HALF HER AGE

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@Kandae11 (53698)
February 15, 2017 10:56am CST
Would you date or marry a man who is -say - fifteen, twenty or thirty years younger than yourself? .Some women, from forty-five years up say it is difficult to find a suitable man in their age group. Most are already married or - if single - they seem to prefer younger women, so where does that leave the single older woman? The other thing is - society is never really hard on the older man who dates or marries a younger woman, but if a woman does the the same with a younger man , she is viewed in a different light. What are your thoughts on the subject?
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@amadeo (111948)
• United States
15 Feb 17
well Mike is he is 17 years younger than me.We have a big age different.
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@amadeo (111948)
• United States
15 Feb 17
@Kandae11 Very much now.It is too late for him to back off(kidding)
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@TheHorse (207028)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Feb 17
That's not that big a difference to me, especially if you're both over 30 or so.
@Kandae11 (53698)
15 Feb 17
Well, there you go - and your relationship is a happy one.
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@sabtraversa (13070)
• Italy
15 Feb 17
I'm spotting some kids. Who knows. As I'm currently 21. I guess older women dating younger men aren't well seen nowadays but people will be more open-minded. It's only a matter of habit, I think. Such couples aren't likely to have children, but that's up to them. Young men also prefer older women, as long as two people are interested in each other, I see no problem.
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@Kandae11 (53698)
15 Feb 17
Some times a woman will think first about what people will think, before doing what pleases her.
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@sabtraversa (13070)
• Italy
15 Feb 17
@Kandae11 That's so true.
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• Philippines
15 Feb 17
I guess I have to disagree to that having children part. I know women in 50s can still bear a child. But my belief is when God bless you with a child it does not goes with the science calculation of age.. There are women who married young but not able to bore a child. It is still under God's mercy and favor. God bless.
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@DianneN (247219)
• United States
15 Feb 17
Within a few years is fine. I prefer the man to be slightly older.
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@Kandae11 (53698)
15 Feb 17
That would be my preference also.
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@just4him (307773)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
15 Feb 17
I'm an older single woman and I would not marry anyone old enough to be my child. I would like a slightly older man, but not old enough to be my father either.
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@just4him (307773)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Feb 17
@Kandae11 True.
@Kandae11 (53698)
15 Feb 17
I won't want to do that either, I would prefer someone around my age - that is if his mind isn't set on having a younger woman.
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@JudyEv (326498)
• Rockingham, Australia
15 Feb 17
Equality between the sexes is still a long way off. Age really shouldn't come into these decisions and it is certainly no-one else's business.
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@TheHorse (207028)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Feb 17
I agree with this.
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@Kandae11 (53698)
15 Feb 17
I agree with you there, - these are adults making their own choices.
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@pammooratan (4668)
• India
15 Feb 17
I am agree this .Some relationship is created by God itself. So there age difference no matter.Now a days some older women are also dating with younger boys. Man also wants some change and dating with girls of younger ages. I think a main reason is productivity.Men productivity ends with his dying. But women productivity ends after 40-50. Overall charm matters more and love is blind.
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@Kandae11 (53698)
15 Feb 17
Well said.
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• India
15 Feb 17
@Kandae11 Yes. ..life bonds are unpredictable. ..
@shaggin (71676)
• United States
17 Feb 17
You are right it is considered more acceptable in society for men to marry much younger women then it is for women to marry much younger men. I personally would not want a huge age gap but what others do in their lives does not bother me.
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@shaggin (71676)
• United States
17 Feb 17
@Kandae11 (53698)
17 Feb 17
They are adults - the choice is theirs.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
6 May 17
I gtk it depends on t he two pep;e if they'really love each other and are compatible age should never matter.
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@prashu228 (37525)
• India
6 May 17
But and older man always gets younger women, but for women it's not possible
@suziecat7 (3350)
• Asheville, North Carolina
15 Feb 17
Age should be irrelevant. As long as a couple is compatible, that should be enough.
