Kill them with kindness
By lealuvy2j
@lealuvy2j (1986)
Philippines
January 28, 2017 2:43am CST
When someone does something bad to you, do you kill them with kindness instead of getting even or getting mad? I don't get mad easily so I usually do this and there are times when the person who did something bad to me regrets what they have done and says sorry because I showed kindness to them. Sometimes people just need the attention and love and it is not in their intention to really hurt you. Love and kindness can be the answers or are the answers.
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@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
28 Jan 17
Wow.. This is good
I will also try this.
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@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
28 Jan 17
@HAPPSINGH at what time will you go back home?
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
28 Jan 17
somebody hurt me and what i did was i blocked her. it was an impulse but i don't regret my action. now, she is just an entity
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
28 Jan 17
there are people in my life that hurt me and I have blocked them as well but I forgive them although I might not be able to forget what they did
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
29 Jan 17
@lealuvy2j that is the same with me. i am hurt so bad that it keeps going back in my mind, but as they say, strong people ignore. so, i am ignoring them now. i might forgive but i cannot forget
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
28 Jan 17
It is easier said than done. If someone is rude to me, I keep my calm and do not lose my cool.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
29 Jan 17
@lealuvy2j How could you be angry and kind at the same time
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
29 Jan 17
@dpk262006 of course not at the same time. What I meant is I try to be as kind as possible but there are times when I do get mad. I'm not perfectly kind all the time.
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
28 Jan 17
True. Sometimes I do lose my cool but I try to be kind as much as I can.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
28 Jan 17
True but it's very difficult for me. I don't get angry at the people though, I get angry at what they do. So, I don't let it pass me by without telling them even though they may be offended. I'm a very vocal person and couldn't keep my frustrations. But I believe it's very healthy to express myself to people especially when they have done something wrong or committed mistakes in their work.
They do say I'm kind though even though I could be harsh sometimes. They appreciate my honesty and transparency.
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
28 Jan 17
That's good. It is easier to let go of the situation(what they have done) than to let go of the person behind that situation.
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
28 Jan 17
True. In my case though, it works usually but of course not all the time
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@Kandae11 (53677)
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28 Jan 17
@lealuvy2j What you say , is the best way to deal with those situations anyway.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
28 Jan 17
I will smile and say something nice even though the actions of another will cause me to grit my teeth. Even if they don't immediately react to the smile, they bring it with them.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
28 Jan 17
@lealuvy2j smile and the world smiles with you. I agree, it isn't always easy to do, but once you do, it is all good.
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
28 Jan 17
that is good. Sometimes when I am seething with anger too, I try to compose myself and be the better person.1 person likes this
@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
29 Jan 17
... and then bury them with your smile! 
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
29 Jan 17
I know! Haha! That is the final blow usually.
That is the final blow usually.1 person likes this
@PurnaSharma (2557)
• Guwahati, India
29 Jan 17
I just ignore them but sometimes circumstances made me to ingnor them and i prefer to flow with the circumstances.
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
29 Jan 17
It is ok to ignore but sometimes when you return kindness, the doer of the bad deed feels guilty and says sorry.
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
28 Jan 17
True sometimes kindness is a even a better way to get even.
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@magallon (19280)
• Philippines
30 Jan 17
@lealuvy2j that's a better way to make them realize what they have done..
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@ilocosboy (45157)
• Philippines
28 Jan 17
This Is what I wanted to be, to be always understanding instead of getting mad that may lead to trouble. It's good you practice this.
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
28 Jan 17
Thanks but I'm not perfect sometimes I do get mad but I try to return kindness as much as I can
@reskyyandi (3616)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 17
This is like song by Selena Gomez - Kill 'Em With Kindness
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
28 Jan 17
This is like the song but Selena Gomez probably got this from the old saying. It was used so many times before
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@Friendlypink (3805)
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28 Jan 17
This is doable, but sometimes we cant control anger or its hard not to voice out whats inside you.
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
28 Jan 17
It is good to voice out how you really feel but you can temper it and say in a nicer way. Most of the time, anger can be manageable and when managed it produces nicer results.
