Fighting With My Sister

By Jabo
@jaboUK (50721)
United Kingdom
June 11, 2017 4:34pm CST
We were three girls in our family, and as children we two younger ones were always scrapping. Our older sister was a peace-maker, but she couldn't stop us from going at each other hammer and tongs at the slightest argument. It's a wonder we had any hair left because that was the first thing we went for. Here my sister had an advantage as I used to wear my hair in plaits, and these were easier to grab than just loose hair. One day when we were probably about 11 and 12 years old and our parents were at work, we started an argument which inevitably turned into a fight. We were in the living room, and knocked over a table which fell against the window, breaking it. It was a big window and we were aghast at what we had done. To say that we awaited our parents' return with trepidation would be an understatement! Our punishment was to have no pocket money until a new window had been paid for, which took several months. It didn't stop us fighting however, but we tended to go outside to do it after that. By the way, we are the best of friends now. Did you ever physically fight with your siblings when you were children? Photo is of my sister on the left, aged 12, and me on the right aged 11.
68 people like this
67 responses
• United States
11 Jun
what cuties 'n ya still're :) physically fight with a siblin'? uhm, yes ma'am. the brother'n i used to duke't out quite oft, but always outdoors 'n 'way from pryin' eyes. ne'er did the hair pullin', cat fightin' kinda schtuff. noperz, 'twas always fists a flyin'! those black eyes'n busted noses were 't times diff'cult to pawn off'n jest playin'. the folks'd beat the tar outta 's, yet such didn't cease the brothers hatred fer me. he passed when he 'twas 19 'n we ne'er made amends.
8 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
11 Jun
@crazyhorseladycx That was a tragically young age for your brother to die, and I'm sorry you never got on. I didn't hate my sister, but we were always disagreeing, though I don't think we ever used fists like you.
4 people like this
• United States
11 Jun
@jaboUK yes ma'am, i 'twas 16 't the time. my momma said he hated me from the day i was born 'n such ne'er got better.
3 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@crazyhorseladycx What a sad situation.
3 people like this
@marlina (62408)
• Canada
11 Jun
Pretty looking young ladies! We were 4 girls and 2 boys. My Mom kept a very tight ship. No place for fighting in that house. We were soon put at our place.
7 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
11 Jun
@marlina Our mum wasn't always around to discipline us, so we did get wild at times.
2 people like this
@marlina (62408)
• Canada
11 Jun
@jaboUK Our Mom was a stay at home Mom.
3 people like this
• Midland, Michigan
20 Jun
@marlina My mom was a stay at home mom, too, Marie, but when she'd go shopping or do other errands and after two of us were old enough to watch over the others, was when we'd get into our shenanigans.
3 people like this
@louievill (16341)
• Philippines
11 Jun
Never had a physical fight with my siblings simply because my parents gave me the task to protect them, my sister is 2 years older than me and my father always told me that men has to look after and protect girls. My brother is 2 years younger so I have to look after him too and see that he does not get bullied. I did not fight with them simply maybe because of the family set-up.
6 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
11 Jun
@louievill That was a lot of responsibility for a child to be expected to look after the others. There were less than 3 years between the 3 of us, so no-one was expected to look after any of the others.
2 people like this
@thelme55 (11876)
• Germany
11 Jun
@jaboUK in the Philippines, an elder child hast to take care and has responsibilities to take care of the younger ones even if they are still very young of age. They are expected to look after the small ones.
2 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@thelme55 I think it's a pity if a child can't just enjoy being a child, but I do see the advantages of your system.
1 person likes this
@TheHorse (52910)
• Pleasant Hill, California
11 Jun
My brother and I went at it many times.
6 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
11 Jun
@TheHorse I suppose it's natural to lash out at each other when annoyed, if you're a child.
4 people like this
@TheHorse (52910)
• Pleasant Hill, California
12 Jun
@jaboUK If it's in the Bible (Cain and Abel), it's probably been happening for a while.
2 people like this
@just4him (92365)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Jun
Good photos of both of you. Of course I fought with my siblings. I thought all siblings did that. I don't recall breaking anything though.
3 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@just4him I thought it was normal too, but some of the commenters here say they never fought.
