MALE OR FEMALE?
November 17, 2017 12:09pm CST
This issue must have been raised many times before, but I am hoping that with frequent mention perhaps a solution may be found. Many times when I am about to respond to a discussion, I realize that I do not know if the member is male or female - and I would find it embarrassing to ask. Depending on the kind of discussion I am responding to - it would be important to know in order to give a suitable response. I cannot tell from the person's avatar and when I check the profile - there is nothing there. A member once suggested that a simple F or M could be placed next to the members' avatar. What do you suggest? Have you ever responded to a member's discussions thinking that you are responding to a male - then later down the road you find out that the member is female?
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• Marion, Kansas
There will always be people who do not want us to know any details about them. I try to be gender neutral and will admit if I cannot, and I do not know for sure, I give a generic response or no response at all. If we start requiring too much from people it may inhibit them from joining.
I agree, but I don't consider a simple matter as letting people know if you are male or female - detailed information. I don't want to know what the member looks like - or even where he or she is from, but I would like to know if I am responding to a man or a woman so I can respond correctly - how intrusive can that be?
• United Kingdom
I don't think I've done it myself here, but people have done it with me! If I'm not sure, I'll check the profile and, perhaps, look through their other activity. A lot of the time, gender isn't relevant to the discussion. If it is relevant, I'm sure nobody would mind being asked.
I have never asked - and I hope I never have to, I won't feel comfortable doing that. I have checked profiles and found the relevant information in some - not all. I have gone through discussions in order to identify - but that is time consuming.
• Kathmandu, Nepal
Such things goes on occurring to me! But I don't take it seriously! And yes But they don't occur frequently to me. When such thing happens I instantly ask for the forgiveness.That's all !! But yes again, the problem with Kandase is not to be taken lightly? What do you think about it????
• Saco, Maine
@Kandae11 I don't either. Without mentioning any names, I've had long conversations with at least one person here whose gender I have no idea about. I find it annoying actually. I'm not quite sure why someone would be reluctant to share that. It would be preferable to someone needing to ask them, which would, to me, be very awkward. Gender also changes the dynamic of some conversations. Like, there are some ways in which a woman would not be able to relate the a male experience, and vice versa.
Usually I can tell either from their name, avatar or the description they write on their profile page but like you said, sometimes it's impossible to tell. But I can't remember ever mistaking a male for a female and vice versa. I hope I won't!