Do you ever hesitate to ask for help?

Because you are a stubborn girl! Too much like me at certain things. Dani, it's not easy to admit that we need help. It only makes us feel weaker, needy and useless. Like we aren't capable or strong enough to handle a problem. And especially for a person to whom people look up to and comes with their own problems. That person has even more hard time admitting to himself/ herself that he/ she needs help. So we avoid it, refuse to think about it or just bottle it up. Expressing that need of help is whole another level of struggle for that person. Hmm.... so you ARE avoiding anyone you feel comfortable talking with. So, Ms. I-am-a-burden, let me give you a new perspective, yeah? Do you think that those very people are blind and don't see the stress under the surface? They don't point it out or mention it because they don't want to bother you anymore than you already are. It takes effort, a LOT of effort to hold back the words that are on the tip of their tongue. Believe me if they could sequester you away from all this drama they will, in a heartbeat. But at the end of the day, it is your call and they wait for you to say something. Anything! Would you enjoy just sitting there unable to do anything and just waiting and waiting and waiting while someone you care for suffer? Especially when the person concerned has decided that they don't want to talk because they don't want to be a "burden"? What the heck? Dani partner! (exasperated sigh and groan) You consider them close and special because you see something in them. They are there for a reason, sweet girl! They stay because they can handle it. Honestly! If they hadn't run away by now, I don't think there is much worse you can do that will make them go away. They can handle it! You are so underestimating them and so undermining their love for you. And that's not fair! Just getting those words, feelings, thoughts out will lessen the burden you are putting on yourself. Call them, message them!!!

I often have your same thought when I need to ask for help. Maybe we always want to show our strong side and not look weak, we want to help others but not admit we're needy humans as well. Then, about the burden feeling, I guess it can also be caused by low self-esteem, or excessive esteem towards the person we'd like to ask help to.

I understand you because I feel that way, too. I feel like pouring all my emotions and feelings to someone is like passing the burden to them. But you know what, if a person is truly your friend, he or she can handle that. And most of the time that person would be the one to give you good advice and make you feel better. I've learned that by experience.

I understand what you mean - I keep things to myself too. I've noticed that you sometimes ask us for advice here, but that's different.

I keep things to myself because I know, they too have problems and just like me, they don't want to add up to other's burden or stress. I like keeping it to myself because I don't listen to others anyway. Sometimes, people who listen tend to give an unsolicited advice. With that, what I do is to just keep myself busy so that I have no time to think of my problems.

no one can better understand this then me because i have been in same situations for around a year.i had nice friends at that time....they helped a bit for some time , because they had fun doing it,they enjoyed at cost me....after that it became a bit difficult for them to handle the things related to me.then finally they were out of my life,and i also realised that most of the problems wre created by them..now i happy that i am not in contact with them

I live in such environment. so yes hesitant to ask for help.

@VivaLaDani13 yeah i often

If you ever want to talk about anything, you know how to reach me! I would never consider it a burden to talk to you! I've been worried about you these last couple of days!

Find someone whom you really trust in terms of things like this for you not to hesitate.

Over the last 8 years or so I've had really low times and found keeping it to myself made me feel worse so I burdened my family with my woes...made me feel better anyway I don't really keep things to myself but neither does my sis so it even out

I share with friends who have been with me forever. I can understand your problem, but things become easier if shared. Which doesn't mean telling the whole world but some special friends who would understand.

I just like that ... I think it's a matter of character. I do not think there's really nobody to tell, in reality I closed. Computer nobody knows me, I am more confident. Maybe it's your situation .. It is also related to your environment if your close friends and family.

Very true You are right