I Thought I Was Finished With My Pepper Spray Trouble
@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
August 24, 2017 2:26am CST
Two weeks after that incident with my pepper spray at the office, in my post below , I was surprised when the HR Officer came to me apologetic that he is giving me a notice to explain.
He explained that the parents of the asthmatic officemate I had talked about in my post came to the office while I was on undertime, since we will be going to Bataan then so they weren’t able to talk to me.
They were distraught to learn from their daughter about what happened and that their daughter seemed anxious still when she told them about it.
I again apologized to the said officemate and asked her to send my apology to her parents.
Then, I gave an explanation for the Notice To Explain the HR officer gave me.
I apologized for my stupidity in my letter and said that I am ready to receive whatever disciplinary action they may give me, even if it was unintentional to bring hazard to everyone when I did it.
At the toolbox meeting, I also did a public apology. 
After that, all the guilt I felt for what I unintentionally have affected the employees, was gone. 
Would you also apologize if you were in my stead?
After that, all the guilt I felt for what I unintentionally have affected the employees, was gone.
Would you also apologize if you were in my stead?
Just a while ago, my order online for a pepper spray finally arrived. I bought it to protect myself after my scary experience from a pedicab driver, I posted...
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
24 Aug 17
Yes, that is true. Even if the apology is late, since I waited for the townhall meeting where everyone is present, they saw and hear my sincere apology.
No, the gadget is in my bag.
It's actually for my self-defense because of that incident one night that I posted about. Though, I pray that I don't get to use it at all. It is so potent.
It's actually for my self-defense because of that incident one night that I posted about. Though, I pray that I don't get to use it at all. It is so potent.3 people like this
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
28 Aug 17
Yes, I would apologize to everyone concerned as it is something I should not have done. Unfortunately, sometimes there are people who take advantages of situations to see how much they can get for their benefit.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
30 Aug 17
@SIMPLYD Sadly, there are those kind of people. 
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Aug 17
Yes, I so agree with you on that. I was surprised that the parents of my officemates came to the office to talk about it with me. I never thought that they will do that, because their child, my officemate was so okay already after that.
So, I apologized again to the officemate who seemed embarrassed, that her parents still came to the office since she doesn't live with them anymore as she is married already,
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@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
4 Oct 17
Yes, I would apology and you went above and beyond. That is a little beyond for her to go tell her parents and for her parents to come report to the office as it was an accident.
I am surprised the spray wasn't directly at anyone and it caused a lot of fumes.
But it's a lesson learned for you and for others too that this is effective and is for protection. And like Felix mentioned some can take advantage of the situation.
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@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
6 Oct 17
@SIMPLYD Yes, I wonder if they did to see if they can get something from the company perhaps, just to test it out. But I am glad it is all over after all. Now I am sure the office mate feels strange now that everyone knows her parents' had to report to work. Here, it'd be considered a snitch. 
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Oct 17
@infatuatedbby When I asked apology from her once again, and told her that I came to know that her parents came when I was on a leave of absence, she was so silent and seemed ashamed.
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@deazil (4723)
• United States
24 Aug 17
I would most certainly apologize as you did. I don't know what else you can do. It seems to me that, from reading your other two discussions about it, you apologized profusely several times. I think you did the absolutely right thing. I'm glad that your guilt has gone now. You can't beat yourself up forever for making a mistake, even though it was a serious one, nevertheless, it was a mistake. And mistakes are not a total waste if we learn from them. I think you're quite a stand-up kind of person. 
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
24 Aug 17
Thank you for you consoling words.
I actually waited for that townhall meeting where everyone is present so the HR officer can see how apologetic I am for the unintentional effect of what I have done.
I am waiting for the disciplinary action actually, but I pray it will be no more. I can actually be suspended from work for a day , if they will base it in the Code of Conduct of the company.
I hope my apologies have erased that.
I actually waited for that townhall meeting where everyone is present so the HR officer can see how apologetic I am for the unintentional effect of what I have done.
I am waiting for the disciplinary action actually, but I pray it will be no more. I can actually be suspended from work for a day , if they will base it in the Code of Conduct of the company.
