering casting calls or telling the public about them. Various friends ask me if they can look at some of my bigger projects in progress and offer constructive feedback only to then be permanently too busy to look at the work just now. If you are a publisher or editor and someone sends you work, especially if you asked for it however casually, you are morally duty bound to read it. If you can’t use it or dislike it, say so to the author honestly rather than teasing their hopes and dreams by maintaining a promise to use it later rather than letting them send it elsewhere. If you are just a friend with some writing experience of your own, you should know better than to dupe fellow writers and performers with promises of a look at their work if you are unwilling or unable to put such promises into practice. Such unprofessional time-wasters are just using air the rest of humanity could be breathing. Arthur Chappell
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@CoralLevang (16256)
• United States
12 Apr 16
Like @ElizabethWallace , I don't think it's worse today, but I do think that some of us are more conscious of it that we used to be. But we cannot ignore the fact that many today are not willing to hear directness, either. We are so afraid to hurt someone's feelings, so many don't speak candidly anymore. I'm sorry that you are experiencing the frustrations that go along with this, and wish they were more forthright with you, no matter the answers.
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• United States
12 Apr 16
Probably true. It was a mistake when society here started giving out awards to everyone, despite how well they performed. It sends an inaccurate message about life.
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@puddleglum (1435)
• United States
11 Apr 16
I read somewhere that the current generation has an unprecedented disinclination to say, "No." The alternative, it seems, is to say "Yes" or some other affirmative, when there's no intent to actually act. Whatever the reason, I understand your frustration.
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• Preston, England
11 Apr 16
they should realise their real intent is going to come to light in the end @puddleglum
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• United States
11 Apr 16
@arthurchappell This would require them to think things through, but they are unwilling to put this much effort into something that does not revolve around them.
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• United States
11 Apr 16
@arthurchappell Very true.
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@Ronrybs (6938)
• London, England
11 Apr 16
Not just writers, there seems to be a bit of a culture to less than truthful. Then they wonder why you have no time for them when they need help
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• Preston, England
11 Apr 16
exactly, they seem to want you to just shrug and accept it as just one of those things rather than a major breach of your trust @Ronrybs
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@Ronrybs (6938)
• London, England
11 Apr 16
@arthurchappell It is a pretty poor attempt to manipulate you
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• Preston, England
11 Apr 16
@Ronrybs yes pretty much that
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• United States
11 Apr 16
A certain percentage of humanity sucks. This is true across the board. This means, of course, that you will run into publishers, editors, stage managers and even friends that suck. Such is life. Sorry.
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• Preston, England
11 Apr 16
@ElizabethWallace it seems to happen more these days than before
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• United States
12 Apr 16
@arthurchappell I don't really think so. I think our tolerance for the baloney has disappeared. We're all just sick of it.
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@Drosophila (16774)
• Ireland
11 Apr 16
I guess they just hope you will go away instead.. .
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• Preston, England
12 Apr 16
in some cases they will get their wish @Drosophila
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• United States
12 Apr 16
big hugs! 'tis a most frustratin' business these days.
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@Jessicalynnt (47895)
• Centralia, Missouri
11 Apr 16
I dont understand why people cant just say, sorry cant use this, or sorry we went another route. Same thing with jobs, how is it that hard to simply say, sorry we hired someone else!
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@Vjvals (939)
• Roseville, California
11 Apr 16
Moral and duty, those have become dirty words and practices, sad
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@irishidid (8524)
• United States
11 Apr 16
I couldn't agree more.
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