An Affair, From The Affair, Was I Wrong?

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This is going to be long, but then again it is long story. Nearly going on for 8 months. As some of you know, I have quite a lot I am dealing with at this moment in my life. Then a close friend had to go and have her heart broken and I feel partly responsible. A few months back we were a group of friends that got together once a month to eat out. One of the friends was a married man having trouble with his marriage, but, he still wore his wedding ring. Now, that, to me, is a big stay away from it, or seriously just remain friends, sign. He tried to flirt with me many times, I just blocked him, I told him straight, "you have a wife, go and get what you need, from her". My friend, on the other hand, I got a vibe from, around this man, so I warned her many times, "watch out, he is married, he still wears his ring, doesn't matter how unhappy he claims to be" . She would nod and say "I know, we're all just friends". She was not aware that he was in the meantime trying to find out that if he got a divorce, if I would give him a chance. Extra long story short, I found her crying one day, saying that they had been having an affair, that he had told her she was the woman for him. Then she told him she wanted him to finish divorce proceedings before they carried on as they were. And he verbally attacked her and told her he didn't need her doubts. She said he had told her to tell the group that they were just friends and to delete all messages where he admitted his feelings to her. So she had deleted them. I, however, had not deleted the ones he sent me! She was so upset, that she had upset him, when she knew he loved her and she shouldn't let doubts mess up what they had and it was her fault for doubting him, and she was blaming herself. I couldn't do it. I couldn't let her take the blame, I knew he had been using the same words on me. And then, I showed her the messages he had sent me! And that is where, I helped him to break her heart. She was devastated. I feel terrible that I showed her those messages, but, she was blaming herself for something that was not what it seemed. Even worse, when she read them, it turned out to be what he had sent her, he had copied messages and just sent one to her and one to me. Difference was that she had believed him, she had taken his words to heart. I know she shouldn't have gotten involved with a married man, but I still feel sorry she got pulled in by his tales of woe to then find out that he was telling many women he loved them. And I feel sorry that I was the one to show her how empty his words were. That I helped hurt her. Was I wrong to show her those messages? I don't want to regret this. Photo is of the sunset sky by me last night, I was looking up at that sky trying to relax.