People Tell me Things

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@akalinus (15096)
United States
June 27, 2016 6:56pm CST
People tell me the strangest things. Today a guy came over and told me that he and his wife really aren't married because he never divorced the first woman. He also told me that they sleep in the same bed but don't have intimate relations. I have only just met these people and don't know why he would tell me that. I wonder if she knows he is saying these things. Then a woman came over and told me that this guy had a gun and she was afraid he was going to kill her. She had a fight with the guy's wife a couple years before she died. Why do people tell me things like this? I never know what to say. Anyone got a secret they want to tell me?
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11 responses
• United States
28 Jun 16
Must be that they feel comfortable telling you these things. I have had conversations with people in grocery stores, elevators, at the mall where they tell me their life story in the span of 5 minutes.
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@akalinus (15096)
• United States
28 Jun 16
That happens to me, too. Sometimes, I get a life history in 15 minutes.
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• United States
28 Jun 16
@akalinus sometimes they will realize that they have told me more than they should and apologize. They say that I am so easy to talk to. Maybe we should charge for our services!
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@akalinus (15096)
• United States
28 Jun 16
@ElusiveButterfly Maybe! Been looking for a way to make more cash.
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@Corbin5 (103327)
• United States
28 Jun 16
You must have a look or manner about you that just draws people to confide in you. I am sure you wish that look or manner were not so appealing to those who want to reveal all.
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@akalinus (15096)
• United States
28 Jun 16
Maybe I look strange, so they confide in me with their strange tales.
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@DaddyEvil (24028)
• Aurora, Missouri
28 Jun 16
@akalinus Hey! I wanted to say that to you! No fair!
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@akalinus (15096)
• United States
28 Jun 16
@DaddyEvil You always make me laugh.
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@JudyEv (121546)
• Bunbury, Australia
28 Jun 16
Maybe you look like someone who won't tell tales. Strange isn't it? I would hate to have people telling me secrets.
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@akalinus (15096)
• United States
28 Jun 16
I try to keep people's secrets. At least, I never put names on the stories. I never go and gossip.
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@JudyEv (121546)
• Bunbury, Australia
28 Jun 16
@akalinus I never gossip either. I keep secrets forever.
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@LoriAMoore (4796)
• United States
28 Jun 16
My secret is that people tell me stuff too. We must have those faces that people trust.
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@akalinus (15096)
• United States
28 Jun 16
I'll tell you what I know if you tell me what you know.
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@tech40 (9262)
• Philippines
28 Jun 16
They want someone to listen, they dont know where or to whom they're going to release the stress inside of them
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@akalinus (15096)
• United States
28 Jun 16
Listening is good.
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• Canada
28 Jun 16
Because of my vocation ppl tell me things, but to some extent, that is somewhat normal and in context...still sometimes, there are things which ppl say that I have no idea how to respond to-sometimes it is an issue of ppl having mental illness, but sometimes it is just life taking odd twists-I learnt to deal with things with a certain manner of tact but also prayer-I pray even before the most informal of or seemingly least important of meetings.
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@akalinus (15096)
• United States
28 Jun 16
I am careful not to take sides on an issue. I realize I am only hearing one side of the story. Others involved might have a different slant to their stories. I also usually don't give advice, just listen. I should do more praying about stuff. I can't fix it but I know the one who can.
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@DaddyEvil (24028)
• Aurora, Missouri
28 Jun 16
I specifically ask you not to tell anyone I said that, Jo Ann! I simply can't believe you would tell my secrets like that!
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@akalinus (15096)
• United States
28 Jun 16
You mean I can't tell anybody about that time..........?
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@responsiveme (14712)
• India
28 Jun 16
You have the gift of empathy. I did guess that when I put it in my response to your post on heart of Mylot. And now I find ,I've hit the nail on the head
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@akalinus (15096)
• United States
28 Jun 16
Aww, thanks. That is sweet of you to say.
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@Simly_Me (51)
28 Jun 16
I agree with others, there must be something about you that makes people feel at ease to talk to you about things they most likely wound't tell their close friends and family. It could be empathy as well. That is the one thing I struggle with, empathy. I try to understand how others feel but it's hard when they talk to me about the same problems they have previously told me six months or a year ago. I have to bite my tongue because I want to tell them they are in control of their life, feelings, etc. and they don't want to change it. I have to remember some people may not know how to change whatever the issue is or may be afraid of the outcome. Therefore, I usually just nod my head politely and don't give advice unless they ask for it.
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@akalinus (15096)
• United States
1 Jul 16
I don't think most of them really want any advice. If I tell them to do something, it is "well, but..." I just think they want someone to listen and acknowledge them.
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1 Jul 16
@akalinus Sometimes that's all people need. They may feel that they have no one to turn to so they find kind people in the community and just have to tell someone. Not for advice, like you said, just for anyone to listen and acknowledge them.
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@akalinus (15096)
• United States
1 Jul 16
@Simly_Me Yes, it is sad in a way.
@shaggin (36676)
• United States
28 Jun 16
I am one of those people that for some reason people chose to tell me the weirdest things.
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@akalinus (15096)
• United States
1 Jul 16
Feels weird, doesn't it?
@shaggin (36676)
• United States
1 Jul 16
@akalinus Yes but it gives me interesting things to talk to others about being able to tell them what some weirdo came up to me and said hehe
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@jstory07 (66167)
• Roseburg, Oregon
30 Jun 16
People have always walked up to me and tell me strange things to. My husband said it is because I am a nice person. Maybe it is because you look like a nice person.
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