Let There Be Peace on Earth

@BelleStarr (37027)
Portland, Connecticut
August 25, 2016 8:56am CST
Is it just me or are things getting mean here on MyLot? This is a friendly site where you write something to get a discussion started. The idea is to interact, be friendly, make friends, be kind, get to know each other, not to be mean and critical. If you come across a post that makes no sense to you, then move on or report it. Don't get all mean with the writer. No one should ever feel like they are being attacked here. Has it happened to me? No, not in a long time but I am reading about it on other people's posts and I am seeing some comments on other's posts that are borderline mean. Funny, sarcastic, even inappropriate is fine but stop the critique. Most of us are adults and don't really appreciate unsolicited critical comments. If you have a helpful comment that will improve a user's experience, by all means share it but no one should be belittled or made to feel stupid because of their grammar, spelling or ideas. It just isn't right. It is time to nip this in the bud and get back to what makes this site unique and fun, friendly interaction. Nuff Said!! and as my mother always said " If you can't say something nice, don't say anything".
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@akalinus (14612)
• United States
25 Aug 16
I just read a discussion where the writer blasted "you people" for an imagined infraction of how he thought things should be. He called the responders childish and ignorant among other things. Maybe he was just having a bad day, but it rubbed most of us the wrong way.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
I haven't seen that post but I saw another one where the poster had obviously been hurt by critical comments.
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• Grand Junction, Colorado
25 Aug 16
I just ran across that discussion and left my 2 cents worth there!
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
@beaniefanatic13 II read your comment and you stated it all very well. Honestly I reported two of his comments to people, name calling is not allowed here.
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@Asylum (48282)
• Manchester, England
25 Aug 16
I have also read the post about this and feel the very same way, if you dislike a post then just leave it alone.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
Yes, it is disturbing that people are feeling that they can criticise another member. It needs to stop.
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@Asylum (48282)
• Manchester, England
25 Aug 16
@BelleStarr This type of harassment is unacceptable on any social site and needs to be reported.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
@Asylum I did just report two comments that had name calling in them and are way beyond what is acceptable.
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@sugartoes (39276)
• Greencastle, Indiana
25 Aug 16
AMEN I'm with you on all this that's a what this site is SUPPOSE to be is helping one another be kind to each other & looking out for one another other wise there's no point ion being here.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
Yes but some members have appointed themselves the judges of what is acceptable and it has gotten ugly. It needs to stop right now before it spreads Amen for sure.
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@Micmac (7701)
25 Aug 16
@BelleStarr That's right. Members should be considerate to others. It's not constructive to criticize writers or lecture them on how to write. Someone did that to me. I don't appreciate their rudeness.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
@Micmac No one would appreciate being condescended to. It is rude!!
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@CinnamonGrl (5740)
• Paradise, California
25 Aug 16
Sadly it seems there is no social site without some people being mean to others. I'm trying to just avoid those folks.And to avoid topics that have the potential to create meanness in me as well. I have always agreed with not chiding the writer. If they are new, I will explain why the post will likely be deleted.That kind of thing. But yeh I've seen people dressing each other down, it's a shame. I don't like the attacks either.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
It has been escalating lately and I don't know if it is because the site is growing but it is not a good trend.
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• Paradise, California
25 Aug 16
@BelleStarr No, it isn't for sure.
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@Tampa_girl7 (24896)
• United States
25 Aug 16
I totally agree. Mylot should be a fun place to spend time.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
It should be and no one should come on here and be made to feel bad.
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@akalinus (14612)
• United States
26 Aug 16
Absolutely. There are many discussions here. People can stay away from discussions that they don't like because there are plenty of other places to comment.
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@Hate2Iron (7663)
• Canada
25 Aug 16
I guess that I have been one of the lucky ones. I haven't met anyone mean yet!!
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
May it stay that way forever!! But unfortunately some people have decided they are the arbitrators of what is a good post and what is not.
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@akalinus (14612)
• United States
25 Aug 16
@BelleStarr They are all over the internet. You can't escape unless you give up technology.
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@TheHorse (62205)
• Pleasant Hill, California
26 Aug 16
Nor have I!
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• Eugene, Oregon
25 Aug 16
I have run across little of that on this site, but hope that it does not become common.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
26 Aug 16
I think it needs to be nipped in the bud before it spreads.
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@Genipher (5166)
• United States
26 Aug 16
@BelleStarr Like a disease!
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
26 Aug 16
@Genipher Exactly.
@TRBRocks420 (73797)
• Banks, Oregon
25 Aug 16
There are some people here, who all they ever post about is to complain about others and, if it's not that it's sarcastic posts, but I mostly just ignore them, as if they don't exist.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
Yes I try to keep away from any drama if it is possible.
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@tzwrites (4617)
• Romania
26 Aug 16
Ignoring them is the best solution in my opinion.
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@sol_cee (14333)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
25 Aug 16
Well some people here have their nose high up in the air.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
26 Aug 16
Yes I think many of us have felt that.
