I was furious watching a woman ignoring her infant!

Parent prefers phone over their child's love
@dragon54u (31607)
United States
April 14, 2017 12:01pm CST
I had to take my car in for an airbag repair due to a recall and was sitting there reading a book when I heard a small child cooing. I looked up and there sat a mom about 10 feet away from me. She had a child in a baby carrier, I couldn't see him/her because the shade top was attached to the handle but the mom started rocking the carrier with her foot---she was too busy on her phone to pick the child up and interact with it. Minutes went by and the child became louder, trying to get the mother's attention. The mother rocked it harder as she typed away on her phone. This went on for about 10 minutes and finally the child began to cry because it could not get mom to pay attention. So mom got up, still on her phone, and began walking around with the carrier. Apparently the motion soothed the child because it stopped making noise. I was so angry at that woman. She was throwing away moments she will never be able to get back just to text on that stupid phone. Ignoring her child who was desperately trying to get her attention. That child will grow up knowing that he or she is not as important as a smart phone. What a horrible scourge on society are smart phones! People willingly become slaves to these things, ignoring their children and even letting their relationships break up because they can't put the phones down. I hope no one here ignores their child for their phone. If you do, please stop. The phone can't love you and your actions make no difference to it but your child is affected for life by that rejection.
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@TRBRocks420 (73792)
• Banks, Oregon
14 Apr 17
That is bad. I don't like seeing that either, your baby is more important than anything on your phone woman.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
14 Apr 17
Yes, and you have to be a little sad for that woman. She'll wonder in the future why she and her child aren't closer and will completely forget ignoring the child in favor of the phone.
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@TRBRocks420 (73792)
• Banks, Oregon
14 Apr 17
@dragon54u Yes, people often take things for granted. But I hope they will be close.
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@nanette64 (17114)
• Fairfield, Texas
14 Apr 17
You are absolutely correct @dragon54u . In this lady's case, when the child gets older, she will shove an iPad in front of the kid so as not to 'bother' her while she is on her phone. I wish there was a massive power outage across the planet for a solid month. Hopefully all those people would either get a clue OR they'd hang themselves.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
14 Apr 17
I agree! As long as the power outage only the phones and iPads of "civilians" and not medical personnel. I saw a medical show last week where the computer network was attacked and they could not use their computers or tablets and they had a very difficult time because very few of them had ever worked with paper records and communications before! It was kind of scary. I think everyone should know how to do their job or live their life without electronics.
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@nanette64 (17114)
• Fairfield, Texas
14 Apr 17
@dragon54u Yeah, I think that was Chicago Med. Definitely the emergency crowd should still have access.
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@DianneN (74275)
• United States
14 Apr 17
Some people shouldn't be allowed to have children! I've seen too much of the same thing happening.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
14 Apr 17
Me, too. It breaks my heart to see a child trying to show off for mom at the park, calling to her "look at me, Mommy!" and she completely ignores them. What is more important than your child?!
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@DianneN (74275)
• United States
15 Apr 17
@dragon54u Not a darn thing!
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@Courtlynn (65541)
• United States
14 Apr 17
Totally agree with this post!
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
14 Apr 17
Thank you. Our children are our future and we should cherish them over electronic devices. My mom always told me, "never love something that can't love you back" and I see a lot of people not listening to that advice when it comes to their phones vs. their children and other relationships.
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@Courtlynn (65541)
• United States
14 Apr 17
@dragon54u very true. Smart mom. I cant stand the way lots of parents are with their kids. But this one bugs me alot
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@manasamanu (3759)
• Bangalore, India
14 Apr 17
Its true she shouldn't ignore her child just for a smartphone. These days young people get attached to their phones and don't even see vehicles on the road. They meet accidents and die just because of these phones.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
14 Apr 17
Yes, there was a horrific wreck down in Georgia when a truck hit a senior citizens church bus. Most of the oldies were killed and the truck's driver was fine. He was texting and several people reporting him weaving all over the road. Unfortunately, the highway patrol did not stop him before he murdered some innocent people.
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• Bangalore, India
15 Apr 17
@dragon54u That's so bad, was he punished or not? He must be very severely.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
15 Apr 17
@manasamanu This happened just recently. He'll have to be charged, probably with vehicular manslaughter, then go to trial unless he is able to make a plea deal. It will take a year or more, probably, to get him to a sentencing date if they charge him at all. Things move so slowly in our system and sometimes there is no justice at all. For instance, most of the parents who let their kids drown in pools are not punished at all because supposedly "they have suffered enough". No example is set and so parents continue to take their eyes off their kids and more kids drown.
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@Meramar (2299)
14 Apr 17
When this mom gets old and needs help of her child, this one won't be there to give her the attention she will need. No chance to ask "where are you?", as the well known answer will be: "where were you when I needed you?" That's the generation we are raising now. Couples and whole families at the table for dinner, everyone on his or her phone talking with someone else. But, nobody remembers the real reason of life.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
14 Apr 17
It's very sad and frustrating. It would be a blessing if smart phones ceased to function somehow.
