I am Hoping She Remembers

United States
May 8, 2016 8:37pm CST
My sister and I ventured out together to do a little shopping. She had yet to purchase a gift for our Mother for Mother's Day. I, for the first time in years, had already found a couple of gifts for Mom. But, I didn't have gift wrap or a bag to put them in. Sis decided that she would get Mom some diabetic candy and later on get her some new shoes. We stopped at the Dollar Tree to find inexpensive gift bags and of course whatever else caught our eye. My sister needed to buy Mom a card. The sugar free candy was not to her liking so she passed that up. We decided to go to Kmart to see if there were any sneakers or soft shoes that Mom would like. It took us a good half hour to find suitable shoes for her. Mom is fussy about her footwear. My sister was able to find 2 pair of comfortable cloth slipons at very reasonable prices too. When we arrived at the community care home where our Mother resides we sat for a few minutes and caught up with each other. We hadn't seen each other in month. My brother and his wife pulled up beside us. They said they picked up Mom a pair of comfortable shoes too. Mom was waiting in the community room watching television along with a couple of the residents. Her face lit up when she saw the 4 of us heading down the hallway. She loved the pink camo mug that said #1 Mom on the front and the nightgown that my husband and I gave her. She was more delighted with the mug. Of course she also loved the new shoes. Now she has a selection of styles and colors to choose from. I had placed our gifts in a bag with butterflies on it. It is a reusable bag so she can keep it for other things. She once knew that butterflies are my thing. Gave me gifts with butterflies on them on most every occasion. Now, I am uncertain that she will remember who gave her the gifts. She didn't remember that I am the butterfly fanatic. Alzheimer's is such a cruel disease.
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@Susan2015 (22191)
• United States
9 May 16
At least she was so happy to see you all. It is such a horrible disease and hope they find a treatment for it.
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• United States
9 May 16
She was delighted to see us all. It was after lunch time and she was ready for her nap. But, she stayed up and visited with us for a short time.
@Jessicalynnt (47879)
• Centralia, Missouri
9 May 16
it really is, it robs of dignity, I wonder if it's not worse than cancer, to have the mind betray
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• United States
9 May 16
For many forms of cancer there are treatments that can cure. There is no cure for Alzheimer's.
1 person likes this
• Centralia, Missouri
10 May 16
@ElusiveButterfly I know they are finding more things to slow down the progress of, but that feels like a bandaid over a bullet hole to me, better than nothing,but not much
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• Centralia, Missouri
11 May 16
@ElusiveButterfly pretty much, that stuff isn't a fix, maybe someday there will be one, but not soon enough for many
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@mom210 (6867)
• Atlanta, Georgia
9 May 16
It is a terrible disease, the family is handling it with such love and warmth though. She is so lucky to have you all.
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• United States
9 May 16
I work in the field of healthcare. I have seen the good, bad and the ugly of this disease. Breaks my heart to see my mother go though this.
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@Teep11 (7282)
• United States
9 May 16
What a special gift. A smile on your mom's face when she received visitation from her family. Alzheimer's is disturbing. Watching a loved one go through such a debilitating disease is difficult.
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• United States
9 May 16
We take each day. Hoping and praying the better days outweigh the bad.
@GardenGerty (105408)
• United States
9 May 16
It is very hard, but it does sound like she is happy in her community care home.
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• United States
9 May 16
There was a time when she was extremely unhappy with being there. Now she seems to be comfortable with her little room.
@sugartoes (43842)
• Greencastle, Indiana
9 May 16
awe that sounds so sweet to get her the gifts she so loves it's not what she remembers it's the thought behind it & always know she will always love you all for everything you do for her that's LOVE.
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• United States
9 May 16
Mom has been starting to show signs of memory loss again. Sadly, I know she won't remember that we brought her gifts. I can only hope that she will remember we were there.
@jstory07 (72386)
• Roseburg, Oregon
9 May 16
I am glad that your Mom liked everything that you got her.
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• United States
9 May 16
She was pleased.