Out of Place

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Philippines
October 18, 2017 1:26am CST
I was invited to a birthday party and I was hesitant to attend simply because: 1. The Celebrant was not a close friend of mine. 2. We just met a week ago. 3. I'm not a party goer. But... we have 3 common friends and it so happen that these three are one of my closests friends. Despite my uneasiness in accepting the invitation, these three friends of mine were able to convinced me to attend. With the idea of four of us attending the party was enough to change my mind and happily, bought a birthday present. Come party day. One friend informed me an hour before that she couldn't make it through text message as there was an urgent she needs to attend to. I called the two friends to confirm if they were still attending but they're not answering my call. "Probably they're at the venue already." I thought to myself. I went as planned and found out that I was the only one attending. The host (Birthday celebrant) was kind of surprised to find me there! She thought that I won't be coming since my three friends had declined the invitation. I know I was red with embarassment and felt awkward. But the Host was nice and she made me want to feel like I'm welcomed to her party. I looked around and I don't know one single guest. I stayed for about forty minutes and tried myself to blend with other guests. I tried sitting in one group and listened to their conversation, but when I tried to express my opinion... they all stared at me and smiled. Fell silent for a few seconds and then, changed the topic. That's my cue, clearly I don't belong in the crowd. I left the party leaving the Host feeling bad (or that's what she wanted me to feel). I didn't want to confront my 3 friends because I don't want to make it an issue. And besides, I wasn't harmed and got out of the party in one piece. This is not the first time it happened to me, though. And I always blamed myself for falling into the trap again. This is why I became an introvert, I'd rather be alone than being in a crowd where I don't feel I belong. If they say don't trust strangers, yeah... but I'd say, be very careful of those you called friends, they would sometimes make you feel "out of place". It's been a gloomy day at my place, hope yours is a sunny one. (c) Image from Pixabay.
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@hereandthere (32551)
• Philippines
18 Oct
they should have told you. i'm glad the host was gracious enough. i wouldn't know what gift to buy someone i just met.
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• Philippines
18 Oct
@rachz_kisses you're a good listener to remember that. i wonder if she will mention it to your 3 friends.
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• Philippines
19 Oct
Hello, @hereandthere. The host did mentioned to my friends about me attending the party. And she said she loved the present I gave her and she wasn't expecting it. My friends felt bad about me attending the party alone.
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• Philippines
19 Oct
@rachz_kisses she sounds nice.
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@sol_cee (16919)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
18 Oct
Forty minutes is a loooong time. You did your best though. Be careful of the traps next time. :)
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• Philippines
18 Oct
I know right.
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@sishy7 (27604)
• Australia
18 Oct
That's not something a 'closest friend' would put you through, especially for the two who weren't answering your call...
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• Philippines
18 Oct
Starting today, I'm putting them on my 'Friend' list rather than on my 'Closest friend' list.
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@kepweng (17850)
• Waikoloa, Hawaii
18 Oct
dont be shy if you get invited to a birtday party hows the foods?
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• Philippines
18 Oct
I won't be shy at all if my friends were there @kepweng. I just don't like being in a crowded place but feeling all alone.
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@responsiveme (16834)
• India
18 Oct
I too make sure I have a few close friends going to the same party before I decide to go But then again sometimes I have met people who I did not know and struck up a nice conversation
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• Philippines
18 Oct
If lucky enough to be in a friendly group, that would not be a problem. I just happen to be in a group where everyone doesn't want to have a conversation with a stranger. And I'm the type of person who knows when a person doesn't want my presence.
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@m_audrey6788 (13713)
• Philippines
18 Oct
That`s the main reason why I don`t go to parties whom I don`t know unless it`s my husbands friend
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• Philippines
18 Oct
If I have known that they're not attending, I should have stayed home instead. But... it happened.
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• Philippines
18 Oct
@rachz_kisses Oh Don`t be sad. If I were you, I`ll go out of the party and go somewhere which can give myself a good day like watch movies or mall strolling
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• Philippines
18 Oct
@m_audrey6788 I went home earlier than expected and were greeted by my dogs. I felt love and I totally forgot what happened.
