Wouldn't want to miss that!

United States
August 19, 2016 2:03pm CST
I am livid right now. Me and the hubby had plans to go out for a rare date night because my husband never gets weekend nights off and I work in the morning but have the night off. So we asked his dad if he would watch our son so we could go out for a few hours just the two of us. He agreed. We were ecstatic of course. Father-in-law calls up hubby today and tells us that he can't watch his flesh and blood because has to attend his girlfriend's friend's birthday party. They haven't even been dating a whole year and he's denied watching him quite a few time and left early on his 2nd birthday party to go to something for her! I really shouldn't be upset or surprised anymore by his actions. It just kills me that he's the only grandparent around. If my folks lived closer I know they'd have no problem watching their grandson. Some people really are so dam selfish. He's in his 60's, a grandfather to 4 grand kids that he barely sees, and is trying to party it up like he's in his 20's. I used to really love my father-in-law, but not so much lately. It makes me and my husband so sad that we really don't have much of a family here anymore and we don't have the most reliable of friends to babysit either or we would use that option. Moving is looking more and more desirable...
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11 responses
@Happy2BeMe (75408)
• Canada
19 Aug 16
I am sorry to hear this. You have every right to be disappointment and upset. I love taking care of my grandchildren when I am asked to take care of them I dropped everything. They are far more important to me then anything else. I am sorry that he keeps letting you down time and time again. :(
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• United States
19 Aug 16
Thank you. I'm at the point of just not bothering to ask him at all unless it's because 1 of us has to work. I am tired of being let down. :-(
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@MALUSE (44716)
• Uzbekistan
19 Aug 16
Good friends are often better than relatives.
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• United States
19 Aug 16
Most of the time yes.
@MALUSE (44716)
• Uzbekistan
19 Aug 16
@DanieGirl80587 Can't you organise something with other parents? Everybody wants to go out occasionally. You babysit for them, they babysit for you.
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• United States
19 Aug 16
@MALUSE I don't have a lot of friends that are parents sadly or I would.
@Corbin5 (119761)
• United States
19 Aug 16
My parents lived a mile away from their only grandchild, our son, and they never asked to see him. Good thing for our son since both were narcissists and cared about no one but themselves. Some families just are not the best.
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• United States
19 Aug 16
Agreed. Some kids are better off not knowing their families.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Aug 16
I absolutely know that feeling! Where my husband and I used to live we had my sister, we would trade babysitting for each other which worked out perfectly for us. Where we are now we have NO family and we both have trust issues with babysitters we don't know... We have 1 friend but she isn't reliable and changes plans the last second too. My husband and I were supposed to go out for our anniversary this year-she said she would watch the kids. 30 minutes before she cancels out of nowhere!! I was hysterically crying because it was the first time in 3 years we would have gotten to go on a date for our anniversary. =( I hope you and I both can find someone reliable soon so we can have time with our husbands. I wish you and I lived closer because THAT would be awesome!!
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• United States
19 Aug 16
Oh my goodness! I'd be crying too if it was on our anniversary! I'm so sorry that happened to you. Yes we both do need to find good people who won't charge an arm and a leg to watch the kids while we get to spend much needed alone time with our husbands. Glad someone feel my pain lol.
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@CinnamonGrl (6074)
• Paradise, California
19 Aug 16
That's a shame. I would love to have a grandchild. Sounds like maybe your father in law is in his second childhood, You don't happen to live in Butte County California do ou? LOL. My mother and I would babysit.
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• United States
19 Aug 16
Nope. Boring old south FL.
@GardenGerty (104272)
• United States
19 Aug 16
@DanieGirl80587 Maybe we should look around for myLot connections nearby to get acquainted with. I am in Kansas, unfortunately, and would give anything if my daughter and her kids were near. My son has tweenage step daughters who go to their other grandmother's for nights out.
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• United States
19 Aug 16
@GardenGerty A myLot community for young mothers to swap kids. Sounds like fun lol. Yeah we don't get out much cause we don't have too many reliable people to watch it. It's a bummer at times. :-(
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@inertia4 (27785)
• United States
19 Aug 16
Wow. Okay. I have a cousin that is like that. He is in his 60's and has no regard for no one but himself. He is always going somewhere, seeing some girl and whatever. I have no patients for people like that.
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• United States
19 Aug 16
Yeah he seems to party every night like he thinks he's young or something. That's fine and dandy when you have no one and no responsibilities. He has 4 very young grand kids and 2 adult sons that wouldn't mind seeing him more often. Oh well. Maybe he'll regret it when they get older and he missed out.
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@inertia4 (27785)
• United States
19 Aug 16
@DanieGirl80587 That is the problem. He probably never gave his own kids much time. And I believe it has to do with his generation also. They all seem to be flakey from the 60's.
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@LadyDuck (182874)
• Switzerland
20 Aug 16
I understand you so well, from the day my brother divorced is acting exactly like your father-in-law.
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• United States
20 Aug 16
Yeah he got divorced from my mother in law around the time we got hitched and he really hasn't been the same since sadly.
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@1creekgirl (12556)
• United States
19 Aug 16
I know you're disappointed, both that you couldn't enjoy a date night and that your father-in-law let you down. Without relatives, do you have friends at work or church who might trade some babysitting with you? Or maybe a teenager you trust? Best wishes!
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• United States
20 Aug 16
Thank you. We do have a couple of friends that help out sometimes and I really only have a handful of people I trust with my son. We don't belong to a church so no.
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@UncleJoe (11293)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
19 Aug 16
We love for our grandchildren to come and visit but we never babysit. Neither did our parents.
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• United States
19 Aug 16
Well that's your choice. I was always used to grandparents helping out their kids so they could get a night off.
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@GardenGerty (104272)
• United States
19 Aug 16
I am sorry that he is so disconnected from you guys. It is a shame. He may miss it when he is older. Meanwhile I do not know what to tell you about date night child care. I know some sitters specialize in that.
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• United States
19 Aug 16
I'm sure we could pay a fortune to hire a babysitter full time, but we're not going to lol. I'm sure we'll get another opportunity to get out with a more reliable babysitter.
@Hatley (164468)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Aug 16
thats sad but perhaps he is getting Alzheimer or senile dementia if so you would be better off getting someone more trustworthy as a baby sitter.
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• United States
19 Aug 16
No he doesn't have any type of illness. He just doesn't care. I am looking into someone else. I just don't trust very many people with my kid.
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