Behavior Chart

@Jdaw1985 (4026)
Harrells, North Carolina
May 31, 2016 2:56pm CST
I just got my middle child into therapy last week. Well last week we pretty much went over everything that I had concerns about. And yes there was a lot of things on that list. We went today and the lady had us make a chart. She only had us put 2 things on the chart to work on first. She asked how many times he does these things in a days time. I have never stopped and counted them LOL. So we decided to put 10 a day. So she wants me to keep up with it every day. If he does these things less then 10 times a day then she says for him to get something special. Then come up with some thing big for the end of the month. My hubby asked so she is wanted to bribe the boy to do right. I told him no but I wanted to ask what everyone else thinks. Do you think that it is bribing him to do right?
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@melissa1024 (2338)
• Beckley, West Virginia
31 May 16
Mine is in therapy and they suggested that. It has helped. Also a behavior chart for everytime she exhibits good behavior you put a sticker on what behavior she was good in,and a chore chart for each chore completed correctly she gets a sticker at the end of the week if she has done well she gets a treat. It has helped.
@Jdaw1985 (4026)
• Harrells, North Carolina
1 Jun 16
Ok thanks I am glad to know that someone else has done it and is telling me that it works other then her.
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• Beckley, West Virginia
1 Jun 16
@Jdaw1985 If you remain consistant and reward it can. Also everytime he does something good give him lots of praise. A lot of it working also depends on the child.
@Jdaw1985 (4026)
• Harrells, North Carolina
3 Jun 16
@melissa1024 under stand that but the things that is on his chart are really hard to praise him for.
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@just4him (82325)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
31 May 16
In a way it is because he'll expect something every time he does what he's supposed to. I've heard praise works great and builds self esteem.
@Jdaw1985 (4026)
• Harrells, North Carolina
31 May 16
I am hoping that it works that is for sure.
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@just4him (82325)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
31 May 16
@Jdaw1985 I hope whatever you do works and doesn't make him think that if he behaves like he's supposed to he'll get a treat for being good. I did that for my dog, not my children.
@Jdaw1985 (4026)
• Harrells, North Carolina
31 May 16
@just4him Yeah and we have so many more things that need to be worked on as well.
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@CRK109 (14409)
• United States
1 Jun 16
I'm not sure I'd call it bribing. He's being rewarded for doing the right thing. It's the same thing as being punished for doing something wrong, but in reverse. It's how people at work get raises! Same idea.
@Jdaw1985 (4026)
• Harrells, North Carolina
1 Jun 16
I did not think about the work part of it but you are right.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
31 May 16
It is more of a positive reinforcement in my opinion, I think it's a good way to do things. Of course it has to be up to you though since your his mom.
@Jdaw1985 (4026)
• Harrells, North Carolina
1 Jun 16
Yeah I asked him some ideas of things he would want and all he would say is a DS but that is not happening yet LOL.
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@quantum2020 (8158)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
31 May 16
Maybe the right word is not bribing but stimulating him. When I was a child, my mother used to tell me she was going to give me this or that for following the rules. It worked positively in my case, I think.
@Jdaw1985 (4026)
• Harrells, North Carolina
1 Jun 16
Yeah I think you are right thank you.
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@irishidid (8116)
• United States
31 May 16
Well I guess if it works to change behavior. Are these things that he has control over or is that a reason he does these things?
@Jdaw1985 (4026)
• Harrells, North Carolina
31 May 16
They are things that he has control over.
@jaboUK (48827)
• United Kingdom
31 May 16
No I don't think it's bribing - a bribe is given beforehand to ensure a certain course of action. A reward is given afterwards, when someone deserves it. So your son will be being rewarded for good behaviour.
@Jdaw1985 (4026)
• Harrells, North Carolina
31 May 16
That is what I was thinking. I just hope that it helps LOL.
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