Why are you talking to Anthony? He don't have a job.
@lookatdesktop (27129)
Dallas, Texas
August 28, 2016 7:04pm CST
Okay, so a guy I have known my entire life except for few years, tells my best friend, his older brother, that he don't need to be talking to me on the phone and my friend tells him on the other phone and I over hear it, "He's about the sanest person I ever knew."
So I ask him, "What was your brother saying about me that made you come back with that response?"
He thought quickly and finally came up with a clever come back. "If you really want to know, he said "Anthony ain't got no job."
So I know that ain't exactly what he said. He was on the other line and wanted his older brother to get off the phone with me so he could discuss business. Well, after my friend returned to the phone and apologized for his brother's rude statement I told him it was okay, although I was seething with anger at that moment.
He told me I should UNFRIEND HIM ON FACEBOOK. That would be too easy.
I have decided to stay friends on FACEBOOK anyway but not bother sending anything to his TMELINE. It's just because I don't want to be as ugly with him as he was towards me. Sure, I ain't got no job. But I am no lazy person. I manage to stay quite busy writing and doing the things I must to do keep our household in shape and look after my wife. My life, as to weather or not I have a job currently is nothing to the fact that his brother smokes pot and does other kinds of drugs and the only reason he hangs with my older brother is cause he can't do that around his wife.
Yea, he has a job. He makes good money but as a person, he lost a friend and don't even know it yet.
You see, I can read between the line, it's all because I have been diagnosed with a mood disorder that my best friend's brother don't want much to do with me except send pics of his headless torso to show off his biceps cause he was a teen age body builder at one time and still is struck on himself as if he were Mr. freeking universe.
So yea I had some time getting over the insulting words. Now at least I know why he has never come by in all these years. Now I know that the only reason he hangs with my older brother is cause my older brother thinks, he's his friend as long as he is supplying the smokes and such. Its about time I moved on with my life and never look back on some of my bad mistakes.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Aug 16
@lookatdesktop yes and they do it to hide their own feeling of no self worth
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
29 Aug 16
@Hatley So true but it doesn't stop the hurt.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
29 Aug 16
@lookatdesktop First of all I feel sorry for your pain. Look into this guys life, he is a loser. He is a person that gets satisfaction by hurting other people. You do not need that.
He wants you to feel sorry for him. What does he have that he thinks he is so great. I don't think anything because a grown man would not come out like this and act like a child.
I think he is jealous of you because you are managing and doing what is needed at home.
A true friend would never treat a friend like he is doing to you. Just take it as a warning and keep doing what you are doing to keep your life together.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Aug 16
Having a job or not having one should never be a reason someone doesn't like someone. What is wrong with some people? I'm sorry, I completely understand why the comment offended you.
My husband's uncle told his cousin not to talk to him because he no longer loans people money. My husband had to stop because his family has to come first-his wife and children.
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@vandana7 (98827)
• India
29 Aug 16
I agree but there is a qualification here.
1. I don't have a job, because there are no jobs for my skills set; Perfectly understandable provided the person is not sitting lazily in one corner;
2. I don't have a job, because I don't want to do a job and I haven't responsibilities to expect me to take up one. Here to it is understandable, provided the person is not sitting lazily in one corner;
3. I don't have a job, because I don't want to do a job but I have responsibilities. I am simply shirking responsibilities. This is a case I would not be able to understand.
I think Anthony is in the first category...it happens to all of us...
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
29 Aug 16
@vandana7 , Thank you so much for that, vanny.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
29 Aug 16
Family must come first in my case. My family is my wife and myself and I perfectly agree with the fact that people who use others often wear out their so called welcome.
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@vandana7 (98827)
• India
31 Aug 16
@lookatdesktop .. I can't understand those who just want to sit and watch telly or chat 24/7 on phone or social website...some occupation is mandatory...unless there are physical limitations of course.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
31 Aug 16
I can't sit around and do nothing all day. It's like, I get up and find something to do every day that is productive. Mainly I look after my beloved wife and never leave her side.
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.@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
31 Aug 16
Well said. I agree and appreciate you for this.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
29 Aug 16
a job or lack thereof is not the measure of a person, and matter of fact a pretty dumb way to judge someone
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
30 Aug 16
It is hard not to get angry over something like that, and comments that are rude. I think you did well. Yes, he is dumber than dirt and does not know a good man when he sees him.
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
31 Aug 16
@lookatdesktop he probably does, I'm sure my roomie's a-hole brother has some serious problems, but he isn't going to solve them at the bottom of a bottle of booze...
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
31 Aug 16
He has problems that may actually be far deeper than he will admit to anyone with that in mind I pitty him more than hold a grudge against him for his petty nature.
