People Tell me Things
By Jo Ann
June 27, 2016 6:56pm CST
People tell me the strangest things. Today a guy came over and told me that he and his wife really aren't married because he never divorced the first woman. He also told me that they sleep in the same bed but don't have intimate relations. I have only just met these people and don't know why he would tell me that. I wonder if she knows he is saying these things. Then a woman came over and told me that this guy had a gun and she was afraid he was going to kill her. She had a fight with the guy's wife a couple years before she died. Why do people tell me things like this? I never know what to say. Anyone got a secret they want to tell me?
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28 Jun 16
Because of my vocation ppl tell me things, but to some extent, that is somewhat normal and in context...still sometimes, there are things which ppl say that I have no idea how to respond to-sometimes it is an issue of ppl having mental illness, but sometimes it is just life taking odd twists-I learnt to deal with things with a certain manner of tact but also prayer-I pray even before the most informal of or seemingly least important of meetings.
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28 Jun 16
I am careful not to take sides on an issue. I realize I am only hearing one side of the story. Others involved might have a different slant to their stories. I also usually don't give advice, just listen. I should do more praying about stuff. I can't fix it but I know the one who can.
28 Jun 16
I agree with others, there must be something about you that makes people feel at ease to talk to you about things they most likely wound't tell their close friends and family. It could be empathy as well. That is the one thing I struggle with, empathy. I try to understand how others feel but it's hard when they talk to me about the same problems they have previously told me six months or a year ago. I have to bite my tongue because I want to tell them they are in control of their life, feelings, etc. and they don't want to change it. I have to remember some people may not know how to change whatever the issue is or may be afraid of the outcome. Therefore, I usually just nod my head politely and don't give advice unless they ask for it.
1 Jul 16
@akalinus Sometimes that's all people need. They may feel that they have no one to turn to so they find kind people in the community and just have to tell someone. Not for advice, like you said, just for anyone to listen and acknowledge them.