I have a couple of questions...

You know, I am starting to see some of the issues that made me want to leave myLot before. People reporting each other for NOTHING. I don't remember if I saw your discussion saying good night, but that is nothing anyone should be reporting. There are real spam problems and such, why are people picking on each other just for the heck of it? I don't know what you're missing, there are good morning and good night discussions all the time that are not removed, and there is nothing WRONG with them.

As far as a post goes, I am not sure exactly how long they should be. But I would have to assume that they should be a decent length. A one line post is really not a post at all. I believe that MyLot should be a place for meaningful content. Entertaining content and informative content. And there is the human side to things also. Like our personal life highs and lows. How we deal with things. Making a post like, "I just woke up, I am online now, getting things done, see you all later." Is not a post. It is a sentence. Maybe they don't like very short blurbs posted as a post. You can contact GoAskAlex the Admin They will help you with this, really. They are the best.

First of all, MyLot is a discussion forum. There are other places (such as Facebook, Twitter &c) where you can leave messages such as "Good night, I'm going to bed now" which are NOT discussion topics. You may well have seen other, similar posts. They may either have had more substance to them or they may have just been missed - with the best will in the world, Admin cannot review ALL posts in detail and he depends very much on the community to report posts which have no substance or which violate the Guidelines in other ways. Not all posts that get reported will be deleted, of course. You can mention a specific person in a discussion (or a response or comment) as long as the main purpose of the discussion is not to specifically address that person. That is best done through Private Messaging. What sort of 'personal things' are you referring to? If you want to address a particular person or group of people, it is usually more appropriate to use messgaes rather than the discussion forum, which is for general discussion.

Looks like you pretty well got the answers. I often mention @GardenGerty in my posts as well as comments. I've mentioned another too that had sent me the nail polish I was wearing in a photo on my post. I guess it probably would be best to ask that person if they mind a mention and a thank you publicly in a post.

I see that you have a comprehensive reply from Owlwings. I will just add that when I had a post deleted I asked GoAskAlice for the reason, and he told me. So that is what I suggest that you do as the rest of us would only be speculating.

There has to be more than a line, I think we can mention and thank people, but not a post just to one person, that should be in a message. goodnight posts are ok, but need to be longer, reflection of the day, hopes for the next day, something to give it more meat and start an actual discussion, that is my take on 1 and 2, dunno on 3.

Regarding the last two questions, it's generally acceptable to mention another member in a discussion. The exception to this would be discussions where you're writing the entire discussion just to that one member--things like that are best left to private message. Oh, and if you were to call someone out for something that you had a problem with, that wouldn't be allowed either. Alex has had more than his fill of dealing with personal disputes between members, so he's not tolerating that sort of stuff anymore. If you publicly thank someone in a discussion, there has to be more to it than just the thank you. So for example, several months ago Sharon mentioned this cleaner she uses that's just fantastic. I went and bought it, and agree that it's just as awesome as she said it was. I could "sneak" the thank you into my discussion about how the product magically removed all those stubborn carpet stains I spent hours scrubbing with other products. I couldn't just start a discussion to say "Thanks for suggesting that cleaner, Sharon! It's awesome!" Hope that helps a bit.

2. It depends on what they did, I guess. If it is something which happened in private, I bet it's better to ask that person first. But, common sense apart, the rules don't say anything about it. It is not allowed to post about birthdays, anniversaries or other milestones but it keeps on happening. I would feel sorry to report those discussions though, when much worse can happen. 3. As long as it isn't a cheating group and brings quality content to the site, I guess it's fine. Whenever your post hits one person and wasn't made for the whole community, that breaks the rules. Rule #9 New discussions directed towards only one or a small group of other members - You should use private messaging to chat back and forth with your myLot friends. Unfortunately I couldn't read your good night post, so I have no clue of what was wrong with it.

Number 1 is funny. They can say goodnight but I can't. Justice! lol