My son is a problem / myLot

United States

May 3, 2016 9:32am CST

I have a grown son, who can be sweet, recently gave me 100 bucks to put toward my car repairs,,but is always hurting my feelings. He told me a few weeks ago he would come here for mother's day, then said oh I thought it was the next weekend..sure..! I said well maybe I will come up there, and he said, oh I might be hanging out with Jenn) (his girlfriend)...She is not his mother! and he never wants me around her,, anyway,,he insulted my house..and keeps bugging me about selling it..even though I told him I need some help to get it ready..and keeps telling me I should go back with his step dad..my former husband..even though I have made that clear I don't want to do that. I just don't know what to do about him. I would just withdraw totally...but I dont want a total estrangement.and from what I know..distance makes it worse..I just want a normal relationship...even if I try to stick to neutral topics..he brings up going back with his stepdad. I feel like Rodney Dangerfield...I don't get no respect! Anybody else have a problem child or am I the only one cursed in this way?

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minisam

@miniam (9154)

• Bern, Switzerland

3 May 16

I dont see him as a problem child, he`s a grown up and there is nothing wrong choosing to spend mother`s day with his girlfriend.Sure any day everyday is special so do not look at not spending time on mothers day as a be all end all. He`s grown up, let him make his choices otherwise you`ll be a controlling,needy mum(in his opinion) Try to give him some space,welcome him when he comes any day not on a specific day.Why does he insist you get back with your X? does he feel you might give him some space if you were not alone? Just my opinion

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snowy

@snowy22315 (170592)

• United States

3 May 16

ok well, in our family mothers days were always spent with my grandmothers. I would spend mothers day with my mom if I was nearby. I don't think it has anything to do with being controlling or needy. It is not like I call him every week and ask him to do things for me...It isn't like that at all! I guess you are right.the day isnt sacred...but other people spend the day with their mother...I already didn't see him for Easter...I mean would it kill him?? really??

snowy

@snowy22315 (170592)

• United States

3 May 16

@snowy22315 I think he thinks he wouldnt have to worry about me, if I was with the ex...but I have had it with the ex quite frankly, reason he is an ex!