~You Want To Be Grown You Better Act Grown~

l'@LovingMyBabies yes you can only do so much then t hey get so d ep[edant that they do not ever try

@Hatley Exactly, she needs to get her act together or she will have to depend on others the rest of her life.

@Hatley Yeah that is where she's at and we just had a talk about it. She got home a little bit ago and I told her she is not going to sit here and do nothing. She better either be going to school or get a job. And I told her also that every action has a consequence.

@miniam Yes she is. And it's not going to work much longer around here...

@miniam Yeah some people you just cannot help.

@LovingMyBabies This l can understand very well, l know you have tried but some things just dont work.

@celticeagle Yeah I never thought I would have to worry about taking care of a teenager until mine were teens-apparently I was wrong!

@LovingMyBabies ....You are not usually so intense. I think maybe it would help to give her some freedom, maybe tell her that if you take care of your responsibilities you can go until whatever her curfew would be with the prevision that you mean the people first. And, of course, if she doesn't then she doesn't go again and she should know that the police could be called. Always consequences if she doesn't meet her side of the deal. If she wants to go at all she will start doing what she is supposed to and acting appropriately. Kids have to have something as goal for their good behavior. If they don't see something coming for them then they won't do what they are supposed to. And, I would just put it in her ball park. She can't blame you, you gave her what she wants. But, she is a member of a household and a family and you don't have to give her anything but food and shelter. All the other stuff is frosting on the cake. If she doesn't pull her weight she doesn't get to do any fun stuff. It's a power struggle but this way it is up to her.Sure you can go, within reason, but these are the rules and this is what you are responsible for before you get to. Up to her. Sorry. Not telling you what to do by any means. Just a grandma that has been through this more than once.

@Marty1 Thanks, she has been a tough one...And I agree she is not mature enough to be out all night long. She can't even take care of her pets-my kids end up doing it which is going to stop! I am sick of it.

@Vjvals Yes it is a LOT to handle! But I keep trying.

@softbabe44 Yup, she thinks she knows everything but she's about to find out how much she really doesn't have a clue.

@DianneN You would think so but not this one!

@LovingMyBabies What a shame.

@LovingMyBabies There are people with a mental illness that work and do ago of job I agree with you she should be out on her own.

@Marcyaz She was using her "mental illness" as an excuse why she couldn't work. That's not going to fly anymore. If your "sane" enough to be disrespectful and argue with an adult then your "sane" enough to get a job and get on your feet!

@jstory07 It is most definitely time for her to grow up I agree!

@marlina Yes she does...a dad that doesn't want her with him because of her stepmother. Things are going to hit the fan soon enough I am sure.

@Daljinder Yeah-thanks! Lol. Not fun at all.