My Visit With Mom Yesterday was Terrific
November 13, 2017 5:18pm CST
My mom has dementia, she is 102 years old. Some days when I visit her she is happy and smiling, other days she won't make eye contact with me and just looks away. She is in a nursing home. Yesterday, my husband and I stopped in to visit her after church. She was sitting in the big room watching TV with other patients. I stood in front of her and smiled. She got the biggest smile and then looked at my husband and smiled. I leaned in to give her a kiss and she kissed me back several times, she knew who I was. She no longer calls me by name or really converses but she tried to say things to me. I took her into her room and showed her some pictures of her siblings and also of my brothers and my grandkids. She smiled and said "les garcons" which means "the boys" which is what she called my brothers. I can't begin to tell you how happy this visit made me. Sometimes I leave the home so depressed but I was smiling when I left yesterday. For a brief moment, it was as if I had my mommy back.
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• El Paso, Texas
Yeah, I've been told by some of my friends (hispanic) that their grandparents are more comfortable with their first language which is Spanish @BelleStarr but strangely enough my friends Japanese step mom (84) has not reverted to Japanese.
Oh the sparkle in her eyes here really does say what has to be felt in her heart! When I worked with seniors, what I found helped was a basket of warm hand towels and face clothes in a basket. If a person can sit there at a table and fold them, quite often just doing that simple task makes it easier to communicate with them. Why don't you try that some day? I used to hate seeing family members leaving after a visit where their loved one wasn't having a good day, and I found that this helped.
• Portland, Connecticut
She can't use her hands, they have atrophy. It happened after she got to the nursing home, sort of one finger at a time. She can't grab or hold onto anything her hands are clenched. But yes, at home we would bring out the silver and have her polish it.
wow, congrats that your mom made you happy by smiling at you and she is a century years old! My mom has partial dementia due to stroke. She can remember me and my kids but she cannot remember current things such as "had her breakfast already or not" those trivial matters, she cannot remember at all. I missed her, wanted to visit her