I Told Dennis To Marry Me To Become NZ Resident Before He Leaves Forever

Cornwall park, Auckland, NZ
@cacay1 (32757)
Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
April 23, 2017 6:58am CST
It was seriously told to him through email to marry me hehehehe to become a resident in new Zealand for he no longer replies my messages .He finally replied me telling to have a Skype with him shortly this day. We did chat shortly this day almost 10 minutes and I was so brave to follow up my proposal . His reply was, " Sorry sweetie, I am dying and I can no longer make you happy, sick!. I told him to defend my defeat, I was only teasing you,LOL. I plan not to anymore go there to take care of him, no use at all.He does not know the real definition of companionship. I hope I am right in my decision, anyway, I am happy being single and free. Thanks and have a nice Sunday with the Lord and your loves of life. Image of Cornwall Park , Auckland, NZ my personal shot
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@allknowing (63648)
• India
23 Apr 17
He could have obliged you. No harm and do not give up. Who cares for him there?
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Apr 17
@allknowing their government mandates tgeir social workers to visit every sick patient at least 3 times a week to clean his house, cook some foods, and drive him to shopping mall for his consumption.
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@allknowing (63648)
• India
23 Apr 17
@cacay1 That is some help. But does he live alone?
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Apr 17
@allknowing Yes he lives alone for many years .
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@Happy2BeMe (74680)
• Canada
23 Apr 17
You have tried and he has continued to push you away. You have no choice but to move on. So sorry.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Apr 17
@Happy2BeMe That is right. I am not a martyr to continue sacrificing without something in return.
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@Happy2BeMe (74680)
• Canada
24 Apr 17
@cacay1 and that is understandable
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
25 Apr 17
@Happy2BeMe Thank you friend. All I need from him is to support become a resident there. It is hard for there are so many requirements to apply as NZ resident.Better if there is marriage to happen for after few months the wife can become a resident, so sad story of my life years put to waste.
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@manasamanu (3754)
• Bangalore, India
23 Apr 17
You are right if he does not want to marry you then no point in meeting him but since it is his last days he might want you to stay with him.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Apr 17
@manasamanu , I won't go for him for he is so hesitant to send his sponsorship form. He must sponsor me so the NZ embassy can grant his request to take care him for some months.
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• Bangalore, India
24 Apr 17
@cacay1 He must be very rude then, you better stay alone rather than indulging yourself with him.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
25 Apr 17
@manasamanu That word fits him yes rude and selfish. He does not care for me.
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@SIMPLYD (78809)
• Philippines
24 Apr 17
I think he is thinking that if he marries you, you will inherit whatever properties he will be leaving behind. That will put you in a hated situation by those family or relatives he has.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Apr 17
@SIMPLYD , actually he already got my bank account number I do not know if his son will fulfill what is written in his last will and testament.
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@SIMPLYD (78809)
• Philippines
25 Apr 17
@cacay1 Why, do you know if he left you money already in his will? His son might not indeed fulfill that.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
25 Apr 17
@SIMPLYD He told me for he asked my bank account details and had sent it to him last week,
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@ridingbet (50385)
• Philippines
24 Apr 17
you mean to say, you are not leaving for NZ anymore? so you will stick to your work as a professor here, again?
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Apr 17
@ridingbet, yes friend because of many reasons that I have resolved. Plus until this day, he does not download his sponsorship form, so hard to gamble and I might just be crying there of loneliness.
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@ridingbet (50385)
• Philippines
24 Apr 17
@cacay1 that is true. maybe he does not want that he leave you in sorrow.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
25 Apr 17
@ridingbet You are right friend,plus I noticed when we chat his voice is down as if his PD is getting worse.
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@allen0187 (33141)
• Philippines
23 Apr 17
Hope everything works out well for you. Things may not end up as you planned but you will receive the result that you worked for and deserve.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Apr 17
@allen0187 , I hope, and my decision not to go is final for it will be useless to file leave of absence just to take care of him. My income in Philippines might be put to nothing.
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@allen0187 (33141)
• Philippines
25 Apr 17
@cacay1 you tried and made an offer. He declined. You just have to live with his decision.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
25 Apr 17
@allen0187 , Yes true, they are not like us , they always have a decision final.
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@nomus24g (22336)
• India
23 Apr 17
can you give a brief background to this please...?
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Apr 17
@nomus24g What particular background you want?
@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Apr 17
@nomus24g Many Mylotters here know Dennis my NZ partner since 2008 because he is sick of PD and other sicknesses like Urethra , skin cancer ( operated twice) he backout to what he already promised me to arrange our marriage), I cannot blame him,
@nomus24g (22336)
• India
23 Apr 17
@cacay1 yes, I know about your partner...and the fact that he is sick n unwell...didnt know about the marriage thing
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@dodo19 (32698)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
23 Apr 17
You have tried to make things happen and let him know that you are there for him. If he keeps pushing you away, then sometimes it's just best to let it go. I know it's hard, but that's the way it is sometimes.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Apr 17
@dodo19, Thank you there, you inspire me with your wonderful words very true. There is no reason why suffer more for nothing to hope for.
