Would you leave your wife if she does have a lot of debts?
By Becky
@aerow14 (26)
August 22, 2017 3:44pm CST
I had a friend who was married only for two years. They were in a relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend for 10 years and after 10 years decided to tie the knot and after two years, they parted from each other. The reason was, the woman had a lot of debts, she had 5 credit cards that were unpaid. The husband decided to end up the relationship because of the payments that had to be paid. The husband came to know about the debts when one of the credit card company called and the husband was the one who answered the called. From that day onwards, the guy paid the first credit card, and he asked the wife if she still does have others debts but the wife said that she only have one debt. But unfortunately, another company called again and the husband was the one who answered the call. The husband got mad and decided to end the marriage.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Aug 17
I don't believe in divorcing for anything except cheating or abuse, but that's just me.
However, with that situation as others said I think it's more about the lies and broken trust.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Aug 17
you should know about this stuff when your dating or living together.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
22 Aug 17
It must have been mostly because she lied to him and broke trust so he figured she would lie about anything.
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@dgobucks226 (34369)
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23 Aug 17
She should of been upfront about the debt. Financial problems can lead to arguments and put a strain on the marriage. At least if she had been honest perhaps they could have worked through their issues unless there is more to it than just debt and dishonesty?
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@aerow14 (26)
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23 Aug 17
I told her after the first debt discovered that it is better for her to tell everything especially the other debts. As far as I remember, the girl said that the guy said, "where have you been using your credit card? I never saw anything new that will cost that much? Unless you have another guy, you are supporting with?".. that is what I remember.
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@pumpkinjam (8540)
• United Kingdom
22 Aug 17
I don't know about ending a relationship just because of a debt but this situation seems that he ended it more for the fact that she had hidden it from him, therefore, losing his trust. I wonder if he might have just helped her (considering he paid off the first one) had she been honest from the beginning.
@pumpkinjam (8540)
• United Kingdom
23 Aug 17
@aerow14 I do think there is more to it than the fact she had debts. Was she expecting her husband to pay them? It seems to be about more than just a person having debts.
@rosedust82 (2066)
• Philippines
23 Aug 17
I would want to think that if your partner has issues such as this, you'd be the first person to support and help them out of the habit. As with all addictions, most likely people will hide it until they can no longer do so. We don't really know if there were other side issues but I really think that if this was the only issue, husband could have helped his wife out her gambling addiction.
@rosedust82 (2066)
• Philippines
24 Aug 17
@aerow14 too much shopping of things that they can't afford? I'd still hope that the husband would help her out with the addiction, regardless of what it is. There may also be a reason why she buys expensive things. A lot of people I know who've been poor either become really good at saving money or really bad at it. Well, I hope they still have a chance to fix things.
@Letranknight2015 (51523)
• Philippines
22 Aug 17
Probably as bad as cheating, I can't she didn't settle it before they got married or even told her the truth.It's not a joke handling credit card debt, we paid it for years until it's finally been settled..
@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
22 Aug 17
I would say because of her lies the trust in their relationship was broken and the marriage couldn't survive without trust.
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@librarygeek1980 (3137)
• United States
22 Aug 17
To me, ending a relationship over debt just sounds shallow....
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@Neiltarquin (1062)
• Rass, Saudi Arabia
23 Aug 17
Darn... I dunno... This is really annoying... I'll be very mad at her and send her back to her parents... but divorce...
