Finding Peace of Mind
By Shiva
@Shiva49 (26202)
Singapore
December 14, 2017 8:01am CST
Having worked for others all my life I have been judged by them for my work ability. However, inwardly I used to ponder often how I fared both at workplace and in personal life.
The ways of the world should not define us; it is the inner voice that should comfort and guide us. I take a detached view of what others perceive about me as they cannot know me completely. Only I can know my true intentions. If they are honorable then I am at peace; nothing fazes me then.
Agreed, we have to live within the norms of society but then we should not overly get perturbed by others’ point of view. Why I share this is simple; I have found peace of mind when I followed my dictum while at the same time observing the general norms. I was never selfish as it is not me then.
I know we all do this to a great extent. What do you think about my outlook to life?
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
14 Dec 17
Seems reasonable to me! We want to get along with others as far as it is possible but we have to be our own person and be happy and at peace inside ourselves also.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
14 Dec 17
@Shiva49 Yes, we need to find a balance but we must maintain happiness and peace within for that spurs us on to keep going.
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@Shiva49 (26202)
• Singapore
15 Dec 17
@1hopefulman Sometimes it was like squeezing blood out of stone to find balance but then blood was my own! siva
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@Kandae11 (53679)
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14 Dec 17
In the workplace I would have some concern about my boss's perception of me. While, of course giving my best in all the relevant areas. However there are times when one must be on the watch out for jealous colleagues who may attempt to tarnish one's name.
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@Shiva49 (26202)
• Singapore
14 Dec 17
I have been at the receiving end of jealous colleagues. At one place the CEO himself was jealous of me though I was reporting to him and supporting him in every way. Then I made the decision to quit after due deliberation that it served all best that I did so.
I managed to get another job but again the main issue I have always faced was from colleagues lack of cooperation and commitment - siva
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
14 Dec 17
Ah to find that peace of mind. It's a rare gift and thank you for sharing with us. Unfortunately I find it difficult to not judge myself by what others think of me.
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@innertalks (21026)
• Australia
15 Dec 17
@Shiva49 "We lose our identity if we are too sensitive to what others think of us."
That's a very insightful comment, siva.
It is probably why I have had trouble both finding my identity, and also obtaining peace of mind.
When we find our true identity, we would be also always peaceful at mind then, I would say then.
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@Shiva49 (26202)
• Singapore
15 Dec 17
@innertalks We are kicked around when we are too sensitive as the world around us can be unforgiving. Then there are the few looking for easy prey to manipulate. I quote Faye from her insightful post "My thoughts on "Me Too"". Hope she doesn't mind.
"Negging" for those who don't know... is when a want to be Don Juan approaches a woman and runs her down. Something like "Hey, I like you - but you sure are unattractive. A lot of men wouldn't even talk to you, but I like your personality. Would you want to come to my place later?" .
With such people around we should hold on to our identity not to lose our mind, forget peace of mind! siva
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@Shiva49 (26202)
• Singapore
15 Dec 17
It is only natural but over time I realized we lose our identity if we are too sensitive to what others think of us.
I was working in a factory employing five hundred workers when I was not even thirty years old. I had to deal with some who were a generation older than me. Obviously, I was patient and respected their age while dealing with them; that way I was able to keep the concern going and it took great tact to win the war even losing some battles along the way.
Then I saw an appraisal from the CEO who rarely got involved in day-to-day matters - "sincere and conscientious, but a bit timid at times". That put me off then as I had kept the factory afloat and thereby the livelihood of five hundred workers. But soon I found peace of mind by consoling myself " the truth is on my side - forgive and move on as others may not know" . Okay I cannot forget! siva
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
17 Dec 17
I totally agree with that , I too normally don't bother too much about public opinion since they look at it from their own perspective . When I am not sure and confused about a certain issue I consult my family just to get a second opinion and find it has always helped me.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
17 Dec 17
@Shiva49 Basically people are selfish and have a one track mind ...I find it very difficult to get through to parents when we call them to report about some misbehaviour by their children. They are forever hurt and feel that we are making it up. They simply fail to understand that taking timely measure goes a long way in putting the child on the right track . Finally we just give up out of frustration.
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@Shiva49 (26202)
• Singapore
17 Dec 17
@kiran8 Yes, children are too precious now.
When I was young parents wanted us to go through the drills and not whine.
Now mothers, especially, are up in arms if their child complains. That means a soft generation.
For me it was tough love but love was not denied though could not be taken for granted.
Every generation has to go through a test of fire; otherwise, they will be weak-kneed.- siva
@Shiva49 (26202)
• Singapore
17 Dec 17
Some give unsolicited advice and that is jarring most of the time.
We are mostly comfortable in our ways and no one should poke their nose into others lives.
Their take may be applicable to them but sometimes talk is just cheap and done without an afterthought - siva
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@cahaya1983 (11121)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 17
I agree. I think it's important to consider other people's feedback to a certain extent, but worrying too much about their perception can be unhealthy. What matters is we're content but at the same time do what we have to do to improve ourselves.
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@innertalks (21026)
• Australia
15 Dec 17
Peace of mind is simply an attitude of love towards all things.
Without this love and acceptance from love, peace of mind will always elude you.
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@creativeaashish (2609)
• Kathmandu, Nepal
16 Dec 17
Great opinions and reasonable too. I think no one can judge a person. A person's judge is he himself. I think of this too. Many people judge me in different ways but I don't take them seriously.
Thank you.
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