I hope my apologies have erased that.1 person likes this
@deazil (4723)
• United States
24 Aug 17
@SIMPLYD I don't see how you could have done anything more than you already have. That was a good idea to wait for the meeting. I really hope there's no more action taken on the incident. It was an unfortunate occurrence. I certainly hope there's no suspension. Good luck with whatever happens. I'll be thinking of you.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
12 Dec 17
I was given a one day suspension. I spent it by going to our hometown to attend the fiesta.
@averygirl72 (37726)
• Philippines
25 Aug 17
Did you spray a lot? You press it hard so it affected your officemates. Maybe you should tested it outside of the office. It means it's really effective for attackers. I would apologize if I cause some trouble to others even I don't intend to cause harm to anybody
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
25 Aug 17
I actually sprayed very little, just to test if the sprayer is working. It nearly went into my eyes even , thanks to my eyeglasses.
Yes, I should have thought first before I made that so I have to answer for the consequence and I am glad I made the public apology. It freed me from my guilt finally.
@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
6 Oct 17
I think it shows character to apologize. It shows that you care about others and they should accept it with good intention. When it comes to office settings there are always legal implications and people wish to protect themselves. If the girl needed time off she should be compensated. You don't deserve any further punishment in my opinion nor should you feel guilty for making a tiny mistake anyone could make. If they want to blame someone blame the drunken fool on the street. I admire what you did.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Oct 17
Thank you.
It took me a lot of courage to say my public apology. I was actually thinking not to do it anymore. But I have to, so as to clear my conscience, especially that I hurt an officemate unintentionally though it may be.
It took me a lot of courage to say my public apology. I was actually thinking not to do it anymore. But I have to, so as to clear my conscience, especially that I hurt an officemate unintentionally though it may be.
@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
24 Aug 17
Oh dear I am sorry you are and had gone through all this explanation and apology my friend.
Yes I would have to take whatever they decided but this is not pleasant at alll for you.
It was an accident.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
25 Aug 17
@SIMPLYD Proud of you friend, this was such a human thing for you to do.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
24 Aug 17
humility.
i appreciate your being humble to accept the action you did that cause the discomfort of one of your officemates. i will do the same thing too, if i learn that the wrongdoing is done by me.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Aug 17
@ridingbet Yes. Though, I am hoping I will not have to use it at any of those bad guys, ever.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
26 Aug 17
@SIMPLYD i agree. well, it shows the pepper spray really was an effective tool for those lurking bad elements of our community.
@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
24 Aug 17
You did the right thing by apologizing now I hope that will be the end of it and you can all move past it.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
26 Aug 17
@SIMPLYD be sure to let us known what happens
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@YrNemo (20261)
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26 Aug 17
I was surprised the last time you posted, that no one seemed to jump on you, demand a prompt report (health and safety stuff). Oh well, it is bad luck of course, (to you and to the others). At least now you know how effective that spray could be in protecting you from the baddies 
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Aug 17
I was surprised too, actually. But then, the HR Officer would like to remind me that something like this even if it is unintentional to harm anyone in the office, is something that is not allowed at the office.
The disposition with regards this offense of mine is 1 days suspension and I shall be serving it tomorrow, timing for the fiesta in our hometown.
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@YrNemo (20261)
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29 Aug 17
@SIMPLYD ouch, I feel for you... Once, one of our team was careless, and left something very smelly in a garbage bin in the office. We all were told off, but they couldn't pin the fault on anyone of us, so there was a report about this, but that was it. (Someone tried to frame me I think, but I didn't do it and pointed that out!)
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@allknowing (130064)
• India
25 Aug 17
Apology is a natural reaction and you did it right.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
28 Aug 17
It must have been very traumatic experience for their daughter being an asthmatic .. But surely they should know that you din't do it on purpose and that you were sorry for what happened .. I'm sure they also know that you are responsible adult that you will take extra careful with your pepper spray ... I hope they have accepted your apology and that the young woman recovered fully from anxiety...
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
31 Aug 17
Thank you. I am happy to see you again here. I missed you here.
How are you now? I hope you are in the pink of health.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
24 Aug 17
I suppose you don't have those bad guys especially at night for you to arm yourself with this. I am ready for any disciplinary action they may give me. It could be a one-day suspension.
@resukill22 (25052)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
25 Aug 17
yes i would .because it cause harm to other ,if not use in a proper way
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