She Is Losing It

@GardenGerty (105192)
United States
February 23, 2017 5:48am CST
My sister is seventy two and she is losing it, more and more. For about the third time in less than a month she has left her purse sitting somewhere while she was out at stores, etc. She used to just carry her wallet, but she would leave it laying on the riding cart at the store and as a result, began having panic attacks. She now has medication for when that occurs. Her strength has improved, she does not ride in a cart now. A neighbor gave her a new purse so she would quit laying her wallet down. Last spring, someone went in and stole her wallet from her purse in her house. She lost a lot of heirloom jewelry and became very depressed. She thought that was safe. She was given anti depressants. Since Christmas or before she has been forgetting things she has been told, or more recently she has been forgetting to get her purse, or in our case at Christmas, her medicines out of cars. [b] Yesterday she left Wal Mart while I was still in line. She wanted to smoke outside and did. She also was on the phone with her grand daughter. I walked over to the car, unlocked it, put my stuff in the back, unlocked her door. She wheeled her cart out, removed her two shopping bags and wheeled the cart over by the other carts. When we pulled up at her house a few minutes later, she realized she had left her purse, sitting outside, in a cart in front of Wal Mart. [/b] Hubby was working in the store. I had her call him. She asked me "why'? Hubby went out, found and retrieved her wide open purse. All contents were intact. What is happening with her? I do not know. She had a panic attack about the billfold, somewhat understandable. The day before she had a panic attack when she could not remove a new blouse. The attacks make her chest hurt. She has meds for the panic attacks but refuses to take them, in case they are addictive. They are prescribed. I know she takes an OTC remedy of a class that has recently been shown to cause dementia.Two tablets, every night. There are other alternatives that have the same results without the side effects. I told her to quit taking them, but she will not. There is another OTC that she takes regularly that is being shown to be linked to depression and dementia. She does not have much choice on that one though. This is what happens to our elderly and anyone who is dependent on medication. I have mine that I take as well, but those particular two are rare or never anymore. We cannot afford for me to start "losing it" too.
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@JudyEv (140674)
• Bunbury, Australia
23 Feb 17
This would be such a worry and, even worse, at 70, I'm not far behind your sister in age.
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@cacay1 (33192)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Feb 17
@JudyEv, there should be an escort and be the one to carry her wallet or purse to avoid losing money.
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@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
23 Feb 17
Oh, but @JudyEv I can tell you are sharper. Hubby is only a few months younger and he is also much brighter.
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@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
24 Feb 17
@cacay1 Sometimes she is with friends her age and older.I will start verbally reminding her if I take her, though.
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• United States
23 Feb 17
I will be 70 in a few months and don't have any signs of issues, thank God. Nether does my husband and he's 74. I assume she goes to a doctor?
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@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
23 Feb 17
Yes, she does. Hubby is 72 and is a whole different story, sharp as a tack. I am sixty three. Yes, she goes to a doctor. Several of them. Cardiologist gives her a clean bill of health.
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• United States
23 Feb 17
@GardenGerty Clean bill of health and her symptoms don't jive.
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@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
24 Feb 17
@AbbyGreenhill I honestly think some of it is the medications she is taking. She has had four stents done and they are functioning well.
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@katsmeow1213 (29044)
• United States
24 Feb 17
Aw, she's not losing it.. she's just forgetful! I have one coworker that is famous for forgetting about her coffee. She goes and makes a cup, and will get sidetracked and leave the cup in the Keurig machine, until the next person goes to make a cup and brings her cup to her. If she goes into someone's office she'll leave the cup there. People are always retrieving it from somewhere and bringing it to her. Another coworker is the same way about her keys.. she just leaves them everywhere and totally forgets about them.
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@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
24 Feb 17
Oh, I have done the coffee thing for years. This is different, and the fact that she then goes into a panic attack with chest pains, etc.is scary. I had to take her to the ER a couple of years ago.
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• United States
24 Feb 17
@GardenGerty Yes, it is if you're not used to it. I've had panic attacks my whole life, although I didn't recognize what they were until a couple years ago. Same thing with hubby. This past summer he was finally diagnosed with panic disorder.. basically without his meds he has a non-stop panic attack, 24/7. Mine sort of comes and goes and can be triggered by anything... being late for work would trigger one, no matter how much I try to calm myself and tell myself it's not the end of the world to be late once, they won't fire me over it! I'm not taking medication for mine. I know about the chest pain.. but for me since I know it's a panic attack the chest pain doesn't bother me as much. Hubby is different.. the chest pain makes the panic attack worse because he starts worrying about his heart, etc..
