Don't know what to think...

@HeartBM (305)
Philippines
June 25, 2017 8:58pm CST
I'm always lost for words....but theres so much in my mind!! I want to express it in words but too afraid to do so. I don't like offending people....and it gets so tiring sometimes....i mean pleasing people. Is it normal to think yhis way? As a Christian been taught to always feel positive about things and don't get tired doing the right thing....but sometimes i just wanna be a little bit bad! I mean like yesterday my sister yelled at my daughter for being too noisy, just wanna shout at her and tell her that its normal for kids to be noisy! But instead I told my daughter to just understand her cause shes having difficulty in taking care of her newly born baby. But is that even right? I just don't know anymore what to think....
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@MALUSE (40229)
• Germany
26 Jun 17
You should stand up for yourself and your family. If someone gets on your nerves or annoys you, it's your right to say so. If you don't, people won't love you more but consider you weak and trample on you.
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@HeartBM (305)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
Yah i think about that actually. That's why Im really really preparing myself to be more brave and outspoken. I want to be strong for my children. Thanks??
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@MALUSE (40229)
• Germany
26 Jun 17
@HeartBM You are a role model for your children. They'll copy your behaviour. If you always give in only to be seen as nice, they'll be the same.
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@HeartBM (305)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
@MALUSE thanks for reminding me this. Just recently I've started to realize that I think more of other people more than my children. But Im slowly working on it.
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@1hopefulman (28529)
• Canada
26 Jun 17
Did yelling make things better? She just added to the noise. She could have used a better approach. Were you visiting your sister or do you live together?
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@HeartBM (305)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
We kind of live together now. But shes moving out soon. Maybe thats why Im letteing her be for now....
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@1hopefulman (28529)
• Canada
26 Jun 17
@HeartBM A peaceful resolution to any situation is always best. All the best!
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@HeartBM (305)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
@1hopefulman yap i believe so too. Peace is good??
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@mandala100 (43562)
• Hong Kong
26 Jun 17
I think you need to draw the line on the sand. Christianity is a religion of the wise so I heard. There's nothing wrong to tell your sister in a polite way the way you felt and the way you think at that particular incident.
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@HeartBM (305)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
Yah, Im really really considering talking to her privately soon. I mean she has adaugther now, sooner or later she will know. I guess Im just too timid for my liking??
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@mandala100 (43562)
• Hong Kong
30 Jun 17
@HeartBM That might be true my friend.
@annierose (17692)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
I think you did the right thing. But I think your sister shouldn't yelled at her niece. She can talk to her niece in a nice way. Not necessarily yelling at her.
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@annierose (17692)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
@HAPPSINGH Nobody is perfect.
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@HeartBM (305)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
@annierose yah I think so too. But there is this quote which goes like this, "nobody's perfect, Im a nobody therefore Im perfect" ??. But its true. Even geniuses makes mistakes once in a while
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@annierose (17692)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
@HAPPSINGH Perfect!
@Courtlynn (66133)
• United States
26 Jun 17
Not bad to say something to your sister.
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@HeartBM (305)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
thanks Courtney. Yah I thought about that, but the way that I am now, I'm still considering how to do it. I mean in a way it would not hurt alot.
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@Courtlynn (66133)
• United States
26 Jun 17
@HeartBM just tell her, kids are loud. And its your child you'll tell her when to quiet down if she needs to.
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@HeartBM (305)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
@Courtlynn i hope i have the guts to do that. But Im working it out right now.
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26 Jun 17
You're only human and everyone has their limits. Sometimes you need to yell and be a bit stern at times to get your point across.
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@HeartBM (305)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
Yah i really really starting to consider that. But when Im about to do it, then my gjts just suddenly goes out the window??....sometimes i hate myself for being this timid
26 Jun 17
@HeartBM You shouldn't hate yourself or be so timid. Just try to be a bit more open.
@HeartBM (305)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
@Megaflame37 yap I'm practicing right now hahaha. I mean even though I'm not sure if my efforts for making conversations are being appreciated I still try to do it
@Shavkat (62691)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
I think your sister was exhausted. But then, she doesn't need to shout to the child. It can be done in low tone voice.
@HeartBM (305)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
Now that you mention it, I think you have a point. She often lacks sleep because of her 9 month old baby. Thanks for makin me realize this.
@Shavkat (62691)
• Philippines
28 Jun 17
@shivamani10 (11232)
• Hyderabad, India
26 Jun 17
You can make others listen by force. They will learn by experience.
@HeartBM (305)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
How to do that? I mean how can I force them to listen?
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
You should talk with your sister too. She's your sister and I am sure she will understand your feeling especially that she is also a mother. Soon, she will realized that kids are kids- just make her understand in a nice way.