Feeling Ignored
By Poison_Girl
@Poison_Girl (4150)
United States
November 26, 2006 9:04pm CST
I am so tired of my family not listening to me. Any time I have an idea, nobody thinks about it or goes with it. My mom has an iBook that's been broken for some time now. A while back, I suggested a website called techrestore.com to my parents to check out cuz they fix stuff like that. And guess what? NOBODY listened! Then my brother e-mails the link to my mom and suddenly it's a brilliant idea. Why was it a crap idea when I suggested it? I swear, it's like they all think I'm too stupid to think of anything intelligent, but I'm perfectly capable of helping them with their stupid computer issues. Anyone else ever have this problem with their families??
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12 responses
@therosemob (29)
• Australia
28 Nov 06
Dont be sad. This happens all the time to a lot of people.Some times it is better to sit back and watch and listen until everyone is well and truly stuck and then if you know how to fix the problem just step in and fix it.
Dont expect praise just fix the problem and walk away.
Do this a few times and then someone will wake up that you arent as dumb as they thought and then one day they will ask you first.
Your brother probably heard you telling them about the site anyway and decided to do the practical thing and send them the link.
Chin up, someone somewhere will be thankful of your knowledge one day. It doesnt have to be family.
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@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Nah, my brother didn't hear me. It was a long time ago and he wasn't around when I told them. I know my good friends appreciate my knowledge and that helps, but it's still frustrating when my family doesn't listen. Thanks for your comment. :)
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@yugi_sen (1741)
• India
27 Nov 06
Dont worry dude... things will fall in line there are a lot who have this. Why do you worry on people to listen to you. Leave it just tell your suggestion to all you feel and dont expect in return anything.
They will undertstand one day or forget it u will atleast find one who understands u.
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@courtlynne77 (4839)
• United States
28 Nov 06
My husband interupts me all the time. When we are discussing something he will cut me off before I am thru speaking to tell me what he thinks. I try to tell him everytime that it is rude and hurts my feelings sometimes, but he just can't seem to stop.
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@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Oh, that's annoying, too. I have a friend who LOVES to talk and she's always interrupting me and goes off on some tangent that had nothing to do with what we were talking about. I end up forgetting what I was talking about!
@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
27 Nov 06
Sometimes I feel like this but with my coworkers at work. They ask me for some ideas and then I tell them but they decide to do something else. Later they wish they had taken my idea. They never listen to me either. I don't have this problem with my family though. Sorry to hear that they don't listen to you. :-(
@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
29 Nov 06
It sucks it happens to you at work. It sucks when it happens at all. Sorry to hear your coworkers are like that.
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
27 Nov 06
I have had this same thing happen before. They asked me a question and I gave them an answer but they didn't like the answer very much and when my younger brother came down he said the same thing I did and it was as if it were the first time they heard it. They were all "wow" etc.... over it when he said it. I just told them all to their faces.... "That is the exact same thing I said." Next time they had an issue and asked me a question I told them I had no reply.
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@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
29 Nov 06
That sucks! I'm sorry to hear that. I sometimes wonder why I even bother.
@vmoore709 (1101)
• United States
27 Nov 06
I completely understand where you are coming from. My family does the same thing to me. After so many years I have come to expect them to act that way. This way, when they do, I'm not as upset about it. Don't worry, you'll eventually get to this point too. It doesn't hurt to keep trying though.
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@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Oh, I expect it, so I don't know why I even bother most of the time, but it's still frustrating.
@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
29 Nov 06
I have this problem in general. I think it goes with personality, if you aren't a dominate person who doesn't try to take over conversations then people tend to listen to the person that dictates even though you might have said the same thing moments before. at least this is how I feel when I'm feeling ignored. I usually have better things to do than to argue though.
@baysmummy (1637)
• Australia
29 Nov 06
I know how you feel it is the same for me and also for my younger sister, it doesnt matter what we say or suggust it is always stupid and half the time i feel like we arent even heard, But it is another story when it comes to my older sister, She can never do anything wrong and she is just prefect everytime she suggests something or says something everyone listens, And i have no idea why but i am sick of it!
Hang in there sweetie, now i just sit back and let the world go on around me when my family are around cause i got so sick of being ignored!
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@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
29 Nov 06
well, it's more me who doesn't listen to my parents!..me and my mum are polar opposites so I really couldn't care less what she thinks, I'll do what I want to do at the end of the day. But i'm usually the one in the family that they come too when they need something done on the computer or my dad needs help with his work.
I can't imagine how frustrated and annoyed you must feel.
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@rosey2006 (945)
• United States
29 Nov 06
I feel the same way about my family too. I have learned to keep my mouth shut. Why even bother. I hope that you have better luck with your family.
