Does Counseling Work?

@wolfie34 (26820)
United Kingdom
November 27, 2006 7:07am CST
Have you ever had counseling, has it worked for you? For me it has uneathed stuff I had buried in the past and has caused me more hurts.
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@remaster74 (4066)
• Greece
29 Nov 06
I have never gone through councelling, although I think for many people would be a great relief to find out what is doing to them all that burried stuff inside. But as you say I think some things must remain burried as they cause more pain. I hope you will feel better soon. Remember... Life is wonderful with it's ups and downs! And if while walking you find an obstacle, don't forget, there is always jumbing!!!
@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
29 Nov 06
Thank you for taking the time to respond, appreciate your advice, best wishes.
@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
29 Nov 06
ive only gone to counseling once...and i didnt really like it. i felt it was very intrusive and i dont really like sharing my personal thoughts and feelings with strangers (in person). i hate being emotional in front of other people, but i started crying in front of this counselor. also, i feel weird being completely honest about everything cause i feel like they are judging me. i was going through a hard time a few years ago and was advised to go see one..i dont think it really did much for me, but i guess i didnt give it enough time. maybe i should try again..
@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
29 Nov 06
Thank you very much for sharing, if you do try again, may I wish you all the luck and I hope you find the right person who can guide you in your life. You have to feel comfortable with the person and knowing that you are going to be revealing a lot of personal stuff to them. Best wishes.
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
28 Nov 06
It never helped me. Yeah, so I talk to that person about my problems blah, blah, blah. Guess what, when I walk out of the office, it is still a problem so why did I have to talk about it? And if it is that much of a problem, why would someone asking me how i feel about it make any difference? I already know how I feel! Medication...been on that too. Holy moley! That stuff just makes you even more of an emotional mess! Or at least it did me! If I wasn't already crying, after taking the meds, I was crying about everything. And the dreams it caused, talk about whacked!!! If I were ever to do counseling again, it would have to be couple counseling. But even when I suggested that once, my partner said that we didn't need to because you just have to have good communication. Yeah, right! And why the heck do you think I suggested it? LOL
@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
29 Nov 06
Anti-depressants I wouldn't recommend at all, its like having a festering wound and the anti-depressants are a temporary plaster, stop taking the anti-depressants and bang, there goes the plaster and guess whats underneath? Yep, the festering wound, it just delays the inevitable. Thanks for sharing!
• United States
27 Nov 06
While I haven't had counseling myself, I have worked with counselors and their clients. Yes often old pain is uncovered and relived, pain that the person has buried rather than deal with. This type of pain even if you don't consciously remember it effects your daily life often in a negative way. Working through current hurts to find the underlying pain that allows those hurts to become then working on dealing with old pain can greatly improve a life. One young lady who was leary of exploring her past asked me why she should. I told her think of it like a cat box...the mess is buried but it still stinks. You gotta clean out the box!
@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
27 Nov 06
WOW! What a great, informative response, many many thanks for sharing and taking part in my discussion, appreciated.
@ESKARENA1 (18300)
27 Nov 06
im not at all sure if it works. To me it is like someone pulling all your dirty linen out in to the open room without helping you put it all away again, can cause more problems than it helps
@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
27 Nov 06
You summed it up well, exactly how I felt, thanks for sharing
@macubx (11433)
• Philippines
27 Nov 06
yes.. it helps a lot... it makes me more comfortable rather than keeping it myself..
@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
27 Nov 06
Thank you for sharing.
• Singapore
30 Nov 06
nope, never, just open yourself to us, dont bear everything yourself
• United States
29 Nov 06
It will be up to you if it works or not. So really it doesn't work.
@MagusX (1099)
• Brazil
29 Nov 06
Never worked for me
• India
28 Nov 06
YES IT WORKS
• Singapore
28 Nov 06
I believe it works else the counsellors will have a hard time making a living. I also believe that the person who needs counseling need to want to be helped.
@kage2k3 (1444)
• India
27 Nov 06
yes i think it works for me
@desire64 (14)
• India
27 Nov 06
yes it helps n it is better 2 tell someone who can react n give alternatives when u r no at ur best
@blueman (16516)
• India
27 Nov 06
i think it does work sometimes.
@blueman (16516)
• India
27 Nov 06
i think it does work sometimes.