Can you forgive someone who betrayed you?

Philippines
February 1, 2017 10:17am CST
I would like to ask if you can forgive someone who betrayed you. Well I am asking because recently a close friend of mine has betrayed me and for me even though he is a friend of mine for 7 years now, I can't accept that kind of betrayal. For me, it is disrespectful and once trust is destroyed it can never be rebuilt back to its original state. Maybe I can forgive him in the future but I will never stay friends with him since he has already shown his true colors. How about you?
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@ketyv12 (271)
• Bat Yam, Israel
1 Feb 17
I can forgive but not forget. What's done is done.
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• Philippines
9 Feb 17
@ketyv12 Definitely! I gotta agree with you my friend. The fact that they were able to betray the first time just only means that they can do it again the next time.
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
6 Feb 17
If a close friend of mine betrays me I might be able to forgive him, but if I manage to get past the initial disappointment and anger and keep on communicating with that person the relationship between us person will never be the same as it was before the betrayal. I will keep a distance from that person and I will treat him just like an ordinary acquaintance.
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@Absinto (2385)
• Portugal
1 Feb 17
I can forgive but it depends on what happened and their intentions when it happened. I always analyze everything because i am a big hot head. So before i even get hyped up with them i try to hear them out or not hear them at all to get myself to think straight and see if the friendship is really worth it. I had been betrayed just a while back and it was because of a lie. Not because of what he was doing (even though i would have kicked his butt about it) but just the fact that he lied to me about it knowing that this is the one thing i hate the most. After seeing a conversation he had with the other person in question that he lied for i saw that his intentions werent bad, hers was and found a way to forgive him.
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• United States
2 Feb 17
I have something that happened to me, and I have not forgiven, and it been years. The person is not in my life any more, but still couldn't forgive and don't forget. Once the trust has been broke, it is hard to repair, depending on the situation.
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@ms1864 (6886)
• Bangalore, India
2 Feb 17
I can forgive people in time...but I usually don't repeat my mistakes and so never let the same people back as an important part of my life. I will forgive...but i won't forget.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
3 Feb 17
I can forgive but I wont trust the same person again.
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@marguicha (215441)
• Chile
1 Feb 17
I can forgive up to some extent, but I cannot forget.
@besweet (9862)
• Ireland
1 Feb 17
I forgive people but I need time. Forgiving doesn't mean that I will ever trust them again in the same way.
@akalinus (40440)
• United States
1 Feb 17
It depends on how serious the betrayal was. Could it be a misunderstanding? What happened to make a close friend of seven years betray you?
@sabashekh (1218)
• Bhopal, India
1 Feb 17
It's easy to say that I'll forgive but I cannot .. Its difficult
@diosabella (4789)
2 Feb 17
I could forgive. But I will never forget. And things will never be the same. No matter how many sorry. Its harsh but when you put your trust with someone and treat the person like your own family its hard to trust that person again.
@Slayqueen (918)
• India
2 Feb 17
I can forgive them but I won't see their faces ever again in my life. I've been through this phase once and I am happy that I found some very nice people, they're my second family..
@Funky2017 (249)
• India
1 Feb 17
Whoa at back of my mind I had similar thoughts going on for someone. And here is comes on my screen too!! I guess that is the sign that I should forgive them. Forgive them for my own self. So I can move on. And feel the peace in my mind and my heart.
@rubyriaz007 (4188)
• India
27 Oct 17
I can never forget and forgive the person who betrayed me...