My Daughter is being bullied

Defiance, Ohio
March 24, 2017 3:01am CST
I wrote a blog piece yesterday about my daughter being bullied. To make a long story short she was sitting alone in the lunchroom when a boy threw a condom box at the back of her head. As far as I am aware nothing has been done to the boy who did this except being yelled at by the principal. I am thinking of filing a police report if he doesn't get suspended. I was bullied as a kid. I hate bullies. Have you been bullied? If so, how did you get it to stop?
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@TRBRocks420 (94420)
• Banks, Oregon
24 Mar 17
I would make sure the school does something about it, but want to punch the kid lol.
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• India
24 Mar 17
I agree even I would have kicked that stupid fellow
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• Defiance, Ohio
24 Mar 17
So far the school hasn't did anything but the principal yell at the kid who did it.
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• India
24 Mar 17
@rusty2rusty yelling is not a solution,he should be publicly disgraced,so that he don't dare next time
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@jstory07 (76301)
• Roseburg, Oregon
24 Mar 17
Bulling never stops it goes on and on. I hope the school will do something about it.
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• Defiance, Ohio
24 Mar 17
I hope the school will stop prevent it to. I don't think the school does enough to prevent bullying.
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@Morleyhunt (19806)
• Canada
24 Mar 17
This incident doesn't sound worthy of a police report...but I would be keeping a record od names, dates and times. If it escalates the it would be time to involve the police.
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@slayer08 (2374)
• Philippines
24 Mar 17
I agree. Track everything. With your kids condition the bullying might not stop. Bullies are terrorists they like spreading fear to people they think won't fight back. You need to have a copy or journal of what is happening to your daughter just to show proof that the issue is escalating and that the school is not doing something abour it. If the boy is also 16 or older, he might be difficult to deal with. Most of the time, bullies like him have so much anger inside and if you provole him, he might take it out on your daughter. Keep distance but keep an eye on him. Since your daughter needs special treatment, then you can argue that its because of her condition that this bully is taking advantage of her.
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• Defiance, Ohio
24 Mar 17
My daughter has been called nasty names and taunted. Now she is having things thrown and hitting her in the head. My daughter suffers migraines. That's assault in my eyes. It is the same thing as someone putting their hands on her. I plan to file a report with police, just in case something isn't done. At least I will have a file started.
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@Morleyhunt (19806)
• Canada
24 Mar 17
@rusty2rusty you need to keep a record for yourself. That way no matter what happens you will have a record.
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@slayer08 (2374)
• Philippines
24 Mar 17
Bullies will always exist, I was never bullied because I fight back. One girl in my class when I was in 4th grade tried to bully me. So I ask her if she came from a dysfunctional family because it shows on her character and what a pity she really is. She blushed and was about to hit me but didn't do it. She never tried bullying me again. I obviuosly hit a nerve. But there are times that bullies are really mean and nasty and I think yoir daughter might be dealing with one. Always talk to your daughter in a supportive way. Do not interrogate her cause she might be too embarrassed to tell you what happened. She has to always report that bully no matter what. It's sad that kids can be very mean at times. I guess they're bullied in some way probably at home so they take out their frustrations to someone they think is weak.
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• Defiance, Ohio
24 Mar 17
I don't know what the kid issue was. I do know he has classes with my daughter. As they place the kids with special needs and disabilities in a normal classroom now.
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@slayer08 (2374)
• Philippines
25 Mar 17
@rusty2rusty having special needs mingle with other kids is supposed to be healthy. But most kids don't have a wide understanding of having special needs. They simply see them as different and it amuses them. There's something wrong in this concept but that's how it is specially of the kid, no less than the bully, is not taught values at home or school. I just hope this bully will leave your daughter alone.
@alberello75 (21276)
• Genova, Italy
24 Mar 17
You see, unfortunately the negative phenomenon of bullying, is increasing dramatically! I have been bullied in the past, I never changed in character and so I could be a victim even today. You have to know that I am afraid of my brother who is 11 years younger than me! I know, it's hard to get out of certain bad situations. I believe that the blame, is of the parents of these bullies who have rude their sons! Your daughter, is able to at least give slaps toward these bad guys?
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• Defiance, Ohio
24 Mar 17
Not when her back is turned and she has no clue who is doing it.
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@alberello75 (21276)
• Genova, Italy
25 Mar 17
@rusty2rusty Yes, I know, bullies, are people without the slightest touch of dignity!
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@Nawsheen (22874)
• Mauritius
24 Mar 17
Bullying do have bad consequences. The principal should have taken more stricter actions. Maybe you should talk with the principal first
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• Defiance, Ohio
24 Mar 17
I do know he yelled at the kid. As kids in the lunchroom videotaped him yelling at the kid and it was all over snapchat.
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@Nawsheen (22874)
• Mauritius
24 Mar 17
@rusty2rusty i hope that he has learnt his lesson and will not bully your daughter again. But as a parent you are bound to get worried. Just yelling at him wont help resolve the problem. He should have been suspended or punished
@Shavkat (72403)
• Philippines
24 Mar 17
I cannot tolerate this. I need to go school and call the attention of the principal about it.
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• Defiance, Ohio
24 Mar 17
I can't either. It baffles me how another student could treat someone this way.
