Finding Peace of Mind

Worklife
@Shiva49 (14549)
Singapore
December 14, 2017 8:01am CST
Having worked for others all my life I have been judged by them for my work ability. However, inwardly I used to ponder often how I fared both at workplace and in personal life. The ways of the world should not define us; it is the inner voice that should comfort and guide us. I take a detached view of what others perceive about me as they cannot know me completely. Only I can know my true intentions. If they are honorable then I am at peace; nothing fazes me then. Agreed, we have to live within the norms of society but then we should not overly get perturbed by others’ point of view. Why I share this is simple; I have found peace of mind when I followed my dictum while at the same time observing the general norms. I was never selfish as it is not me then. I know we all do this to a great extent. What do you think about my outlook to life? Image: from Wikimedia Images
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@1hopefulman (34911)
• Canada
14 Dec 17
Seems reasonable to me! We want to get along with others as far as it is possible but we have to be our own person and be happy and at peace inside ourselves also.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
14 Dec 17
Thanks, we should feel comfortable in the way we do our work while at the same time not let others down. If there is conflict we will not enjoy going to work - siva
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@1hopefulman (34911)
• Canada
14 Dec 17
@Shiva49 Yes, we need to find a balance but we must maintain happiness and peace within for that spurs us on to keep going.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
15 Dec 17
@1hopefulman Sometimes it was like squeezing blood out of stone to find balance but then blood was my own! siva
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@Corbin5 (122833)
• United States
14 Dec 17
Your outlook on life does make for a life that is worthwhile and productive.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
15 Dec 17
Thank you. It took a while to find the right balance Do my best yet stick to my principles. I realized then people also knew my work ethic and even appreciated them. I worked for a very wealthy person but it became more on equal terms; the line between employer, employee got blurred at times. He was quite comfortable then to bounce his ideas on me and vice versa - siva
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@Kandae11 (40338)
14 Dec 17
In the workplace I would have some concern about my boss's perception of me. While, of course giving my best in all the relevant areas. However there are times when one must be on the watch out for jealous colleagues who may attempt to tarnish one's name.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
14 Dec 17
I have been at the receiving end of jealous colleagues. At one place the CEO himself was jealous of me though I was reporting to him and supporting him in every way. Then I made the decision to quit after due deliberation that it served all best that I did so. I managed to get another job but again the main issue I have always faced was from colleagues lack of cooperation and commitment - siva
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@Kandae11 (40338)
14 Dec 17
@Shiva49 That is a huge problem in the workplace. Through it all, my aim has always been to have my own business - mow I report only to myself.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
14 Dec 17
@Kandae11 By the time I came to that conclusion it was pretty late in the day! Working for yourself is the best way to realize our true potential - siva
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@TheHorse (74997)
• Walnut Creek, California
14 Dec 17
I agree with it entirely. If you find inner peace, then the "silliness" of the outside world is not as important.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
14 Dec 17
Thanks, I analyze others take on me, especially if they are negative, but mostly I find I do not have to change my ways to please them ending up displeasing myself in the end - siva
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@DianneN (91958)
• United States
16 Dec
We must try to be politically correct and a team player as well as be true to ourselves. Our moral character is of importance, especially at the workplace.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
16 Dec
Thanks, I am glad I stand by my principles yet a team player. The main issue that I faced often was while I involve myself totally few stood in my way with their flippant attitude. It was not easy to tackle them - siva
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@DianneN (91958)
• United States
16 Dec
@Shiva49 I think there are some of those nasty type people wherever one works. They certainly make getting up and going to work very unpleasant!
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
16 Dec
@DianneN You said it! I have faced few with real bad attitude. Others had to put up with them and when they pretend to sleep one cannot wake them up! siva
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@FayeHazel (22123)
• United States
14 Dec 17
Ah to find that peace of mind. It's a rare gift and thank you for sharing with us. Unfortunately I find it difficult to not judge myself by what others think of me.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
15 Dec 17
It is only natural but over time I realized we lose our identity if we are too sensitive to what others think of us. I was working in a factory employing five hundred workers when I was not even thirty years old. I had to deal with some who were a generation older than me. Obviously, I was patient and respected their age while dealing with them; that way I was able to keep the concern going and it took great tact to win the war even losing some battles along the way. Then I saw an appraisal from the CEO who rarely got involved in day-to-day matters - "sincere and conscientious, but a bit timid at times". That put me off then as I had kept the factory afloat and thereby the livelihood of five hundred workers. But soon I found peace of mind by consoling myself " the truth is on my side - forgive and move on as others may not know" . Okay I cannot forget! siva
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• Australia
15 Dec 17
@Shiva49 "We lose our identity if we are too sensitive to what others think of us." That's a very insightful comment, siva. It is probably why I have had trouble both finding my identity, and also obtaining peace of mind. When we find our true identity, we would be also always peaceful at mind then, I would say then.