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@Meramar (2299)
14 Apr 17
@dragon54u Maybe the main problem is that the smartphones have too many functions nowadays and not only one as the first phones were produced for.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
15 Apr 17
@Meramar Definitely. It's bad enough they can make and receive calls but now they can do everything. It's what makes money for the corporations who sell the phones and airtime so it won't stop.
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@Shavkat (56727)
• Philippines
15 Apr 17
That's a bad thing for a mother to do. It will be a great impact for a child.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
15 Apr 17
Yes, I think that it will. Poor child. Hopefully he has another relative close who will make him feel valued and loved or at least more important than a phone.
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@Shavkat (56727)
• Philippines
16 Apr 17
@dragon54u I agree. Some children will be isolated if the mother continued this habit.
@JudyEv (118795)
• Bunbury, Australia
15 Apr 17
It is very sad that texting was taking precedence over the child.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
15 Apr 17
It takes precedence over everything! People can't even let themselves enjoy a meal without their phone being there. It's insane.
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@JudyEv (118795)
• Bunbury, Australia
15 Apr 17
@dragon54u It drives me berserk too. You can be talking to someone and suddenly they have to check their phone! I think it is very rude.
@boiboing (12206)
• Northampton, England
14 Apr 17
I learned a long time ago to never judge any parent for their behaviour towards a child.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
14 Apr 17
You are right but the majority of parents that act this way are texting about shopping or playing games because I've walked by and looked at their phones. The child was trying so hard to get her attention. It was heartbreaking. And the woman was smiling as she worked on her phone so she must've been doing something more fun to her than taking care of her child. Well, at least she rocked the carrier.
@boiboing (12206)
• Northampton, England
15 Apr 17
@Fleurnight We none of us know the details of another person's life. There could be a thousand good and less obvious reasons why the mother was using her phone and not paying attention to her child. Admittedly it's more likely the obvious explanations apply, but we should never presume to know the full details.
• New Delhi, India
14 Apr 17
True . Some mothers are just like that
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
14 Apr 17
They should not be mothers if they don't want to take care of their children. I feel so sad for the children.
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• New Delhi, India
15 Apr 17
@dragon54u I agree
@dramagirl26 (3366)
• Ringgold, Virginia
21 Apr 17
Sadly, that the way society is. It's a shame parents place more emphasis on their phones than their kids.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
21 Apr 17
A phone won't love you or hug you. I don't understand this. I guess you have to be raised with this technology in order to understand the obsession with it.
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@Tampa_girl7 (24889)
• United States
20 Apr 17
I really don't get this telephone addiction that people have
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
20 Apr 17
They are on Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, Twitter and others, feeding their ego and pretending that they are important to other people. The truly important people, their children, they ignore for the virtual world. It's sad. And I believe it's a valid mental addiction that's becoming serious. Businesses lose millions in productivity, people lose lives and limbs in accidents caused by someone using the phone, and we're raising a generation of neglected children. The price is so high, I wish they'd never been created.
@BelleStarr (37026)
• Portland, Connecticut
17 Apr 17
Some people do seem obsessed with their phones over all else, it is really sad.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
17 Apr 17
It is sad, because they think they are living and they're not. They're interacting with an electronic device and living in a dream world.
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@reskyyandi (3823)
• Indonesia
16 Apr 17
Ummm, not a good parent
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
17 Apr 17
Unless there's a mitigating factor we don't know, I don't think she's a good parent either.
@RubyHawk (21698)
• Atlanta, Georgia
16 Apr 17
I hear you. It burns me up to see people attached to a cell phone like a second skin. Sometimes I think the world has gone crazy.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
16 Apr 17
I really think it has! When you see people walking into traffic and over cliffs looking at their phones, when you hear there are more than 100 different genders of humans, when a person can marry their horse, how can anyone say the world is sane?
@jstory07 (65293)
• Roseburg, Oregon
15 Apr 17
Parents do that all the time and do not care they are only interested in being on their cell phone.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
15 Apr 17
I don't know who I'm sorrier for, them or their kids. The kids will grow up ignored and not really attached to the parents. When the parents grow older and realize what they've done they'll realize they can't make amends and they threw away years of their lives and their precious children for the sake of a piece of junk and some imaginary status.
@OreoBrownie (3491)
• Elberton, Georgia
14 Apr 17
It's too bad that parents don't care so might for their kids.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
14 Apr 17
I don't understand why they are so selfish, so self-absorbed. In my day, having a child made you realize that the world did not revolve around you, that there were wonderful and miraculous aspects to the world that filled your life with satisfaction and love in the form of children. I would have liked to smack that horrible girl but she probably would have taken it out on her child--but not before she updated her status on Facebook to reflect my hostility!
@Corbin5 (99913)
• United States
14 Apr 17
Smart phones have taken time away from the most important things in life. It is a shame, for sure.
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• Banks, Oregon
15 Apr 17
Some people shouldn't be parents
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@diosabella (4822)
16 Apr 17
Maybe she's not the mom but a bad nanny. That was awful to do to a kid.