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@Kandae11 (53698)
15 Feb 17
I agree - so long as both couples understand fully that there may be bumps along the way.
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• Philippines
15 Feb 17
I really don't know. But you can't say if its good or not because we all know that Love always works in mysterious ways. I know someone who are 15years older than the man they married and still have a happy life with them. I think the best answer to that is.... Happy marriage is when you marry the right person that God has created only for you.... It is hard to view that when you get 40 they are just turning 25... But as I saw one of the people I know they don't really look older to the men they married they are happy and contented.... Maybe because they are really for each other.
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• Philippines
15 Feb 17
@Kandae11 100% agree! This discussion of yours made me write a post also about my view in this discussion and a glimpse of personal experience. I hope it's okay with you. I posted it already. God bless and thank you.
@Kandae11 (53698)
15 Feb 17
@luisadannointed I would have waited a bit - say five or twenty-four hours.
@Kandae11 (53698)
15 Feb 17
You are right. There could be that special connection where you just know that you are making the right decision.
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@crossbones27 (48492)
• Mojave, California
16 Feb 17
I personally say it is none of my business. If it makes them happy, then they need to do what is right for them. You are right there is a double standard. I personally do not know why so many feel the need that they have to get married in general. There is no law that says we have to get married. That is my opinion anyway.
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• Mojave, California
16 Feb 17
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@Kandae11 (53698)
16 Feb 17
I value your opinion. Thanks for your input.
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• Austin, Texas
16 Feb 17
If both individuals are mature adults capable of choosing, then age is not really a factor, if they love each other. It's their relationship and other people need to mind their own business! Now if the it's children being forced into marriage, that's a completely different discussion.
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@Kandae11 (53698)
16 Feb 17
Very good point.
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@Slayqueen (918)
• India
16 Feb 17
Well.. Society doesn't accept this because of their own reasons but we shouldn't make decisions on the basis of what people think.Personally, I don't think I can ever fall in love with someone who is younger than me.
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@Kandae11 (53698)
16 Feb 17
That is my personal feeling also.
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@Kandae11 (53698)
16 Feb 17
@Slayqueen So true.
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• India
16 Feb 17
@Kandae11 but we don't know what life has to offer..
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16 Feb 17
As long as it keeps you happy nothing else matters. We might get the perfect guy and we are still not happy so better not go with a mindset
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@Kandae11 (53698)
16 Feb 17
Right - in marriages where the couple appear to be perfectly matched there may be problems no one knows about.
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16 Feb 17
@Kandae11 the biggest - not being in love may be
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• Philippines
16 Feb 17
Love knows no boundaries and we have different perspective about some in life.
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@Kandae11 (53698)
16 Feb 17
We are free to make our own choices.
@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
16 Feb 17
I believe if you are happy then go for it, life is to short not to enjoy it. do what makes you happy!!!
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@Kandae11 (53698)
16 Feb 17
While hoping that the happiness lasts.
@TheHorse (207028)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Feb 17
I think big age differences mean different stages of life and different experiences. But if the similarities outweigh those differences, I say go for it!
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@Kandae11 (53698)
16 Feb 17
They do say that age is a state of mind.
@paigea (35774)
• Canada
16 Feb 17
To me, it is the same either way. An age difference either way doesn't really matter if the people are happy together.
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@Kandae11 (53698)
16 Feb 17
Happiness is very important, but sometimes we let our hearts rule our heads.
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@dramagirl26 (3259)
• Ringgold, Virginia
16 Feb 17
I don't have a problem if someone wants to date an older person, but I don't know if it's for me. I'd prefer someone closer to my age.
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@Kandae11 (53698)
16 Feb 17
That would be the ideal situation.
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
16 Feb 17
This is actually an implicit matter for a person and personal as well............ The choice is absolutely yours................. Age is actually not fact
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@Kandae11 (53698)
16 Feb 17
yes it is their decision.