Losing friends and making enemies
By Joanie
@Freelanzer (10745)
Canada
September 9, 2017 5:21pm CST
Have you ever lost a friend who became an enemy? Well not necessarily enemy but someone you no longer talk to. I had a friend who I knew for many years until she betrayed my confidence. I told her how I felt about it and she acted as though it was an "accident" and apologized.
Anyway I never spoke to her again and avoided her whenever we met. I felt bad to have to let her go and I know she would have wanted to continue the friendship since she contacted me a couple times after but I never responded. I saw it as a terrible betrayal and something I would never have done to her (even though I could have)
I don't see her as an enemy but for some reason the betrayal was so great in my mind and I also thought it was deliberate and I couldn't understand why.
Ever had a friend who became an enemy?
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@RichardMeister (5328)
• Otis Orchards, Washington
9 Sep 17
I can't think of any that has happened with however I have to be very careful what I tell my brother because he cannot keep his mouth shut.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
10 Sep 17
It is good that you know that about your brother so you can be careful. With this person it came as a complete surprise.
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@RichardMeister (5328)
• Otis Orchards, Washington
10 Sep 17
@Freelanzer When you trust someone it is a surprise when they break that trust.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
9 Sep 17
Yes and she seen nothing wrong with telling everyone my business and got totally PO`ed because I used the f word. Like her own children did not say it in her house.
I would not take her calls and I have been to her house a couple times but not anything for her but to drop off someone else. I did not go in, I just dropped and left.
We were so close.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
9 Sep 17
Awefull when that happens and worse when you still have to see the person.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
9 Sep 17
@Freelanzer I dare anyone to even mention my name at that house.
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@much2say (53958)
• Los Angeles, California
10 Sep 17
Yep - I've had to sever the friendship a few times. Like you said, we weren't exactly enemies after that, but for sure no longer on speaking terms. They were mostly male friends whom I considered to be good friends - they stepped over the boundaries and I had to call it the end. I also had to do that to a couple good female friends . . . they were negative energy vampires - and I didn't need that in my life.
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@much2say (53958)
• Los Angeles, California
12 Sep 17
@Freelanzer I used to let people like that into my life all the time . .. but yah, I've finally come to realize I don't need that kind of friendship. It's draining.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
10 Sep 17
Negativity is the worst - just brings you down and I can do without that.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
11 Sep 17
Thanks but no great loss just wish I had seen that side of her earlier.
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@poehere (15126)
• French Polynesia
11 Sep 17
@Freelanzer There are times we get close to a person only to be let down and hurt. They seem to think it is never their fault. I am glad you saw the other side of her before she hurt you worse.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
10 Sep 17
That was really sneaky - i the end I think they weren't really friends
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
10 Sep 17
I wonder why it takes so long for people to show their true colors. Had I seen any hint in the years we were friends I would certainly not have continued to invest in the relationship
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
10 Sep 17
@YrNemo That is a good point and one I can relate to. I have no doubt in my situation it was a case of jealousy' Even though she was the one who encouraged me to go for it, she turned around and took actions that made it impossible for me to succeed.
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@YrNemo (20261)
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10 Sep 17
@Freelanzer I thought of those friends who turn enemies often. I missed the comradeship when those people were acting nice. I regret finding out their feet of clay... (One had backstabbed me badly but I never knew, until my boss discretely told me to watch out after she tried to make me lose my job. The Pandora box was opened that day!)
Looking at this objectively, people often turn nasty when they think they are in danger. WE must have been considered as 'better' than them, hence their attempts in bringing us down using dirty means? (It is nice knowing that we were considered as 'better' by our enemies? 
)
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@celticeagle (159105)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Sep 17
Yes, I have. A friend that I knew for about twenty five years. I went to stay with her and she actually had the nerve to accuse me of stealing. She threatened me with several things. I am no thief. She and I could have remained friends if she would have apologized but she wouldn't and even said it could of been true. Like she thought I could have stolen from her. We are no longer friends.
At least your friend apologized.
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@celticeagle (159105)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Sep 17
@Freelanzer ......You'd sure think so. She kept saying things that were putting me down and she thought she was apologizing. How I could have been friends with her for so long and not seen her for what she was is beyond me. Silly.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
10 Sep 17
Yes she apologized but apologies don't always fix something that is broken. Accusing you of stealing - that would surely be a deal breaker for me. After 25 years of friendship she should have known you would't do such a thing.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
10 Sep 17
@celticeagle She probably didn't show her true colors, some people are experts at pretending to be hat they are not. Anyway, good riddance and better late than never I say.
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@vandana7 (98834)
• India
11 Sep 17
A close friend ..nope...a not so close friend, yes. That said, family friends who were close and felt like family...yes. In fact, I always have the shields up. Somebody is forcing his or her way in, I am not ok. I will only welcome those whom I invite. For some reason, people want to be in my life, and I often feel crowded about it.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
16 Sep 17
You just have to be so careful about whom you let get too close. I too try to guard my heart.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Sep 17
Not an enemy per se but a friend who changed so much I don't even want to be around her anymore. =(
This person left her husband, left church, and changed into someone I don't recognize. She's no longer a loving, caring person who wants to change the world with her light. She has turned into a very selfish person...It's heart breaking.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Sep 17
@Freelanzer I think she just became bitter because so many people turned their backs on her when she separated from her husband. =(
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
16 Sep 17
@LovingMyBabies That would do it, but no need to take it out on others.
@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
16 Sep 17
That is heartbreaking. I wonder what happened in her life to cause such a drastic change
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
16 Sep 17
Sorry for your loss. Seems a one on one friendship is okay until there is a third wheel and then it ca get competitive with backstabbing in some cases
@Essjayd (1568)
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10 Sep 17
A few times!
Mainly after my business failed
and people took sides against myself
or my ex business partner.
Strangely me and him sorted out our
differences pretty quickly and made
our peace once the pressure was off
and we moved on. Our friendship has
gone back to the way we were before
but others are still against one or both
of us despite it being nothing to do with
them in the first place.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
10 Sep 17
I know what you me. Some people just can't seem to mind their own business.
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@carriep98 (72)
• United States
9 Sep 17
Yes plenty of times. People just love to talk about other people behind their back. So now I stay to myself most of the time.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
9 Sep 17
Same here, I just can't handle harmful gossips.
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