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@Genipher (5166)
• United States
26 Aug 16
It's not my fault I was born with a ski-sloped nose! *sniffsniff* Are you mocking my looks, @sol_cee? I'm just...so hurt by this comment.
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@sol_cee (14333)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
26 Aug 16
@Genipher humble brag. lol
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@hereandthere (28902)
• Philippines
25 Aug 16
i stay away for a while when i get disappointed at what i see here.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
I am sorry that you feel you have to stay away, you should never have to do that.
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• Philippines
25 Aug 16
@BelleStarr that's why i'm okay with my slow earnings here.
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@VidaVida (133)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
26 Aug 16
@hereandthere take it easy pal... Different people, different motives..
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@andriaperry (46378)
• United States
25 Aug 16
I have not had problems here, ever. But I have this one lady that had a blog on the same site I write for that is also a friend on facebook, she will message me and tell me HOW to space things properly, or that I misspelled a word, like its her business or that she is the sites owner. I do not want to be mean but I wished she would back off!
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
lol I didn't mean to do it!! lol I always apologize if I point out a spelling error and so it on a comment that can be deleted.
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@andriaperry (46378)
• United States
25 Aug 16
@BelleStarr LOL, well at least she does it privately but it still irks me, usually its a typo , like form and I intended to type from, nothing major that spell check would even detect.
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@rebelann (38891)
• El Paso, Texas
25 Aug 16
Thankfully I haven't run across anything like that and if I should happen to I would move on, it isn't worth worrying about although we can report comments if they are offensive. I haven't seen one that offends as yet, maybe I'm lucky I haven't.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
I am seeing them on other people's posts and it is surprising which members feel like they can make them.
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@rebelann (38891)
• El Paso, Texas
25 Aug 16
I rarely read other peoples comments unless it involves those limericks you guys like to make @BelleStarr too bad more people can't just keep it light and friendly.
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• United States
25 Aug 16
My parents always said the same thing. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all".
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
If only some members would take that advice to heart, things would be a lot more friendly around here.
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• United States
25 Aug 16
@BelleStarr I haven't seen it, just heard about it.
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@Corbin5 (99912)
• United States
25 Aug 16
Mom used to say the same thing to me. Some here must not have had that wise advice given to them. A shame.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
Or they didn't listen. lol Moms are pretty smart that way.
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@amadeo (61674)
• United States
25 Aug 16
Okay.I am not going to say anything
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
lol Your comments are always kinds and thoughful and welcome lol
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@acelawrites (10933)
• Philippines
25 Aug 16
It's a good advise; to ignore it if you do not like the post; that way, no one would be hurt; to make this place a really friendly one.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
we are all equal on this site and we should be friendly.
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• New Delhi, India
26 Aug 16
Somehow you are right but person like @DaddyEvil & @vandana7 can help us though in improving our grammar and spelling mistakes
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@vandana7 (62432)
• India
26 Aug 16
Count me out kiddo...I am here to learn not to teach..lol
• New Delhi, India
26 Aug 16
@vandana7 you are a teacher accept it or not quote byy @DaddyEvil
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@vandana7 (62432)
• India
26 Aug 16
@ModernDayWriter . About an year ago, DE used to be very good in English. His bad days started. I started following him. Now he tries to convey everything in my proprietary English as I can't always understand English as the native English speakers use. Effectively, he is learning my English but I have stopped learning their English. Did you understand?
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@jaboUK (53408)
• United Kingdom
25 Aug 16
Funny - that's what my mother used to say too. I've not come across any meanness Isabelle, and I hope I don't.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
25 Aug 16
Oh there was some very mean things said today, someone called ignorant for starters, not me but another member. I saw the comment myself.
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@jaboUK (53408)
• United Kingdom
25 Aug 16
@BelleStarr I went and hunted it out after I read some of the responses here, and you are right - it was quite nasty and completely unnecessary.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
26 Aug 16
@jaboUK I think that member needs to be spoken to by admin. This can't be allowed to flourish.
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@JudyEv (118802)
• Bunbury, Australia
26 Aug 16
Thankfully I haven't come across any of this although I've seen various comments and posts about it. This is a great site overall and we really don't want any nastiness spoiling it.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
26 Aug 16
I hope that admin will take some action, this member needs to understand that this will not be tolerated.
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@JudyEv (118802)
• Bunbury, Australia
26 Aug 16
@BelleStarr Hopefully he will get reported if he hasn't been already.
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
26 Aug 16
@JudyEv I did report the specific comments.
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@Genipher (5166)
• United States
26 Aug 16
I believe correcting grammar and spelling is against the rules here...
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@BelleStarr (37027)
• Portland, Connecticut
26 Aug 16
This particular case was way beyond that it was name calling. Members here help each other with their English and that is usually appreciated.
@Genipher (5166)
• United States
26 Aug 16
@BelleStarr Oh. I thought you mentioned someone getting harassed for their spelling and grammar. Even without the name-calling, it's against the rules.
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