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@DWDavis (16330)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
26 Mar 17
@rusty2rusty I am curious as the what demographic group the boy who did it falls into, and if he is one of the feral children I wrote about.
• India
24 Mar 17
These things are really worst at school,meeting principal if doesn't resolve the issue you must complain to police as soon as possible,hope it does work
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• Defiance, Ohio
24 Mar 17
Thank you. I hope it does too.
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• India
25 Mar 17
@rusty2rusty may it do so hopefully.
@LadyDuck (207980)
• Switzerland
24 Mar 17
Bullying continues just because the school principals do not take action against the bullies. Be sure to do something to stop this.
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• Defiance, Ohio
24 Mar 17
Thank you. I have spoken to one principal. The other is not responding. I am filing a report.
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@LadyDuck (207980)
• Switzerland
25 Mar 17
@rusty2rusty You are right to file a report, if nobody acts, the bullies will never stop.
@franxav (6140)
24 Mar 17
I hate bullies too. As a foster parent of many children I have to be on the watch that no one of them is bullied. If one of them is bullied in school I speak to the principal to stop it. In your case, I believe, a written complaint should work. Get it signed by the principal and keep a copy of it. If the bully doesn't behave, a sterner action can be taken.
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@DWDavis (16330)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
26 Mar 17
@rusty2rusty If they persist in calling her nasty names, or any names, after she tells them to stop, that is harassment and if the Principal won't do anything you need to go over his or her head to the superintendent or the Chairman of the School Board. Let them know you are considering legal action, not just a criminal complaint, but a lawsuit against the School System for not providing your daughter with a safe and secure learning environment. Make sure you use those words, as the law requires them to provide such an environment. And document everything. Which children are bullying her, how often, what they say, what you've said to the principals, their responses, same with the guidance counselor and anyone else you talk to.
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• United States
24 Mar 17
sometimes nothing short of threatening law action gets a school to step in.. you'd think they would have learned by now.
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• Defiance, Ohio
24 Mar 17
I am going to file a report. I am not threatening. I am going to do it.
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@mohdovi (1097)
24 Mar 17
I hate bullies, an action must be taken against such people. It is necessary, you should meet principal regarding this issue.
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• Defiance, Ohio
24 Mar 17
Yes, I have done this.
@ilocosboy (42428)
• Philippines
24 Mar 17
Sometimes an action against bullying is necessary
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• Defiance, Ohio
24 Mar 17
In this case I think it applies. What would you suggest?
@megatron777 (3766)
• Guam
24 Mar 17
Yes, there were instances. I fought back against the bully.
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• Defiance, Ohio
24 Mar 17
I use to fight back to where they left me alone. She tries but because of her issues they bully her more. They call her nasty bad names that she doesn't deserve. Now this!
@allknowing (78686)
• India
24 Mar 17
It continues because the powers that be do nothing. They are too lazy to pursue.
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• Midland, Michigan
24 Mar 17
So she wasn't the only one in the lunchroom, but she was sitting alone? Has this happened before, or has she had run-ins with this particular boy before? I don't like bullies either, but I'm not sure that can be construed as bully behavior unless it's an ongoing thing with him. It may not hurt to talk with the police about it, but if it's a new thing I don't know whether they'd do anything just yet. How old is your daughter?
• Defiance, Ohio
24 Mar 17
It was lunch period. There were other kids there. She was sitting at a table by herself. I am not sure if she has had issues with this boy before. She has had issues of being bullied in the lunchroom before. My daughter is 16. She has ADHD, ODD, learning disabilities, cognitive issues etc. You would think she is normal till you heard her start talking. Throwing something and hitting my daughter is the same to me as if someone placed their hands on her.
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@ramapo17 (26990)
• Melbourne, Florida
22 Apr
I have never been bullied but can sympathize with all the other children that have. It is awful and has to stop.
@zarlamain (24837)
• United States
27 Aug 17
I hope you filed a report immediately because it hit her head! Even if it's just a box, it hit a place where she can get a concussion or a worse injury. The principal yelling at him is not enough. He needs to get suspended and write a formal apology letter to your daughter. I don't think your daughter wants to see him again, so it's better that he doesn't show up in front of her. Yes, I have been intensely bullied as a student. I have been hit many times in high school. One time, a guy (one year older student who was held back a year, go figure) took off a shoe and hit me in the head with it. It flew across the room and just hit the right side of my head. I will never forget that. I was a powerless freshman student at the time and no one was willing to help me - parent, teacher, staff member, or classmates - when I told them about this. I gave up. I put up with it until I graduated high school, moved many states away to attend a prestigious university, and never saw those people again. It's disappointing that even my parents didn't stand up for me. Fortunately, I did not get an injury, but at that moment it hurt a lot. I was powerless then, so I couldn't do anything about it because the adults in my life didn't care. If this were to happen to me now, I would report this to the authorities and sue that kid.
@Courtlynn (60364)
• United States
26 Mar 17
I'm not sure you can file a report with the police.. I do know though that you can go above the principal if nothing is being done. As its happening to a few friends kids at different schools.
@delhshop (773)
25 Mar 17
make sure that all is reported you need to keep her safe and at least this time be with her all the time, o h my God that is the worst thing to happen to any one, hope she is safe and fine, good luck solving this with the principal