Getting ready for a funeral

United States
September 13, 2017 3:45pm CST
Since my aunt passed away yesterday, there are so many things to do. I bought groceries today for the food I'm going to cook when our church ladies feed the family. The funny thing is we're all family! Everyone here is related to each other (no inbreeding!), but we're all connected in some way. We have a very small church so we'll all be busy cooking away tomorrow. I'm fixing a sausage, potato, carrot and onion casserole, a large broccoli casserole, deviled eggs, pumpkin pies, and sweet tea. Maybe a bread of some sort. Friday after we serve lunch, we'll have the wake or visitation in the sanctuary, followed by the funeral. My aunt will be buried in the cemetery next to our church. I have about six generations of relatives buried there...our church is over 100 years old. Of course, we've added on and remodeled, etc over the years. My husband is supposed to do the eulogy, but just found out this morning he has pneumonia in one lung. We're hoping with the antibiotics, inhaler, and other meds that he'll be able to do it. I learned today that I'm in the bulletin to sing a special. Have to practice that. It really is an honor to be asked to sing. Anyway, we'll all try to make it as nice a funeral as we can. My aunt (and uncle) deserve nothing less.
20 people like this
16 responses
@Hatley (152525)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep
I grew i[ om a s mall own well ac ally on the outskirtson a farm but we all were pret y much cop nnected too love smalltowns
5 people like this
• United States
14 Sep
Small towns can be nice at times when everyone is either related or knows each other.
2 people like this
@Hatley (152525)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Sep
@1creekgirl yesof course everyonekmew evedryone elses dbusiness but agasin there was a l;ot of good too there
2 people like this
@louievill (15581)
• Philippines
14 Sep
My sincere condolences, its so nice when we are a part of a community and church that is very supportive.
4 people like this
• United States
14 Sep
We all know each other in a small town.
2 people like this
@louievill (15581)
• Philippines
14 Sep
@1creekgirl I could understand you, our community is a private subdivision and also very closed knit, especially those of us whose families pioneered in this place during the late 60s and early 70s to get away from Manila when martial rule was declared in our country.
2 people like this
• United States
14 Sep
@louievill So you have a lot of good connections with your neighbors and relatives.
2 people like this
@SonjaRae (5699)
• United States
14 Sep
My condolences to your family
4 people like this
• United States
14 Sep
Appreciate the kind words, Sonja.
2 people like this
@SonjaRae (5699)
• United States
15 Sep
@Courtlynn (38035)
• United States
13 Sep
Oh wow. I didn't know your Aunt did. I'm sorry.
4 people like this
• United States
14 Sep
Thank you Courtney. She will sure be missed.
2 people like this
@Courtlynn (38035)
• United States
14 Sep
@1creekgirl oh I'm sure!
1 person likes this
@KristenH (18395)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
13 Sep
My condolences for your loss of your aunt. Keep those memories alive. My church is 130 years old and just recently got a new steeple rebuilt as of last fall and this spring. We raised over 200,000 dollars (plus receiving grants) for our save the steeple fundraiser.
4 people like this
• United States
14 Sep
That's amazing! That's wonderful you all were able to get a new steeple. Do you have photos you could share with us?
2 people like this
@KristenH (18395)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
14 Sep
@1creekgirl Yeah it is. I could find some from the church's website. If not, I could try to get some on Sunday at church.
2 people like this
@AmbiePam (44626)
• United States
14 Sep
I am so sorry you have lost a loved one. It must be cool to have so much family history at that church.
4 people like this
• United States
14 Sep
It really is good to see all the generations that are buried there.
2 people like this
@mandala100 (23910)
• Hong Kong
13 Sep
@1creekgirl I understand how busy you are my friend with the passing away of your aunt.
4 people like this
• United States
14 Sep
Busy, but doing everything I want to do.
1 person likes this
@resukill22 (3215)
14 Sep
Sorry to hear that, I feel you,
3 people like this
• United States
14 Sep
Thank you, Merryjoy.
2 people like this
15 Sep
@1creekgirl welcome
@Kosgey (610)
14 Sep
Nice sendoff
3 people like this
@Kosgey (610)
14 Sep
@1creekgirl do not worry, we all have problems at our homes.
2 people like this
@dodoazo (6606)
• Philippines
14 Sep
Sorry for the loss of your auntie. My deepest condolence to her bereaved family.
3 people like this
• United States
14 Sep
Thank you so much.
1 person likes this
• Germany
13 Sep
I know the feeling..My condolences to you!
3 people like this
• United States
14 Sep
Didn't you say a relative of yours just passed away? I'm so sorry.
1 person likes this
@Raelove (14034)
• Saco, Maine
14 Sep
My condolences to you and your family.
2 people like this
• United States
14 Sep
Thanks, Rachel, I appreciate it.
2 people like this
@Raelove (14034)
• Saco, Maine
14 Sep
@1creekgirl My pleasure...
@die1001 (64)
14 Sep
When I decided to attend to one, what things can I give to the family of the deceased to offer condolence.
2 people like this
• United States
14 Sep
In this part of the world, we equate food with love. But there are other ways: go for a short visit and talk about the good memories you have of the loved one. Call just to check on them. Include them in activities when you can. Don't worry about saying the wrong thing...sometimes it's enough just to be physically there. Thank you so much for your question.
1 person likes this
@BelleStarr (29513)
• Portland, Connecticut
14 Sep
I am so sorry about your aunt but what a great church community, our church isn't small but we have a very strong community as well and we all chip in to help those who need it. Before I went on vacation I cooked and dropped off dinner for our two nuns, one is sick and the other doesn't cook so parishioners have been taking turns bringing them dinner.
2 people like this
• United States
14 Sep
That's wonderful that you all help take care of each other.
2 people like this
14 Sep
2 people like this
@kprofgames (3021)
• United States
14 Sep
Sorry for the loss of your Aunt. You know, coming from a small community myself I appreciate the coming together that happens in a time of like this. Our church community did the same growing up too. I really hope your husband recovers enough. pneumonia is nothing to mess around with. It's kind of funny because I moved away and a few months back a co-worker lost their mother-in-law. After they came back from leave, I had a cake I brought in. When asked why I'd bring a cake knowing someone lost a family member all i could answer was "Um, I'm Lutheran?"
1 person likes this
• United States
14 Sep
That is kind of funny. I guess people don't have the same customs everywhere.