Why blaming me?

@JustBhem (46105)
Davao, Philippines
February 16, 2017 8:35pm CST
Mom was sick and she's in the hospital at the moment. She was diagnosed of severe anemia. No wonder I got mine from her. Mom and I don't have a mother-daughter bond ever since because she always wants to be the center of everything. When I was sick and been to Hemodialysis. I never see her in my side. She never supported me in every stages of my depressing life. That is why, sometimes we fight. Then brothers blaming me why she is sick. Sad. I was not love. I never felt I was loved by her. She was the one who always pick a fight. She never understand me. She wants everyone's attention. Even I am sick, she still wants to be pampered. And now she's sick. Attentions are all over her. And I am still the rebel daughter for them. Picture is me.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
17 Feb 17
I am sorry to hear that. You mom sounds very selfish. It is almost as though she is jealous of you. It is sad that you have to deal with that. Nice picture I like it.
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@JustBhem (46105)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Feb 17
Exactyl. Ever since she was jealous of me because father loves me. I am so much with my father. She never cared for me. That is why, I keep asking myself if I'm her daughter.
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@Happy2BeMe (75440)
• Canada
17 Feb 17
@JustBhem That is really sad but some people are just like that. They are very jealous.
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@JustBhem (46105)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Feb 17
@Happy2BeMe And I still wonder why.
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@allknowing (73099)
• India
17 Feb 17
It's not often that we hear of a mother who only thinks of herself. She could have had a shaky childhood herself.
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@JustBhem (46105)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Feb 17
I ask her one time if she does. She said nope. So I wonder why she's like that. Her sisters and brothers are not like that. Even if they already have adult children they still care for them, others have families and they already have granschild they still care for thier kids. Mom is way different from them. She wants works only for herself. That is why some of my brothers didn't finish school because she don't care. I was the one who took care of myself ever since. No mom-daughter relationship because she wants it.
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@allknowing (73099)
• India
18 Feb 17
@JustBhem There must be some issue that has made her like that. Wish she realises it and makes up for lost time
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@JustBhem (46105)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Feb 17
@allknowing I hope so. Thanks.
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• Philippines
17 Feb 17
I know for a fact that GOD will notice your goodness to your mom. It's sad to have read this from you that she was never the caring part most specially when your sick. She doesn't realize that she's your daughter. Though I could say that there might be another reason why she ended up like this with you. In the end, it's GOD that decides. Don't be like her if you know she's bad and attention seeker type. Lol kinda reminds me of my Grandma a little bit. Keep helping her and Love your brother's too. Not every one has a family you know..
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• Philippines
17 Feb 17
you're such a good son @letranknight2015 and i admire your faith
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• Philippines
17 Feb 17
@hereandthere I don't go to church myself or pray all the time. But this is something that Mom always tells me. WHich is probably why sometimes i don't understand why does good despite of what bad things they say or do to her.
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@JustBhem (46105)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Feb 17
This makes me cry. Though she was not the caring type of mother, I promised myself I will never do that to her. Even if how many times I cried at night, because of her. I will never give up taking care of her. She should know that. Every day I was there in the hospital even if I have difficulty breathing, I want everything to be okay. From her meds and needs. I am the one taking care of it. Though my brother help me financially, working on some papers and her transfusion, I was the one working. Hopefull everything will be okay.
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@brokenbee (8335)
• Philippines
17 Feb 17
I am so sorry to hear about that. Just keep on praying that everything will be okay...
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@JustBhem (46105)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Feb 17
Thanks. I am praying she will recover soon.
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• Prairieville, Louisiana
17 Feb 17
Your mother blaming you is not nice.
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@JustBhem (46105)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Feb 17
I know. I am also sick. Nobody notice or supported me from my family. And now my mother is sick, all attentions are on her.
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@hereandthere (33393)
• Philippines
17 Feb 17
i'm surprised your mother never went to your dialysis sessions all this time. my brother and i, along with his son and daughter, would take turns when our father had his. is your mother overworked that she doesn't get enough sleep? what kinds of food does she eat? who is watching her in the hospital?
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@JustBhem (46105)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Feb 17
Yes, She worked for herself. She doesn't have enough sleep since she was sick. She eats mostly salty foods.Our younger brother is the one watching her in the hospital.
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• Philippines
19 Feb 17
@JustBhem my mother likes salty food too. good thing this year, her resolution is to stop buying junk food (like boy bawang) to nibble on while watching tv, and so far, she has been keeping that promise.
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@JustBhem (46105)
• Davao, Philippines
19 Feb 17
@hereandthere Nice to know your mom choose healthy living. My mom is not. She likes to have patis for her meal. We already told her to get rid of that but she doesn't want. I should be the one blaming her because I got the kidney disease from her.
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@DianneN (91959)
• United States
17 Feb 17
That is awful. I could never ever understand how a mother could be like that to her own daughter. I'm so sorry for you - and her!
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@JustBhem (46105)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Feb 17
Sorry for myself too. I really don't understand her. At times likes this, she does not appreciate my effort working on her hospitalization. Even if I'm sick I am the one who is working for her papers and meds.
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@DianneN (91959)
• United States
18 Feb 17
@JustBhem That is very sad. You need some giant hugs!
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@JustBhem (46105)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Feb 17
@DianneN Thanks. I really need that. Thanks. Thanks.
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@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Feb 17
thats so sad Im so sorry your mom is like that as it must really feel awful I was so close to my mom and she made me know I was loved so I loved her so much
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@JustBhem (46105)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Feb 17
You are very lucky. Keep loving your mom.
@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Feb 17
@JustBhem we lost her some years back
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@JustBhem (46105)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Feb 17
@Hatley Oh, sorry to hear that. Still you are ver lucky because you have a mom who loved you no matter what.
@carebear29 (28941)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
17 Feb 17
sorry to here all this.
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@JustBhem (46105)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Feb 17
Thanks.
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@carebear29 (28941)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
17 Feb 17
@JustBhem your welcome
@amnabas (10549)
• Karachi, Pakistan
17 Feb 17
Ohhh feeling so sorry for you.. Just give her a space I think at this point of time she needs you.
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@JustBhem (46105)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Feb 17
Though I feel bad and sad. I am the one who process and supported her. From her blood transfusion to her medicine. Even if I'm sick, I'm always on her side. Brothers don't understand it.
@jstory07 (72386)
• Roseburg, Oregon
17 Feb 17
I hope your mother is feeling better now.
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@JustBhem (46105)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Feb 17
I hope so. Thanks.
@ridingbet (61835)
• Philippines
19 Feb 17
i am sorry about that. i hope your family will learn about your emotions too because of your sickess