How To End Unwanted Telephone Calls

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@MALUSE (32959)
Denmark
November 14, 2017 1:42pm CST
I'm not writing about calls from call centres in which young men with smooth voices try to talk you into buying shares for copper mines in Chile or wheat in Canada. We got some of these several years ago but they stopped. Maybe there is a worldwide network and our stubbornness to part with our money to support fishy enterprises is known now. No. I'm writing about calls you get from people you know but don't want to talk to for one reason or another. I'm thinking of a man my husband got to know because he's from the same part of the world and they even have common acquaintances. My husband doesn't like him particularly and is glad if he doesn't hear from him. Unfortunately, the last times he called it was me who picked up the phone. My feelings are stronger. I actively dislike him. He was a car salesman and is used to sweet-talking to customers. This is not the problem. The problem is that he walks the tightrope between apparently harmless and swinish. His insinuations are subtle. My dilemma is: If I don't react, I'm cross with myself. I'm quick at repartee and usually know a good answer if someone talks nonsense. Yet, if I do react and give him an appropriate answer, I show him that I've understood the insinuation and fall into his trap. I lower myself to his level and become - if not swinish - at least indecent myself. Now I do this: Our (landline) telephone is in the corridor. I quietly open the door to the staircase and ring our own bell beside the door to the flat/apartment. I tell the caller that someone has just rung (which he has heard, too) and that, unfortunately, I have to end our conversation because a visitor has arrived. Of course, one can't get away with the same trick again and again. So I've invented the variety to call down into the staircase as if our neighbours from downstairs have rung in order to ask me something. The next time I won't do the doorbell ringing gimmick. I'll already have one foot out of the door on my way to an urgent doctor's appointment or something similar according to the time of day. White lies? Oh, yes. But no qualms of conscience.
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@sabtraversa (9899)
• Italy
14 Nov
I'm such a bad person, I simply hang up. I can't fake an exciting life, full of friends and friendly neighbors at my door, or various appointments. If the one who calls is a person I know, I'll let them know I'd rather be doing something else. Speaking in 'humms' and monosyllables is my specialty, modestly.
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@Corbin5 (81979)
• United States
14 Nov
A white lie to save oneself from one who talks nothing but nonsense is a worthwhile white lie, indeed.
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@MALUSE (32959)
• Denmark
14 Nov
Thank you. Exactly what I think.
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@sharon6345 (102062)
• United States
14 Nov
Is your caller id broken? if you let the phone ring he will soon stop calling.
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@MALUSE (32959)
• Denmark
14 Nov
Not everybody is on our caller id. This man is not. If he were, it wouldn't help because he doesn't always call from the same place and phone.
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@marlina (62407)
• Canada
14 Nov
If I don't want to talk to someone for too long, I simply tell them that I am busy at this time.
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@MALUSE (32959)
• Denmark
14 Nov
The result will be that they call again when they think you have more time.
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@shaggin (26988)
• United States
14 Nov
Lol you got creative with getting off the phone with people. My house phone my kids usually answer but if my cell phone rings I just ignore it and let it go to voicemail then text them back later. I hate talking on the phone. I do not have a doorbell so I’d have to come up with something else.
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@LadyDuck (122430)
• Switzerland
15 Nov
I often use the door bell trick, not with the same person, it's the only way to cut an annoying call. We have now an answer unit, if I do not recognize the number of the caller, I let reply the answer unit.
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@MALUSE (32959)
• Denmark
15 Nov
What does it say? I think it's not good if it tells the caller that you are not at home. Burglars may be interested in this information.
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@LadyDuck (122430)
• Switzerland
15 Nov
@MALUSE My answering machines says that I cannot reply right away and I will call as soon as I can. My neighbor is a policeman, his wife is in the border patrol, I feel very safe here.
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@MALUSE (32959)
• Denmark
15 Nov
@LadyDuck That sounds good.
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@Rollo1 (16725)
• Boston, Massachusetts
14 Nov
I don't want to spend a lot of time on the phone with people I like, let alone people I don't like. I find the phone to be very restrictive - while you are on the phone, you can't do much of anything else. I need my hands and even my ears for other tasks. I need a trick that keeps people from calling me. Sometimes I just answer the phone in ways meant to dissuade the caller from wanting to talk to me, such as brightly declaring: "Greendale Home for Wayward Squirrels". Sometimes, they just hang up.
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@MALUSE (32959)
• Denmark
15 Nov
A very creative response!
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@JudyEv (101133)
• Bunbury, Australia
14 Nov
The other one is to be in the middle of a sentence and just hang up as though the connection has broken.
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@MALUSE (32959)
• Denmark
15 Nov
A good trick. I'll keep that in mind.
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@xFiacre (10506)
• Ireland
14 Nov
@maluse After a while I tell this kind of caller that I need to go to the bathroom which is usually true.
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@MALUSE (32959)
• Denmark
15 Nov
I don't know if that's convincing. If you have a mobile phone, you can take it with you.
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@ilocosboy (33293)
• Philippines
15 Nov
Ha ha very clever ideas. It's good the mobile phone was invented and no more telephone on us. Now, if the caller is on the other phone and you don't want to talk to them, just don't answer... think of alibi when you meet in the department store.
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15 Nov
I just don't answer the phone. If it's important they'll either leave a message or ring again immediately.
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@Ithink (6795)
• United States
15 Nov
Sounds like you have it covered. I hate talking on the phone, while on it you cant do much of anything else. When busy and the phone rings if I don't know the person I don't pick up, hmmm sometimes if I do know them I don't pick up! lol Unless it is my mom, you have to pick up for your mom.
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@celticeagle (114511)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Nov
I don't lie. I just state the facts. Gotta go......Bye.
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@1creekgirl (8780)
• United States
14 Nov
Great ideas. I usually say something about needing to get back to cooking, laundry, whatever I can come up with at the moment. Instead of saying, "I have to go", I say, "I'll let you go,"
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• Dallas, Texas
14 Nov
You did the appropriate thing. A little white lie is okay and I do the same thing. I usually say, "Hey, I got to help with the laundry and have to get off the phone." I hate it when the caller wants to call at random times and talk my ears off.
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@FayeHazel (11810)
• United States
15 Nov
I don't blame you. I have a similar situation and maybe I will use your ideas ...
@MALUSE (32959)
• Denmark
15 Nov
Do that and then drop me a line on how it worked. :-)
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@FayeHazel (11810)
• United States
16 Nov
@MALUSE Right now I'm doing the "ignore" option but I do feel like such a heel....
@MALUSE (32959)
• Denmark
16 Nov
@FayeHazel What does 'heel' mean in this context? It's not in the dictionary.
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@nanette64 (13885)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Nov
Now those are some pretty good inventive ideas if you ask me @MALUSE .
@MALUSE (32959)
• Denmark
15 Nov
You're welcome to use them! :-)
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@nanette64 (13885)
• Fairfield, Texas
16 Nov
@Tampa_girl7 (21657)
• United States
24 Nov
I don't blame you at all for your deceptions.
@MALUSE (32959)
• Denmark
24 Nov
Thank you!
@mohit459 (2976)
• Haldwani, India
26 Nov
Nice trick Mam!.
@Kandae11 (27188)
15 Nov
I do not get too many calls these days - a few wrong numbers. My close family members and friends are on Whatsapp. One day I received a call from a prisoner (it had to be a wrong number) which I told him and hung up. He called back and told me that he was incarcerated and liked the sound of my voice - I thanked him and hung up. When he called a third time, I turned off my phone - luckily I had two others.