Do you support your Kid's passion or insist your own choices?
By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39142)
Philippines
September 6, 2017 10:00am CST
2 years ago my youngest son enrolled in a 4 year course HRM (Hotel and Restaurant Management).
Unfortunately he did not pursue his studies coz he got bored with the minor subjects (whatever his reason is).
He wanted an all cooking and baking class (°_°)
I knew it was his passion , but , the tuition fee for a Diploma In Culinary Arts is too high here in our country.
But what should I do? (--__--)
After 4 months of inquiries, assessment, consideration from several Culinary schools finally, I gave in.
My son started his first day this morning and all I can say is " It's Worth It".
I saw the excitement and glow in his eyes.
He prepare his things last night and woke up early this morning ( to make sure he won't be late at school).
Hopefully , with God's help , my son's dream may come true 
Do you support your kids passion dear friends and Mylotters?
Or, will you insist your choices?
jaiho (^__*)
10:57pm Wednesday
Sept. 6, 2017
PT
But what should I do? (--__--)
After 4 months of inquiries, assessment, consideration from several Culinary schools finally, I gave in.
My son started his first day this morning and all I can say is " It's Worth It".
I saw the excitement and glow in his eyes.
He prepare his things last night and woke up early this morning ( to make sure he won't be late at school).
Hopefully , with God's help , my son's dream may come true
Do you support your kids passion dear friends and Mylotters?
Or, will you insist your choices?
jaiho (^__*)
10:57pm Wednesday
Sept. 6, 2017
PT14 people like this
15 responses
@RasmaSandra (73506)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
6 Sep 17
No kids to support but I do think it is important for parents to do all they can to support their children. So glad your son is learning what he wants. With luck perhaps one day he will be the owner of a restaurant and then you'll sure be a proud mom.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
6 Sep 17
My dream to own a coffee shop , a restaurant is too much, but who knows then 
Thanks for the kind words 
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
12 Sep 17
Sorry to hear that my dear, and I do understand the feeling, we're on the same boat.
My parents did not supported me too , but, I don't have any ill feelings though sometimes I can't avoid thinking the "what if's " if they've ever supported me in my dreams.
That is one reason why I always give my support to my kids dreams and passion, coz, I don't want them to feel what I've felt before.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
13 Sep 17
@LadyDuck Precisely my dear, today's generation is far different from ours.
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@LadyDuck (458434)
• Switzerland
13 Sep 17
@jaiho2009 In the past it was more or less the same for all kids, they had to obey to their parents. I also never wonder "what if's" it brings nowhere. Better to be happy with what we have.
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
7 Sep 17
Hello Sis. It's been a long time since we last mingled here. lol
I think it's reslly time for us parents to just support our kids and achieve their dreams rather than insist what our choices for them.
But to tell you, I am one stubborn child who didn't followed my father's wish for my future and went on my own chosen field. But nevertheless, I didn't failed him and found good fortune and give my own family better lives.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
12 Sep 17
Hello brother, wow, so long 
Well, I can say that we are really brother and sister heheh- it's the same thing here.
I also did not follow my parent's advice and choices -well, no regrets too.
I am glad that you're back and hope to see you more around mylotting 
Well, I can say that we are really brother and sister heheh- it's the same thing here.
I also did not follow my parent's advice and choices -well, no regrets too.
I am glad that you're back and hope to see you more around mylotting 2 people like this
@Letranknight2015 (51532)
• Philippines
7 Sep 17
Is this the son of yours we saw in television once? I still think that he should have pursued a for year course. He could have tried culinary, hotel and restaurant management is not bad.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
12 Sep 17
Hello LK,
Yes, he was the one who appeared on TV (that was twice then).
I can't forced him to continue the 4 years course coz, he doesn't like the other subjects.
All I can do now is to support him for his passion though , it's a bit costly.
This is also a Diploma course ,10 months studies and 2 years internship.
May sound a short course but twice the costs of a 4 years course
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
12 Sep 17
Exactly my friend, it is always best to support our kid's passion and dreams than forcing them to obey our choices.
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@petatonicsca (7070)
• Japan
7 Sep 17
Yes, I let my child do what she wanted to, which was get married and have children. She has two and is a great mom, and her husband is wonderful too.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
12 Sep 17
That's great to know my dear , giving our support is the best thing that we can give to our children :-)
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@divalounger (5849)
• United States
6 Sep 17
I learned this lesson the hard way. I had to allow my teenagers to pursue their passions and not mine for them--it hurt a bit, but was worth it in the end
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
6 Sep 17
I know we have our own dreams for our kids, but sometimes their choices are not the same like ours
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@divalounger (5849)
• United States
6 Sep 17
@jaiho2009 My kids' choices surprised me really--
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Sep 17
That's great that he's getting to go! My oldest daughter wants to do the same thing and if we can afford it we will send her to a culinary school.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
6 Sep 17
I am always amused watching chefs moves, the way they slice onions, garlic, fruits and veggies.
