Finally called the police on daughter's ex

@jerzgirl (9233)
United States
October 21, 2017 10:03pm CST
Good God, that boy is a stubborn one. He still can't understand what he did wrong, no matter that she's told him over and over and over again. Claims of "everything I did for you" forgetting that WE gave him a roof over his head when he needed it, my daughter put food in his belly and gas in his car when he had no money - PLUS found him the car to replace the piece of junk he'd had. Sorry, but your argument is invalid! He was out front tonight for over four hours. Even ordered pizza, but intercepted the pizza guy so he'd be the one at the door. Shut the door in his face. We were hungry, but not hungry enough to allow him in. Knock knock knock - ding dong, ding dong, ding dong. Four hours!! Neighbor came home and he was making her dog bark along with ours and it was getting near 10 which is when it becomes a violation of the noise ordinance. Every time we tried to make him leave, he found a reason he had to stay. The last one was his canopy/tent or something. Always has an excuse. He had it all except one part. We gave him that one part she found in the basement. Now if he comes back, he can be arrested. So difficult. If he hadn't started throwing things at the upstairs windows, he might still be here bothering us, but that was what pushed us to call. Idiot!!
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Hanni Harel
@Hannihar (129470)
• Israel
22 Oct 17
That is very frustrating when they have no clue as to what they did wrong and cannot understand all you did for him. So happens now? Did he go to jail and for how long? Not good that the guard dog loves him.
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Wendy
@jerzgirl (9233)
• United States
22 Oct 17
@Hannihar They do work if the person is sufficiently respectful of the law. And, they will be arrested if they aren't. But, I have to try to get one myself because my daughter can't take the time to leave her work in another state to go to court.
Wendy
@jerzgirl (9233)
• United States
22 Oct 17
No arrest. But, a promise of one if we have to call them again. I'm going to find out if I can get a restraining order since my daughter's work hours conflict with the city's court hours (they're only open 4 days a week, city office, police and courts). She doesn't get home early enough on their late days to show up. But, it affects me as well, so I think I'll be able to get one. The ex even asked why she didn't take one out on him - I think he sees that as a sign she cares. Who the **** knows.
Hanni Harel
@Hannihar (129470)
• Israel
22 Oct 17
@jerzgirl I was thinking of a restraining order, but, do they work? No jail. What else can be done to get him to listen do you think?
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Laurel (L_B)
@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
22 Oct 17
I hope by calling the cops he will get the message and stay away. Some people are just idiots. It is good that she is no longer with him.
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Wendy
@jerzgirl (9233)
• United States
22 Oct 17
We called them earlier, too, but he disappeared when he saw the police car and came back when they were gone. We shall see.
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Hanni Harel
@Hannihar (129470)
• Israel
22 Oct 17
@jerzgirl Wendy, that is so sad. I stopped called the police on noisy neighbors but your situation is different. I know get a guard dog and that should scare him away.
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Laurel (L_B)
@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
22 Oct 17
@jerzgirl that is terrible.
Patsie Hatley
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Oct 17
o h thats really scary hoe he gives up or gets arrestded soyou all c an have some peace now
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Wendy
@jerzgirl (9233)
• United States
22 Oct 17
Like I told the officer, it's not that we think he's a physical threat, but because of his persistence, we can't be certain he won't cross that line. He agreed with me. Right now it's harassment and was beginning to go physical with the throwing things at the windows. It had to stop.
topffer
@topffer (42156)
• France
22 Oct 17
I suppose it was the best to do. And to threaten him to lodge a complaint for harassment if it happens again. I hope it will not happen again, though, it would be better for you and the tranquillity of the neighborhood.
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Wendy
@jerzgirl (9233)
• United States
22 Oct 17
We have been dealing with this for a week. Now he's threatening to show up at her job. If I can get a restraining order issued to cover both of us, she can use it to have him arrested down there, too. He is a nut job!
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Courtney
@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
22 Oct 17
Woww. Glad you called them!
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Wendy
@jerzgirl (9233)
• United States
22 Oct 17
Yeah - we didn't want to because of the stigma this city puts on renters, but when he started throwing things at the windows, we had no choice. And, now we have his barrage of texts claiming he set fire to something on our porch (he didn't) and threatening to show up at her work and claiming WE were acting childish while he was being the adult - text after text after text with no responses from us - to prove he's loony. I don't think there will be any problem getting a restraining order.
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Courtney
@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
22 Oct 17
@jerzgirl shouldnt be.
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Angie
@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
22 Oct 17
He needs to move on.
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Wendy
@jerzgirl (9233)
• United States
22 Oct 17
He needs psychiatric help. He's nuts.
Heather Echola
@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
22 Oct 17
This is not a good thing. I hope he does not do anything further, or at night while you are sleeping. It is scary.
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Wendy
@jerzgirl (9233)
• United States
22 Oct 17
We both sleep with our phones and double lock all the doors (screen door and inside door), so he'd be making a lot of noise to get in. The dog would raise hell and we'd be hitting 911 in a heartbeat.
Lenore Plassman
@sallypup (57888)
• Centralia, Washington
22 Oct 17
I hope you are going to be okay.
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Wendy
@jerzgirl (9233)
• United States
22 Oct 17
We'll be fine. It's just maddening more than anything. You can't rest or relax or even order food because he was sitting right there waiting for the door to open.
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