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@dodo19 (32698)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
24 Apr 17
@cacay1 You are most welcome. You are a wonderful person, and sometimes it's just better to move on.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
25 Apr 17
@dodo19 , Thanks dear for inspiring me, I must move on for my own benefits.
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@DianneN (76153)
• United States
23 Apr 17
I don't see why he won't marry you for those reasons. Is he worried about his will? If you came to terms with his decision, then good for you.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Apr 17
@DianneN That might be his strong reason for he has wealth though in his last will and testament I have some part of his wealth, I do not know how true is it. He might also be afraid that I might find another guy there.
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@DianneN (76153)
• United States
29 Apr 17
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
29 Apr 17
@DianneN afraid of not yet happening.
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@1hopefulman (27588)
• Canada
23 Apr 17
Relationships are complicated and success depends on many factors. Glad you are happy being single and free!
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Apr 17
@1hopefulman yes being single does a lot of freedom and peace of mind.
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@1hopefulman (27588)
• Canada
24 Apr 17
@cacay1 Yes, there are a lot of advantages and a few disadvantages. Though, I don't plan of being single for eternity. I am just waiting for the next world to see what happens.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
25 Apr 17
@1hopefulman I am happy with my single life lots of freedom, no opposition.
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@kevinakash (1947)
• Sri Lanka
23 Apr 17
hope you will enjoy your life with this new change
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Apr 17
@kevinakash , gradually I may achieve my full freedom and total peace. At least I have decided and it's final. Thank you friend.
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• Sri Lanka
24 Apr 17
@cacay1 you are are welcome
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
25 Apr 17
@kevinakash Thank you and with pleasure.
@silvermist (20107)
• India
23 Apr 17
@cacay1 I think he could have married you.If not then you need not go there any more.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Apr 17
@silvermist yes my friend, I might lost my dignity and morale as a professor taking someone for nothing just for the sake of love? He has a son he must be the one to take care of him. Dennis is so selfish. We been in a relationship for many years but he has no courage to help me become a citizen there. My work visa before expired naturally for it was not transferred to the new visa. He lacks support because of his sickness. It should have been before when he was well.He is a businessman yet never had he bought some material things for me . My cousin and many friend prospered in their foreigner boyfriends/ husband and now living happily. In short, I am not lucky in love.
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@silvermist (20107)
• India
26 Apr 17
@cacay1 Taking help and solace from you all these years and not willing to help you shows his selfishness.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
26 Apr 17
@silvermist That is true, he is also greedy of his money considering the millions he has in his bank. He told me will share his wealth and it is his son who would send it to me through my bank . I do not know if it will be honored by his son when he is gone and he cannot see what his son is doing.
@antonbunot (9513)
• Calgary, Alberta
24 Apr 17
Well, if he loves you, even if he could no longer make you happy (Hehehe, I don't know what he really means he could not make you happy . . I am just guessing what is in my mind.), he should marry you. But how could he marry you when you are in PI while he is in NZ?! Can a priest or judge officiate a marriage thru Skype?
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
25 Apr 17
@antonbunot You make my dear my friend.It can be thru Facebook
@jstory07 (66171)
• Roseburg, Oregon
24 Apr 17
Yes if you are happy being single and free. Stay that way.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Apr 17
@jstory07, thanks Judy , you inspire me more to move on.
@ms1864 (6993)
• Bangalore, India
24 Apr 17
Oh! Sorry to hear it didn't work out between the two of you. But it is nice to hear that you are strong and moving forward.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Apr 17
@ms1864 , That you friend, I have to or else I will wake up I am already very old.
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@jaboUK (53539)
• United Kingdom
24 Apr 17
At least you were able to talk to him, even if it wasn't for very long.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Apr 17
@jaboUK That was because of my message to him to if possible marry me so I can acquire residency there, no use at all no matter how. He is right by the way for he only has few months or years to live. Thanks friend,
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@Hate2Iron (7763)
• Canada
23 Apr 17
what a sad story... I hope that things improve for him!!
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Apr 17
@Hate2Iron truly sad my dear and my heart is still bleeding in pain and despair.
• Philippines
23 Apr 17
I hope that you will still have great days with him. God bless you and may God fill your heart with whatever you really need.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Apr 17
@luisadannointed it seems great days are fading.
@just4him (113584)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
23 Apr 17
I am glad you have come to terms with this situation. I know it's hard to lose someone you love and have loved for a long time. The time is coming soon when you will feel that loss very deeply. My prayers are with you.
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@cacay1 (32757)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Apr 17
@just4him Thank you friend you make me cry again for these reality words soon I have to face and accept.Why I decided not to go, it hurts me more when see his parting day. Thank you for comforting me my friend very much appreciated.