My fiance's son is getting married in 3 weeks

@Happy2BeMe (75440)
Canada
September 16, 2016 10:33am CST
His son is 22 years old and my fiance just met him for the first time last summer. When his girlfriend at the time left him she was 8 months pregnant with their child. She moved half way across the country and even though he looked for her he couldn't find her. Shortly before they met she had a baby with her x husband that died tragically. She was never the same after that. She sent him a picture of their baby boy when he as born. The letter had no return address. He knew he had a son out there but he didn't know where he was. Over the years he thought of him often. When we got together he told he that he had a son and he told me the story. On Father's Day 2015 my fiance received a message from a young man on Facebook who told him that he thought that he may be his son. He asked if he knew his mom. My fiance knew it was his son without a doubt. He looked so much like him. He thought carefully about what he wanted to say and a few days later he sent the young man a message back. It was the beginning of what is now a wonderful father and son relationship. His son and his fiancee came down last summer and spent some time with us. It was quite the reunion. He said that he wanted his Dad at his wedding this year. He just recently started calling him Dad which I think is great. He is such a nice young man. Up until recently my fiance wasn't sure he wanted to go to the wedding. He didn't really want to see her again. They had so many unresolved issues and she had kept his son from him all those years. It was his decision whether he wanted to attend and I would support him in whatever he decided. The invitation arrived in the mail last week and when I handed to him he broke down in tears. He said he really wanted to be there. That he had missed out on every other important event in his son's life up until now and he didn't want to let him down again. So now here we are three weeks before the wedding trying to figure out how to make it happen. We don't have a lot of money and the wedding is half way across the country. I don't know if it will happen but if there is a way we will be there. I have been online trying to find cheap flights, hotels, etc. We have a beater of a car so I am not sure it would make the trip and I would hate to breakdown that far away from home. I would really like for him to be there to see his son, my soon to be stepson, getting married. Time will tell I guess!
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@marguicha (106141)
• Chile
16 Sep 16
I hope you can get there. It might be one of the most important events in your fianceĀ“s life.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
I am hoping everything will work out too. I would really like for him to be there. I know how much it would mean both of them.
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@marguicha (106141)
• Chile
16 Sep 16
@Happy2BeMe Distances are always a problem
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
@marguicha Yes they are. It would be okay if they lived closer.
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@tanvi99 (229)
• India
16 Sep 16
Its a tragic story
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
It is sad that he missed out on so much of his life but at least now they know each other.
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@tanvi99 (229)
• India
16 Sep 16
It would be vry difficult for you all right @Happy2BeMe
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• United States
16 Sep 16
I hope he will get to attend this special moment. Glad they got to reconnect!
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
Thank you! It will be a very emotional time if we get to be there!
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• United States
16 Sep 16
@Happy2BeMe I hope you guys will find a way! It is very expensive traveling!
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
@infatuatedbby Yes it certainly is.
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@dodo19 (34300)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
16 Sep 16
I really do hope you can make it work. I wish you the best of luck.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
Thank you very much! I hope so too! I see you are in Montreal so if we go we'll be passing through, I will wave on my way by! lol
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@dodo19 (34300)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
16 Sep 16
@Happy2BeMe lol. When you do I'll wave back at you guys.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
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@Corbin5 (122833)
• United States
16 Sep 16
I do hope this works out for you and your fiancee. It would be a momentous event.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
Thank you. I will keep you all updated as it gets closer.
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@Corbin5 (122833)
• United States
16 Sep 16
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• United States
16 Sep 16
Maybe a rental car? They are usually cheaper then flights but if you look every day you may just score! We sent my mom to my nephews graduation for $30 each way with spirit
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
Oh wow that is awesome. I will keep looking and see what I can find.
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• United States
17 Sep 16
@Happy2BeMe I really hope you guys find a way there!
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
17 Sep 16
@farbuoloxusy we are really going to try. Thanks
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@CinnamonGrl (6074)
• Paradise, California
16 Sep 16
I really hope you get to go. I had a troubled relationship with my daughter's biological father, but still I would NOT have kept them away from each other. Unless of course there was abuse or somehting, but obviously that was never the case. What a sad thing. I hope he gets to go see his son get married.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
It is very sad but at least now they can be in each other's lives. His son said from the time he was really little he always dreamed of the day he would finally meet his Dad so he was quite excited when he seen him on Facebook. His mom had given him a picture of his Dad that he carried around with him. It was an old picture but when he seen his picture on FB he knew it was him. My fiance was adopted when he was a year old but he has never met his biological parents.
