Expectations...Disappointment
By janice
@renicemae (4883)
Philippines
December 27, 2016 7:28pm CST
My fiance somewhat agree to come home with me in my parents house by the end of December. He really didn't say yes but he said he'll try to talk to his parents to ask for my hand formally with my family but ended up not telling them.
I was disappointed really. I guess I expected too much.
Is it really hard to tell or ask permissions to parents that you wanted to ask formally the hand of your girlfriend?
We're planning our wedding but we can't start doing things because both our parents hadn't talked about this matter yet and I don't want to start preparing things if there is no agreement yet.
I'm somehow rushing him to tell his parents so that we can meet the date he wanted us to get married and it is getting nearer...and I don't want to cram by the time comes.
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6 responses
@diosabella (4789)
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29 Dec 16
Marriage is very important.Has your boyfriend have a problem with your parents before? because if he really wanted to marry you, even it is very hard to ask, he will ask for it because he loves you. maybe its better for him not to ask for your hand in marriage but both of u hand in hand tell your families that the two of u are getting married. make his parents and your parents be in one place at the same time.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
29 Dec 16
There's no problem. In fact, my parents like him For me.
As of now, he told me that he already talked to her mother and will come by our house next week. I'm happy of course but I haven't tell my parents yet that they are coming. I want to make sure first that they really are coming before tellibg it to my family.
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@TheInvisibleMan (17603)
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28 Dec 16
I know it's not so simple, but: No expectations, No deceptions. 
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
28 Dec 16
Yeah. I guess that is the safest ground. No expectations..no disappointments. I'll keep that in mind.
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@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
1 Jan 17
You have to make sure he's not getting cold feet. I hope he tells his parents' soon along with yours so you two can properly set a date.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Dec 16
I hope he talks to them soon. Is he afraid for some reason to tell them? Or is there another reason he hasn't mentioned it?
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
28 Dec 16
I'm sure that there is no issue or somethibg big reason for him not to tell. I guess, he's just prepaeing himself or lets say gathering confidence in himself. He's an unico ijo and slightly a Mama's boy.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
28 Dec 16
Yes he's ready But not confidebt enough. I just hope he'll tell them soon.
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@amandajay (23264)
• New Zealand
1 Jan 17
Hope you could solve your problem soon. Dont worry, everything will be ok.. But yes dont expect too much