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@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
3 Sep 16
The guy clearly has issues. Good that you took the high road but let me tell you that you are better off without him in your life.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
3 Sep 16
I will remain neutral for the time being so as not to make waves. when your best friend's brother is down on your case it's hard to completely ignore the situation in some cases. But as far as Facebook is concerned. I can just unfollow the guy and just keep to my own business. Life is too darn short to mess with some people ya know.
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
29 Aug 16
So what if you do not have a job. That guy's comment is pure stupidity. I totally agree that having no job does not mean you are lazy. There are plenty of people who don't have that 9 to 5 job who I also know to be the hardest working people I know. He should shut his trap and dont go on judging people. He deserves to be unfriended on facebook. you should unfollow him at the very least
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
29 Aug 16
I have given it some serious thought.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
29 Aug 16
I agree that you should unfriend him as you are always going to be tempted to read what is on his facebook page and that will only upset you every time you do.
By unfriending him I think he will get a message that you unfriended him and that will tick him off more.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
31 Aug 16
Yea. you said it and I agree. Simply put, those who are likely to be judgmental towards their friends are probably also critical of their own family members so they should get a job in the court system. lol.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
30 Aug 16
People can be so ignorant Anthony.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
1 Sep 16
@lookatdesktop Yes sometimes it happens we just have to hear it and it is not nice. Avoiding the negative is much better I understand that Anthony. Wish I could too, but no choice right now.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
31 Aug 16
Sometimes I wish I never even knew things that people say about me. I would prefer to be blissfully unaware of the negatives.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
5 Sep 16
@lookatdesktop I totally agree with that. remember the old saying, "what you don't know, can't hurt you".
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
30 Aug 16
Yea, I have to cut my ties with some parts of my past anyway. It's time for me to move on with the rest of my life, both online and off line.
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@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
29 Aug 16
Okay, maybe I missed something here, Anthony... ??? (Please pardon me if I have made a mistake or am not understanding something the way other people might understand it... I had to take my pain meds tonight and I am confused right now. I am going to go ahead and ask my questions and state what I believe is correct, to me, at least. If I am wrong or misunderstanding, please just tell me that and delete my response. I prefer not to lose anyone else to the meds I have to take. Thanks!)
I don't understand what you not having a job signifies? Why should it matter to your friend if you are doing a job from 9 to 5 or not? (I know you work online, but am not sure what you do other than play on myLot.... )
As long as you and your wife manage to pay your bills, it shouldn't be anyone else's business whether you are working outside your home or not or who is friends with you, unless the friend is a minor... and then, yes, his or her parents might find it inappropriate for someone their child's age being friends with someone older than him/her by a good....... uhm... let's just say several years difference in age, shall we?
The person on the other line was out of line, in my opinion... It would have been better had he not said anything than what he did say.
I'm sorry you had to find out he wasn't really your friend that way. 
Although, honestly, I've never found a good way for someone to tell you they aren't your friend, either.
(Don't worry too hard about it... Some people aren't smart enough to understand how they blunder until it is too late to do anything about the blunder. 
)
Although, honestly, I've never found a good way for someone to tell you they aren't your friend, either. (Don't worry too hard about it... Some people aren't smart enough to understand how they blunder until it is too late to do anything about the blunder. )4 people like this
@suziecat7 (3350)
• Asheville, North Carolina
29 Aug 16
Words can hurt. Sorry this guy was such a jerk. People need to stop judging others and mind their own business.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
5 Sep 16
Yes. It's always like this. I hang out with my wife. I am in better company than any of those losers.
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@LeaPea2417 (36442)
• Toccoa, Georgia
29 Aug 16
He doesn't seem like the kind of person you should be friends with. He sounds cocky and arrogant.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
31 Aug 16
I knew him since 1963. He was one of my next door neighbors since we moved to Dallas.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
31 Aug 16
Yea, I manage to survive. It may not be the rich and glamorous style of life but it's my life and my wife's life and we both seem to do well together and get up every day with some amount of self assurance, optimism and appreciation of this life that God gave us.
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@shshiju (10342)
• Cochin, India
31 Aug 16
@lookatdesktop Yes that's the way of positive thinking. There is no copy book styles of living. We can choose our own style to live.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
31 Aug 16
@miniam They have to find ways to keep pumping themselves up. It is like this even in the world of big business and high finance. Not that I know anything about that junk.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
31 Aug 16
I plan on staying away from his life and live my own without being burdened by his 'I am better than you attitude' - which is old and getting older every day.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
31 Aug 16
@lookatdesktop
Agree,people who only want to put you down nomatter the reason are not worth keeping close.
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