@allknowing (72647)
• India
23 Feb 17
I think it's time she does not independently handle anything if her memory is failing.
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@cacay1 (33192)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Feb 17
@allknowing , That is a very good suggestion.
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@allknowing (72647)
• India
23 Feb 17
@cacay1 It will be a relief for you as well.
@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
23 Feb 17
This is the first she has lived independently. She lived with me for a year. I think her daughters need to get more involved but "they don't have time". I will double check what she brings when I take her places in the future.
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@sueznewz2 (10157)
• Alicante, Spain
25 Feb 17
sorry to hear your sister is having these problems... it is amazing and frightening some of the side effects of medicines... I hope you can convince her to have a medication review....
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@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
25 Feb 17
Her doctor has already told her she does not need this medicine and at least to cut it in half. Other types of medication would accomplish the same thing without the risk. This is an over the counter medicine that is promoted for many uses, but I have seen in others some of the strange things it can do. I will take it on a rare occasion, but no way would I take it at maximum strength every night.
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@sueznewz2 (10157)
• Alicante, Spain
25 Feb 17
@GardenGerty I hope she changes her mind...
@celticeagle (121005)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Feb 17
Old folks get disorganized. They are getting forgetful. A little help here and there and things should go well. She just needs some added help right now. People age differently. No one is the same.
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@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
25 Feb 17
When she is with me, I can help, and will now that I am seeing this pattern. Not sure her kids or friends will be as supportive.
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@celticeagle (121005)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Feb 17
@GardenGerty ......Maybe you need to hold a meeting and let them in on it so everyone is on the same page.
• Pamplona, Spain
23 Feb 17
Does she get stressed out being outside and being in the Shops. Nerves can play and wreak havoc too. You can forget something by mistake as well.
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@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
24 Feb 17
Oh, she loves to shop. She does get tired, though.
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• Pamplona, Spain
24 Feb 17
@GardenGerty I nearly lost sight of my purse for seconds this morning too. It can happen to anyone. I knew where it was I was so busy putting all the other Shopping in order in the Trolley. Perhaps she should have someone to help her Shop for the time being.
@Tampa_girl7 (27387)
• United States
23 Feb 17
I hope that you can figure out what is wrong with her.
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@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
24 Feb 17
She says some of it was interrupted sleep and a panic attack the night before. And her granddaughter called.
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@Tampa_girl7 (27387)
• United States
24 Feb 17
@GardenGerty hopefully that is all it is.
@LadyDuck (187238)
• Switzerland
23 Feb 17
My husband is 71, but he has no problems of this kind. May be she is tired and a bit stressed and there is nothing to be worried about. Aging is not funny.
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@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
24 Feb 17
Many people handle aging well. I am glad she still manages her bills and such well. I feel very badly for the fact that she forgets and panics and makes herself ill.
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@LadyDuck (187238)
• Switzerland
24 Feb 17
@GardenGerty Panic attacks do not help, keeping calm and fighting stress is better.
@vickyrose (2031)
• Canberra, Australia
26 Feb 17
Maybe the medication is making it worst. She shouldn't be left by herself, specially with her purse..
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@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
26 Feb 17
She is enjoying living alone, but when we take her places we are going to need to remind her to check for her things, otherwise we have lots of reasons to panic or make extra trips for things.
@marsha32 (6684)
• United States
23 Feb 17
My mom is just like that now. Her usual organized self can't seem to remember where she puts things now and such.
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@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
24 Feb 17
My sister and your mom are roughly the same age. However, this seems more stress related than age related.
@Raelove (17733)
• Saco, Maine
23 Feb 17
Wow! I wish I'd read this first! And don't you hate that word "dementia?" In my case, I'm not at the "panic" stage yet. I'm at the "get mad enough to cry" stage right now...
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@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
24 Feb 17
I know I read your post. I do things more like that. I do it especially when I am tired..
@cacay1 (33192)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Feb 17
That was terrible and thankful your husband found the wallet with contents intact.I think she should placed her wallet in her bra to be safe.That was what my mom was doing when she was alive.
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@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
23 Feb 17
She says she is going to get a purse that goes over her shoulder.
@Jessicalynnt (47879)
• Centralia, Missouri
24 Feb 17
and it sounds like she isn't making the best decisions on what she is taking and when