My fiance's son is getting married in 3 weeks
By Laurel (L_B)
September 16, 2016 10:33am CST
His son is 22 years old and my fiance just met him for the first time last summer. When his girlfriend at the time left him she was 8 months pregnant with their child. She moved half way across the country and even though he looked for her he couldn't find her. Shortly before they met she had a baby with her x husband that died tragically. She was never the same after that. She sent him a picture of their baby boy when he as born. The letter had no return address. He knew he had a son out there but he didn't know where he was. Over the years he thought of him often. When we got together he told he that he had a son and he told me the story. On Father's Day 2015 my fiance received a message from a young man on Facebook who told him that he thought that he may be his son. He asked if he knew his mom. My fiance knew it was his son without a doubt. He looked so much like him. He thought carefully about what he wanted to say and a few days later he sent the young man a message back. It was the beginning of what is now a wonderful father and son relationship. His son and his fiancee came down last summer and spent some time with us. It was quite the reunion. He said that he wanted his Dad at his wedding this year. He just recently started calling him Dad which I think is great. He is such a nice young man. Up until recently my fiance wasn't sure he wanted to go to the wedding. He didn't really want to see her again. They had so many unresolved issues and she had kept his son from him all those years. It was his decision whether he wanted to attend and I would support him in whatever he decided. The invitation arrived in the mail last week and when I handed to him he broke down in tears. He said he really wanted to be there. That he had missed out on every other important event in his son's life up until now and he didn't want to let him down again. So now here we are three weeks before the wedding trying to figure out how to make it happen. We don't have a lot of money and the wedding is half way across the country. I don't know if it will happen but if there is a way we will be there. I have been online trying to find cheap flights, hotels, etc. We have a beater of a car so I am not sure it would make the trip and I would hate to breakdown that far away from home. I would really like for him to be there to see his son, my soon to be stepson, getting married. Time will tell I guess!
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• Paradise, California
16 Sep 16
I really hope you get to go. I had a troubled relationship with my daughter's biological father, but still I would NOT have kept them away from each other. Unless of course there was abuse or somehting, but obviously that was never the case. What a sad thing. I hope he gets to go see his son get married.
16 Sep 16
It is very sad but at least now they can be in each other's lives. His son said from the time he was really little he always dreamed of the day he would finally meet his Dad so he was quite excited when he seen him on Facebook. His mom had given him a picture of his Dad that he carried around with him. It was an old picture but when he seen his picture on FB he knew it was him. My fiance was adopted when he was a year old but he has never met his biological parents.
21 Sep 16
@paigea lol my fiance will probably be the same way. Once he gets on the road he will want to get there. I do like some of those little gas stations you can usually find some nice little treasures. Quebec has some nice will gift shops along the highway at all their little information stops but they will be all closed this time of year.
16 Sep 16
Yes the mother is well aware of him being invited. She didn't like the idea the he had planned to meet his Dad so he never told her until he got back. She said she knew that it would eventually happen and if that is what he wanted then she was okay with it. He doesn't see his mom often because she lives in a secluded place up in the mountains somewhere. He just said that growing up she moved from man to man so he never had a stable childhood. I guess she is still not really stable but she is his mom and he loves her. He left home at a very young age.
16 Sep 16
@hereandthere Yes he is. I was very impressed when I met him and his wife to be is a beautiful young lady who comes from a good family. Her family just love him. They are a wonderful couple. Even though I am not married to his Dad yet I am still very proud to call this young man my step son.