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• Philippines
17 Sep 16
@Happy2BeMe i'm glad the mother gave father and son a picture of each other
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@DianneN (91959)
• United States
16 Sep 16
What a wonderful story! I hope you can both find a way to be there. I know I'd max out a credit card or get a loan if I had to. Let us know!
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
I will for sure.
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@sishy7 (27592)
• Australia
16 Sep 16
Beautiful family story... I hope everything will work out somehow...
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
Thank you!
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@paigea (22675)
• Canada
21 Sep 16
I am glad to read you will be going to the wedding.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
21 Sep 16
Thank you! I am glad that we could make it happen!
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@paigea (22675)
• Canada
21 Sep 16
@Happy2BeMe When we drive 13 or so hours to Winnipeg, I find a coue of gas stations to mystery shop. I'd do more but my husband limits how many times he is willing to stop.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
21 Sep 16
@paigea lol my fiance will probably be the same way. Once he gets on the road he will want to get there. I do like some of those little gas stations you can usually find some nice little treasures. Quebec has some nice will gift shops along the highway at all their little information stops but they will be all closed this time of year.
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@jaboUK (55158)
• United Kingdom
16 Sep 16
I really hope it happens. Would hiring a car be less expensive than flights? Whatever, it's wonderful that his son got in touch and they have been happy to get to know each other.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
It works out to about the same when you add the gas to it.
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• Philippines
17 Sep 16
@Happy2BeMe if you drove how many hours would it take? i guess you'd take turns driving?
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
17 Sep 16
@hereandthere approximately 13 hours. I am sure we could do it. Just need to get the time off work.
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@hereandthere (33393)
• Philippines
16 Sep 16
a wonderful real life story. i hope you make it. what did the son tell him about his mother? she probably knows he's invited.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
Yes the mother is well aware of him being invited. She didn't like the idea the he had planned to meet his Dad so he never told her until he got back. She said she knew that it would eventually happen and if that is what he wanted then she was okay with it. He doesn't see his mom often because she lives in a secluded place up in the mountains somewhere. He just said that growing up she moved from man to man so he never had a stable childhood. I guess she is still not really stable but she is his mom and he loves her. He left home at a very young age.
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• Philippines
16 Sep 16
@Happy2BeMe an amazing young man considering all that.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
@hereandthere Yes he is. I was very impressed when I met him and his wife to be is a beautiful young lady who comes from a good family. Her family just love him. They are a wonderful couple. Even though I am not married to his Dad yet I am still very proud to call this young man my step son.
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@Morleyhunt (19282)
• Canada
17 Sep 16
Where there is a will there is a way. If it is important you will find a way to make it happen. If it isn't important you will be able to make 1000 excuses why it couldn't be done. Three weeks doesn't give you much time.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
17 Sep 16
We were talking about it last night and we are pretty sure we can make it happen. It depends on his job, mine isn't a problem.
@Morleyhunt (19282)
• Canada
17 Sep 16
@Happy2BeMe good luck. Most employers are willing to work with you when it comes to family.
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@epiffanie (10447)
• Australia
18 Sep 16
It's good that they met and got on well .. That would be nice if you and your fiance can attend the wedding ..
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
18 Sep 16
We are going to do our best to make it happen.
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@EddieHands (37792)
• United States
17 Sep 16
Wow that sounds nice! Wedding time. I am getting hungry now. I ha have a wedding to go to next month.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
17 Sep 16
Awesome
@skysnap (18237)
16 Sep 16
all the best to his marriage and you guys have fun.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
Thank you!
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@amadeo (78512)
• United States
16 Sep 16
OH!you need to find a way to get there.Should not disappoint him.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
We are going to do everything we can to try and make it possible.
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@LoriAMoore (4675)
• United States
16 Sep 16
How exciting! It's a heartwarming tale for sure.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
16 Sep 16
Thank you! I am glad that everything worked out for the two of them and they were finally able to meet.
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