Love Is In The Air
By Darcy Nemo
@YrNemo (20261)
August 4, 2017 8:50am CST
Heard an interesting love story today. She, a naive but attractive and highly educated Singaporean in her mid 30s, has been engaged for a couple of years (or perhaps longer) to a Nigerian (Christian) minister. The odd thing about it is, both have never met each other in real life. The engagement took place in cyber.
I was shown the fiance's photo from Nigeria. He looked handsome but youngish, in his mid 20s. (The lady had told me that her loving fiance was older than her, in his early 40s and that she would trust him with her life.) Since one of my best friends happened to be black African, and her first two sons, 20ish, looked similar to this Nigerian minister, I don't know what to think.
Would you engage (for real) to anyone from the cyber world with the view to marriage, thinking that love would conquer all?
(I could believe in the 'falling in love' part, but to have a cyber fiance for years without ever seeing the guy for real? 
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@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
4 Aug 17
No absolutely no way, There are many con merchants out there praying on young innocent people. This smells like a red fish to me. I think she could be being conned!
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@YrNemo (20261)
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5 Aug 17
I heard similar cases with the victims were lonely widows or divorcees from the US or UK. A few came to Africa to build the love nest with their intendeds, bringing along all the hard cash they had, as instructed. They got killed right in their hotel rooms.
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Ah, faith! the magical word... 
@YrNemo (20261)
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5 Aug 17
Guess in certain countries, renege on an engagement is not a done thing, but in many modern countries these days, I don't think 'engagement' is a serious matter. The odd thing about this case is, they never met each other in real life (plenty of couples these days tend to just live with each other first - long before committing to each other via engagement). Extra odd, because the lady had complete trust in the authenticity of this unseen fiance.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
4 Aug 17
I've delved into cyber dating and it did not work well for me but I'm sure that there are good experiences and bad experiences. I would recommend meeting the person quickly and if it goes well then continuing.
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@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
5 Aug 17
Oh wow that is crazy... how is that possible to be engaged cyber world? Did they exchange rings or just labeled each other engaged?. For all we know he can have a whole different life!
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@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
5 Aug 17
@YrNemo eek that's very concerning
I hope all goes well
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@Letranknight2015 (51532)
• Philippines
13 Aug 17
Most people get scammed for thousands or thousands of dollars @YrNemo But I don't want to generalize because some love story come true.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
10 Aug 17
No but I have heard other stories where it has been done and the women ended up being scammed for thousands of dollars
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
13 Aug 17
I don't blame you for your hesitation -- I have had many online romances through the years - thought I knew the person well, but by the time you get to meet them -- they are not who you thought they were at all. It is disappointing. I hope your friend will be alright
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@YrNemo (20261)
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16 Aug 17
You are smart. 
(too many con men out there these days - con women too of course! 
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(too many con men out there these days - con women too of course! )
@paigea (35695)
• Canada
7 Aug 17
That sounds silly to me. I would have to meet the person. I did meet my husband online but the first time I met him in person is what I consider the first time I met him. I certainly didn't start to fall in love with him before I met him in person.
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