I never thought that my son's passion in cooking will lead us through this journey.
I know someday, when your daughter reaches the right age, you will be supporting her too
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Sep 17
@jaiho2009 Yes, anything my kids want to do I will be proud of them-even if it's not what I would choose. I want them to be happy.
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@prashu228 (37526)
• India
6 Sep 17
Nice the know that you support your kid. It should be like that. I don't have kids. But i agree parents should support their kids interest
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
6 Sep 17
I have three kids and I supported them all.
It just happened that my youngest son's dream costs a lot that, it took us some time to save for it.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
12 Sep 17
Hi my dear friend!!
I had missed you sorry I had been sick.
I am so happy now to hear this and I pray that all goes well for your dear son!!
I hope he sticks with this and makes a great success..I know you are proud of him. I am too.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
12 Sep 17
ohhhh, what happened my dear , hope you're doing great now
Yes sweetie , I can see how excited he is and how he is showing great interest now that we gave all out support to his dream
Yes sweetie , I can see how excited he is and how he is showing great interest now that we gave all out support to his dream 2 people like this
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
12 Sep 17
@TiarasOceanView will pray for your fast recovery sweetie , more hugs
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
12 Sep 17
@jaiho2009 I am okay just not feeling well and off to the doc in an hour or so.
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@jobelbojel (34731)
• Philippines
13 Sep 17
I know most parents would agree that when it comes to their children, they want the best for them. Glad that you are supporting him all out.
Just trust God. Nothing is impossible with Him. Ask whatever you need through Jesus Christ.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
13 Sep 17
Yes, not every parents supports their kids' dream and wishes - I knew it coz I have been there.
That is one reason why I always support my kids, cause I exactly know the feeling of discouragement.
I don't have ill-feelings towards my parents though and no regrets too.
But, I don't want any of my kids to experience what I've felt before.
I always thank the Lord for guiding my kids , with God's grace and mercy my two older kids are already working and pursuing their passion/dreams and enjoying their choice.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
13 Sep 17
@jobelbojel Things happen in our lives beyond control , I have my part and I realize why it has to happen.
It happens to me, to make me fully understand that we must support our kids first , and if they failed , that will be the right time to lay our own choice or suggestion.
@jobelbojel (34731)
• Philippines
13 Sep 17
@jaiho2009 i am sorry that happened to you. That's the right attitude though to be grateful for your kids.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
7 Sep 17
Such a loving mother you are (^__^)
Not every parents are like you, my parents did not support me with my dream and I know how it feels, that's why I am trying my best to support all my kids dreams.
Have a great day my dear
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
13 Sep 17
No point in insisting on our choices...They should follow their passion.Good wishes for your son to find his place in the sun doing what he likes
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
13 Sep 17
Precisely, and that is why I supported all the kids dreams rather than showing them disappointment nor discourages.
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@Essjayd (1568)
•
6 Sep 17
I'm so glad you have
managed to find a way to help your
son achieve his dream. I think it's
important to help your kids achieve
the life they want rather than forcing
them down a path of your choosing.
In the UK it is possible to start as a trainee
or commis chef in many of the hotels.They
Will train and pay you while you work bit
also pay for you to attend college to get your
qualifications. Something like that would
have been great for your son!
I hope he enjoys his new course and repays
you with lots of posh meals when he's a
famous chef with his own restaurant!!
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
6 Sep 17
How I wish we also have that same option here in our country, but, sad to say we don't have that kind of offer.
Actually , part of the study is an On-the Job Training where students will be working in a restaurant (as a trainee) for 2-3 months without pay.
There is also an option for "internship" abroad and that is an additional fee (again) depends on your country of choice.
That is why Culinary Arts is one of the costliest course here in our country.
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@Essjayd (1568)
•
6 Sep 17
@jaiho2009 It really is a shame
you don't have that option. For me
It was a great way to learn from some
of the best chefs in our country and
get paid at the same time! I learnt more
In the kitchens than I ever learnt on
the college days.
I hope your son continues to enjoy his
course and I wish him every success
In future!
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
12 Sep 17
@Essjayd Really a shame and very sad too.
Imagine those young aspirants , the skilled ones and everyone who has the potential to become great cook/chef but don't have enough resources to sustain for their studies and passion.
Thanks for the wishes and I prayed hard for my son's future in his chosen field.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
12 Sep 17
That's great my friend
Not all parents are supportive and I understand some of their reasons.
But for me, I prefer to support my children first.
Not all parents are supportive and I understand some of their reasons.
But for me, I prefer to support my children first.1 person likes this
