This WAR with my STEP sister

Canada
May 12, 2016 7:01pm CST
This WAR with my STEP sister is taking a toll on me emotionally and physically as well. The only thing that keeps me from slapping her face is the level of love and respect i have for my step mom. It's no easy task to deal with me alone but to stand by my dad the way she has and continues to do through everything, the dedication and love and devotion she has for him is admirable. The sting of my hand or my step sister's face would be nothing compared to the sting of my step mom's heart should i physically slap my step sister. but all the while i am seething and struggling with myself not wanting to be the better person for once, not wanting to turn the other cheek, not wanting to be the good or perfect daughter. for once i wish and want to just say forget the consequences of my choices and actions but i will probably be the good daughter as i always am. *sigh*
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@sol_cee (38222)
• Philippines
13 May 16
If there were two stepsisters and the stepmom was terrible, I would think you are the feisty version of Cinderella.
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• Canada
13 May 16
lol well i wish i was cinderella she had the voice of an angel i can't carry a tune in a bucket lol. She was friends with all the woodland creatures , i'd be trying to bash a mouse with a shovel or run screaming lol But i did find my prince charming when i married my husband.
@sol_cee (38222)
• Philippines
13 May 16
@MRS_Taylor no seven dwarves?
• Canada
13 May 16
@sol_cee hahah nope they refuse to have anything to do with me because i am shorter than them :P
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
13 May 16
good for you sla pping her would only gveyu temporary relief so refraining from it not to hrt yur step mom is being a good perso n and whats wrong wqt beibfga good person really
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
13 May 16
@MRS_Taylor yes you are doing right and I too try to remember that giving in to be violent will only hurt m e
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• Canada
13 May 16
the worst part is i have such a soft heart that if i did physically lash out at my step sister i would only end up hurting myself in the process. I'm not a violent person i always do my best to maintain my temper cause it can be lethal when unleashed i tend to black out if pushed too far. But honestly the idea of her in tears holding her smartly stinging cheek doesn't make me smile or feel good honestly it makes me want to cry and then knowing i caused that would only make me cry harder. then i'm still no further ahead and mad at myself to boot
@marguicha (215808)
• Chile
13 May 16
Do you all live in the same house?
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@marguicha (215808)
• Chile
13 May 16
@MRS_Taylor Then donĀ“t mind her too much! She is probably happy to bother you.
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• Canada
13 May 16
no i live with my husband and my step sister lives with our parents.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
13 May 16
I admire your self-control and your love for your step mom. Because if it were me, I wouldn't 'have only slap her, I would have dragged her out of the house by pulling her hair.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
13 May 16
@MRS_Taylor and she deserved that
• Canada
13 May 16
oh i have sent some nasty messages to her, i told her she spends time in the chapel cause it is the only place socially acceptable to be on her knees, i've told her she's such a glutten for attention she probably posts her own phone number on the bathroom stalls for a good time.
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@Teep11 (7674)
• United States
13 May 16
It takes a lot of patience and control to deal with someone's issues. A lot of step sisters and step parents don't get along and if th there's a way to come to some sort of compromise then it should occur but it could be difficult for all involved.
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• Canada
13 May 16
the truth of the matter is i am so hurt more than angry. i feel betrayed to the highest level. she is my step sister yes but i embraced her as my full sister and my best friend. i constantly defended her and claimed she was naive or had never really had anyone to show they loved and cared, she just needed someone to show kindness. we even had matching necklaces that said best friends. i was so excited to have a sister. we could share clothes and everything. it was like being a teenager all over again. and then poof slap. but i will most likely continue to sulk and be hurt and angry but will probably never put my hands on her because my step mom has a heart condition as well so i would never want to do anything to hurt her even if she was healthy. I love my step mom she is an angel as far as i am concerned.
@NJChicaa (116125)
• United States
13 May 16
Good for you for being the better person. It doesn't always feel good to do that but it is the right thing to do and is the right thing for your dad and your step mom.
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• Canada
13 May 16
i get so fed up of being the "better person" sometimes. sometimes it feels like those words are a more polite politically correct way of saying Door Mat.