1 person likes this
@just4him (92365)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Jun
@jaboUK To me that would be weird. Does that mean I am? Hmm.
1 person likes this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@just4him Well if you are, then I am too!
1 person likes this
@EMuhungi (1748)
• Nairobi, Kenya
11 Jun
A very good story about your childhood.
3 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
11 Jun
@EMuhungi Thank you, I'm pleased that you thought so.
1 person likes this
@EMuhungi (1748)
• Nairobi, Kenya
11 Jun
@jaboUK I too used to fight a lot with my twin brother. So I understand.
2 people like this
@marlina (62408)
• Canada
11 Jun
@EMuhungi I thought twins got along so well!
2 people like this
@BelleStarr (32085)
• Portland, Connecticut
12 Jun
I am the eldest with two brothers younger, we didn't have physical fights but we did disagree verbally. We are also good friends now, as a matter of fact, I am driving up with hubs to visit the younger one this week and spending several days with him and his wife.
3 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@BelleStarr Siblings are bound to have disagreements, glad yours didn't get physical. Enjoy your visit to your brother. We sisters and our families are are getting together in August for my eldest sister's 80th birthday.
1 person likes this
@BelleStarr (32085)
• Portland, Connecticut
12 Jun
@jaboUK That must be a jolly time with lots of memories shared. I know when we three are together that is what we do. It is amazing how different some of our memories of the same events are.
1 person likes this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@BelleStarr Oh you are so right there Isabelle - sometimes I can't believe we are talking about the same thing!
1 person likes this
@Nawsheen (22859)
• Mauritius
12 Jun
That's a nice photo of you both. I am sure that you both laugh when you now think of those fights. I have no siblings
3 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@Nawsheen Yes, we laugh about the fighting now that we are both old ladies
1 person likes this
@Nawsheen (22859)
• Mauritius
12 Jun
@jaboUK those are some good memories
1 person likes this
@Happy2BeMe (69868)
• Canada
11 Jun
I had five sisters and we never physically fought. My parents would not have tolerated that. Good story and awesome pictures of the two of you.
3 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
11 Jun
Five sisters? Wow, that's a houseful. You never fought even when your parents weren't around?
1 person likes this
@Happy2BeMe (69868)
• Canada
12 Jun
@jaboUK No not really. I dont ever remember any physical fight ever. Now I don't have anything to do with three of them.
1 person likes this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@Happy2BeMe I remember you saying before about the split with those siblings.
1 person likes this
• United States
12 Jun
There were four girls in the family, I was second oldest. We certainly had out share of fights, but not hair pulling that I remember. We all wore pony tails so it would be an easy retaliation. We are all good friends too.
3 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@Jeanniemaries The hair pulling is what I remember most, but we did a lot of pushing and shoving too. That's great that you are good friends with your sisters now, like me.
1 person likes this
• United States
12 Jun
@jaboUK Oh yes, pushing and shoving for sure. I actually once remember a pounding on the back. Girls can be pretty rough!
1 person likes this
@allknowing (55810)
• India
12 Jun
We were the best of friends when we were kids but sadly not any more. There is a drift and we are just about scraping when it comes to interaction.
3 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@allknowing Sorry to hear that Grace. I only see my sisters once or twice a year, but we get on like a house on fire.
2 people like this
@jstory07 (57940)
• Roseburg, Oregon
12 Jun
My two older brothers were nice to me and never fought with me. They did however fight with each other.
3 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@jstory07 That's good, I think it's natural for boys to fight. Not so much girls, like my sister and me.
1 person likes this
@LadyDuck (122389)
• Switzerland
12 Jun
I guessed correctly that you are the one on the right. I only have a younger brother, only one year and half younger. We never fought until I reached about the age of 16 and he used to have great pleasure to mess my things. Anyway we never had physical fights because I am petite and thin and he has always been very tall and big.
2 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@LadyDuck Well done for guessing which one I am. I'm glad your brother didn't try to hurt you physically, that wouldn't have been a fair match at all.
1 person likes this
@LadyDuck (122389)
• Switzerland
13 Jun
@jaboUK It would have not be fair at all, he did not hurt me, but when we entered into arguments, he used to lift me up and put me on top of the tall refrigerator in the kitchen. It was a problem coming down, my father did not appreciate when he did this.