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@cttolledo (5056)
• Philippines
18 Oct
Its not being you as introvert. I'm not introvert type of person but If I was the one in that situation I'd feel the same way. It's really awkward! and I think I cannot trust my friends again after leaving me like that. I can't imagine they were not able to atleast inform you if they cannot come. But then its too early for me to judge your friends because I do not know them well... but its not a good idea to leave someone just like that.
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• Philippines
19 Oct
Hi @cttolledo. I admit I was offended by what they did. But they have reasons but it's too late. Anyway, it won't happen again. Next time, I won't go unless they called me that they're waiting for me at the venue.
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@cttolledo (5056)
• Philippines
19 Oct
@rachz_kisses Yeah. That experience taught you a very good lesson.
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• Philippines
24 Oct
@cttolledo It did.
@ilocosboy (35922)
• Philippines
18 Oct
At least the host was kind enough to make you feel in the right place. You can blame you three friends who persuaded you to come and they're not.
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• Philippines
18 Oct
I was offended by the incident though. But, they have their reasons. Maybe I should follow my instincts next time. If I'm hesitant, I'll stick to what I feel.
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@ilocosboy (35922)
• Philippines
18 Oct
but they should have answered your call so you know what to do. Yeah, next time follow your instinct. My wife said most of the times it's true.
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• Philippines
18 Oct
@ilocosboy I'll keep that in mind.
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@sharon6345 (136004)
• United States
18 Oct
I do understand how you feel. I stopped going to parties and gatherings over a year ago. I felt bad when at them and I love being home when those events are going on.
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• Philippines
18 Oct
Thanks, @sharon6345. Yeah, I'd rather stay home than partying. It feels more relaxing.
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@sharon6345 (136004)
• United States
18 Oct
@rachz_kisses Yes and I feel god about it to
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• Philippines
18 Oct
What kind of a friend is that? they invited you to a party only to find out from the host that all of them did not attend to it. Oh, I'm sorry they're not FRIENDS at all, i wouldn't talk to them anymore if I were you.
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• Philippines
18 Oct
I was offended by what they did... @Letranknight2015. But they have explained why they we're not able to attend. I can't do anything about it anymore. Probably, I will have an excuse not to attend a party next time they persuade me. I will remind them of this incident.
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• Philippines
18 Oct
@rachz_kisses Don't attend anymore in my opinion, that will remind what they did. And if they persist, they should take you personally with them to the party and not leave you behind.
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• Philippines
19 Oct
@Letranknight2015 Great idea. I won't go unless they picked me up at my house.
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@JustBhem (41653)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Oct
It's still raining here, and I feel you. That is why I don't go to a party because I know myself I am not a party goer unless if it's a close friend. Anyway, the good thing is you buy a present, I think it's enough.
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• Philippines
18 Oct
Yeah, good thing I brought a present.
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@JustBhem (41653)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Oct
@rachz_kisses At least that will help you make you belong there somehow despite your friends not being with you.
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• Philippines
18 Oct
@JustBhem I felt like I was pushed in a battle field expecting an army to back me up, only to find out that it will only just me and my rifle facing the war.
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@yanzalong (10174)
• Indonesia
21 Oct
I see what you mean but thats how life is: full of traps and so on and so on. Is there connection between the photo and your story?
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• Philippines
24 Oct
Hmm.. good observation right there my friend @yanzalong. I chose the photo because the girl in it looks lost. That's what I felt when I was at the party, with no one to talk to I felt awkward. Like a girl alone in the woods.
@SIMPLYD (81659)
• Philippines
20 Oct
Oh, that was a difficult situation that you went through. Though, when the host is nice and will make you feel welcome, you just have to just blend in with the crowd. That's very unfriendly of your friends not to give an early notice that they will not be attending.
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• Philippines
24 Oct
Hello there @SIMPLYD. Yes, it was kind of an awkward situation. I have to make an effort to blend in but obviously, I was not. I have forgiven my so called friends, but I'll make sure it won't happen the next time.
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@studylove (2128)
• Canada
18 Oct
What is the reason behind the title of this post? Would you like to share please?
• Philippines
19 Oct
"Out of Place" it means, I don't belong.
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