It is opinion time at myLot - What are your thoughts on this.....
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
United States
January 6, 2017 6:37am CST
Growing up, many moons ago, a little girl's dream was her wedding and that beautiful white wedding gown. I still believe in weddings and in beautiful dresses - but....
Do you think that when it comes to marriage #2 or #3 or even #4 brides should wear white wedding gowns? Wouldn't it be more fitting for those brides to wear something other than white?
Granted, you will say, "But how many first time brides are virgins?" In my day many of us were. Yes, I was and proud to wear a white wedding grown (it was the husband I got wrong!).
Just something to think about on this cold January day!!!
Photo: pixabay.com/en/wedding-dress-wedding-para-bride-1236010/
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@Morleyhunt (21745)
• Canada
6 Jan 17
Having been the owner of a bridal shop, I might be able to give you some insight. Generally, older brides look much better in dresses that are off white. White can be very stark. There are no hard and fast rules. Again, older brides generally look much more attractive in simple dresses.
A fifty year old bride wearing a white dress more suited to a young girl looks rather silly.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
6 Jan 17
I would rather see an 'older' bride in a gown with some color. If we had a big wedding (2 marriage) I was going to wear a gown but more like a prom dress type. We decided to elope so I wore regular clothes!
@vandana7 (99118)
• India
6 Jan 17
@AbbyGreenhill ... She is virgin Mary...even if she bore baby jesus.
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
6 Jan 17
@vandana7 I know who she is ... she's long gone so she can't sue anyone.
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@LadyDuck (460403)
• Switzerland
7 Jan 17
I wore a white wedding gown, I was 20 year old and white was considered a sign of purity. I think it's okay in our days to wear white for the first marriage, even if the couple already lived together, but I would avoid white for the following marriages (if any).
@LadyDuck (460403)
• Switzerland
7 Jan 17
@AbbyGreenhill Girls only wore the white dress for the marriage in Church in Italy. Usually an elegant normal dress to marry in front of the Mayor.
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
7 Jan 17
@LadyDuck I don't remember any of my friends getting married anyplace other than church the first time. Second marriages anything goes.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
7 Jan 17
I think there are so many options for second marriage attire that makes more sense than white.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
7 Jan 17
Next time around, I am going to wear blue. I didnt even have a ceremony the last time
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
7 Jan 17
I've done my next time...two is it for me.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
8 Jan 17
@Jessicalynnt I didn't realize you were married twice.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
8 Jan 17
@AbbyGreenhill I didnt think I'd ever see a third, but maybe I will.
@JudyEv (326663)
• Rockingham, Australia
7 Jan 17
While I might agree with you, I don't think too many brides are NOT going to wear white just because they're not virgins. I don't think any of the young ones give a jot about being a virgin on their wedding night.
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
7 Jan 17
The younger ones don't care/worry about a lot of things that drive me crazy...I was brought up quite differently and my values are different from todays young women.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
7 Jan 17
@JudyEv I grew up Catholic so the girls either were scared to not be virgins or they went completely the opposite direction! Middle ground doesn't seem to exit.
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@shaggin (71678)
• United States
6 Jan 17
I think if I married again I would wear pink but it might just be because I love the color pink. I had a set of wedding barbies that one had a white wedding dress and one had a pink one. I always thought they were so neat! I wore a veil even though I was not a virgin and my relatives talked badly about me for it. I never even know that was a thing I thought veils were just part of the attire.
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
6 Jan 17
I didn't put much thought into the veil...i thought it was to hide the face and shock the groom LOL! (just kidding
@celticeagle (160015)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Jan 17
People don't go in for traditional values much now days. The rules of yesteryear just no longer apply.
@celticeagle (160015)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Jan 17
@AbbyGreenhill ......I guess there is a small percentage of us left.
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
7 Jan 17
@celticeagle Fewer and fewer it seems.
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
25 Sep 17
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I know Jim Gaffigan is sorta joking when he says that but it is kinda true. Like many of the "rituals" we have in society (graduations, lots of things the Catholic church does, school-proms, infant-baptisms (I know that's also 'something the Catholic church' does, but I'm sure other religions have something like it ... Jewish 'circumcision' etc.), it's mainly just 'a mental-picture to use as a goal-post' (i.e. to start thinking "how can we get back to when things were 'good'?")
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@LeaPea2417 (36588)
• Toccoa, Georgia
6 Jan 17
I totally agree with you. Both my Mom and I have always said a first bride should wear white. A 2nd , 3rd , 4th etc. should never wear a white gown.
@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
6 Jan 17
@AbbyGreenhill it's the wedding present bit that gets me - just money please these days!
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
6 Jan 17
A lot is different....I won't even go I to kids and marriage
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
6 Jan 17
I guess the wedding dress is all about the bride. What they feel comfortable wearing. Personally, being a commitment phobic, the sign of a big bridal gown will send me running for hills...
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
6 Jan 17
I don't think the gown/dress/jeans/whatever would change a commitment phobic person LOL.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
7 Jan 17
@AbbyGreenhill well am more likely to say "I'll give it a shot, if the ceremony is 30seconds long and am in my jeans. If it's like a full day with a gown, you can bet your retirement funding on me legging it after the make up is done"
@PainsOnSlate (21854)
• Canada
6 Jan 17
I wore white and chose the right man, we are still together 50 years later and no I was not a virgin....If I married again it would not be in a white dress...I don't know what it would be - maybe shorts and a top on a beach...
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
6 Jan 17
Love it shorts!!!!!! I wore black skirt red and b!back top second wedding.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
6 Jan 17
@paigea She paid for it, so it was up to her I guess. I had it custom made what a time consuming ordeal.
@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
6 Jan 17
The wedding dress I wore was my mother's idea of a dress...it was not what I wanted
@PatZAnthony (14752)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
9 Jan 17
People are gonna' do what they are gonna' do, so guess although we might think it is wrong, or silly-they will still do it.
One thing we see happening more that seems wrong (we are old-school) is women having so much skin exposed. When did that type of dress become popular for brides?