1 person likes this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
13 Jun
@LadyDuck That sounds quite funny Anna
1 person likes this
@Essjayd (1168)
11 Jun
My brother and I had many full on fights when we were growing up. Several windows and a glass door were broken along with many household items. There were at least 2 trips to hospital that I can remember. He got stitches in his head due to me shoving him downstairs and I scored a broken arm when he slammed it in a door!
2 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@Essjayd I suppose that's the difference between boys and girls - boys can do serious injury. We only scratched and pulled hair.
1 person likes this
@Essjayd (1168)
12 Jun
@jaboUK Haha yeah but I'm a girl!! I have to admit I'm glad I had a bully for an older brother! I got attacked a few years ago and thanks to all those times fighting my brother I don't think my attacker knew what hit him
2 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@Essjayd Yes I know you are a girl, I think you told me before. But your brother obviously made no concessions due to that. That was good that you were able to fight off that attacker due to the 'skills' you learnt asa child.
1 person likes this
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
12 Jun
O! I have three girls and I must say, that all my two young ones do is fight, and I'm like oh my goodness when will it end? I mean they can be talking on minute, then the next minute they are literally about to bite eachother head off. Lol.
2 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@willgirl2013 It will get better, though it might take a few years!
1 person likes this
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
12 Jun
@jaboUK are you sure about that because I have two nieces that fight and they are older to..lol so I wonder.. I hope so though! because I tell them to stick together.
1 person likes this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
13 Jun
@willgirl2013 Well obviously I can't be sure how it will be for your children, but can only say how it was for me and my sisters.
@MALUSE (32958)
• Denmark
12 Jun
I have no siblings, so no fight experience.
2 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@MALUSE Were you lonely as a child? Did you wish for a sibling?
@MALUSE (32958)
• Denmark
13 Jun
@jaboUK No, I wasn't lonely. During my first nine years I had a cousin living nearby and later I was a member of a canoe club. We were always together paddling and camping. It was a good time.
1 person likes this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
13 Jun
@MALUSE That's good.
@snowy22315 (34374)
• United States
12 Jun
Yes, I was kind of a bully! I once got spanked on Christmas day because I dropped a snow globe on her head! Luckily, it was plastic!
2 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@snowy22315 That is a good job the globe wasn't heavier. I hope you are friends now.
1 person likes this
@snowy22315 (34374)
• United States
12 Jun
@jaboUK Yeah, we are. It would be nice to be closer, but she doesn't seem interested. I am going to visit her and her family this weekend though.
1 person likes this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@snowy22315 That's good, have a nice visit.
1 person likes this
@Inlemay (17336)
• South Africa
12 Jun
My baby sister was the biter and hair puller, but I never got that close to her for her to do any of that to me. I am still not close to her . . . Nor any of the others, it seems I was the odd ball in the family, kept my nose in the books
2 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@Inlemay Lol - you never got close enough to have your hair pulled! Sorry you aren't close to any of your siblings.
1 person likes this
@Inlemay (17336)
• South Africa
12 Jun
@jaboUK And I had long long hair to that - no I never got close enough to suffer the brunt of a sibling, only their silent brunt that hurts the unseen heart
1 person likes this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
1 person likes this
@sol_cee (13620)
• Japan
12 Jun
Hammer and tongs! Lol
2 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@sol_cee Aren't you familiar with that phrase? It's commonplace here and didn't think that anyone wouldn't know it.
1 person likes this
@sol_cee (13620)
• Japan
12 Jun
@jaboUK English isn't my first language so I don't know that phrase. :)
1 person likes this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@sol_cee Now you've learned something new
@thelme55 (11876)
• Germany
11 Jun
Gorgeous girls you both are in the photo. We have not fight physically with my sister but verbally. As adults, we laughed about our fights before.
2 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@thelme55 Oh yes, we had lots of verbal fights too, but like you, that was all laughed at when we grew up,
2 people like this
@TheHorse (52910)
• Pleasant Hill, California
12 Jun
@jaboUK Alas, my brother and I are still at odds about many things.
2 people like this
@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
12 Jun
@TheHorse Sorry to hear that.
2 people like this