@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
15 Dec 17
@innertalks We are kicked around when we are too sensitive as the world around us can be unforgiving. Then there are the few looking for easy prey to manipulate. I quote Faye from her insightful post "My thoughts on "Me Too"". Hope she doesn't mind. "Negging" for those who don't know... is when a want to be Don Juan approaches a woman and runs her down. Something like "Hey, I like you - but you sure are unattractive. A lot of men wouldn't even talk to you, but I like your personality. Would you want to come to my place later?" . With such people around we should hold on to our identity not to lose our mind, forget peace of mind! siva
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@YrNemo (14736)
16 Dec
Your writing often reflexes your inner peace of mind and wisdom. I can always feel them.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
16 Dec
That is very kind of you , Darcy. I speak from my soul as my experiences percolate to it. That way I seek inner guidance all the time - siva
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16 Dec
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@cahaya1983 (10036)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 17
I agree. I think it's important to consider other people's feedback to a certain extent, but worrying too much about their perception can be unhealthy. What matters is we're content but at the same time do what we have to do to improve ourselves.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
15 Dec 17
Thanks. We should align close to our inner voice and prompt than get kicked around by what others throw at us - siva
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@JudyEv (141602)
• Bunbury, Australia
14 Dec 17
I think you have a very sound philosophy. I'm glad you've found peace within yourself. That is just so important for a happy, contented life.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
15 Dec 17
Thanks. Peace of mind is up there for a fulfilling life and I think that means our soul is in alignment with our lifestyle here. Then nothing really can faze us - siva
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@LadyDuck (188511)
• Switzerland
14 Dec 17
I only worked for others a few years, until I started working with my husband. At workplace I did my best to do my work as I was required to do. My boss and my colleagues loved me, I never had problems.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
14 Dec 17
I think that is a blessing. It has not been easy for me as colleagues have different approaches to work. I give my full commitment and involvement and that did not go well with few at most places - siva
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@jstory07 (72386)
• Roseburg, Oregon
16 Dec
I think you have a great outlook of life.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
16 Dec
Thank you, I appreciate your kind words of support - siva
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• Kathmandu, Nepal
16 Dec
Great opinions and reasonable too. I think no one can judge a person. A person's judge is he himself. I think of this too. Many people judge me in different ways but I don't take them seriously. Thank you.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
16 Dec
Thank you for your kind words of support. We can't be dancing to the tune of others to please them, then we will end up living a life without direction. There are also the few then to manipulate and subjugate us - siva
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@innertalks (4704)
• Australia
15 Dec 17
Let love always shine through to you, and out from you too.
Peace of mind is simply an attitude of love towards all things. Without this love and acceptance from love, peace of mind will always elude you.
@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
15 Dec 17
Thanks Steve, when love lights our path nothing else matters; peace of mind then is its byproduct - siva
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@kiran8 (15398)
• Mangalore, India
17 Dec
I totally agree with that , I too normally don't bother too much about public opinion since they look at it from their own perspective . When I am not sure and confused about a certain issue I consult my family just to get a second opinion and find it has always helped me.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
17 Dec
Some give unsolicited advice and that is jarring most of the time. We are mostly comfortable in our ways and no one should poke their nose into others lives. Their take may be applicable to them but sometimes talk is just cheap and done without an afterthought - siva
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@kiran8 (15398)
• Mangalore, India
17 Dec
@Shiva49 Basically people are selfish and have a one track mind ...I find it very difficult to get through to parents when we call them to report about some misbehaviour by their children. They are forever hurt and feel that we are making it up. They simply fail to understand that taking timely measure goes a long way in putting the child on the right track . Finally we just give up out of frustration.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
17 Dec
@kiran8 Yes, children are too precious now. When I was young parents wanted us to go through the drills and not whine. Now mothers, especially, are up in arms if their child complains. That means a soft generation. For me it was tough love but love was not denied though could not be taken for granted. Every generation has to go through a test of fire; otherwise, they will be weak-kneed.- siva
@Hannihar (46277)
4 Mar
I hated working for others. Even being self-employed when you have to work at a place I feel I am not my own boss. I guess for me it depends on the other points of view.
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@Shiva49 (14549)
• Singapore
4 Mar
Agreed, it is the attitude that matters. I have met some who are comfortable working for others while those self-employed like to stay that way - siva
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@Hannihar (46277)
4 Mar
@Shiva49 Yes, I worked very hard to be self-employed and to work for myself and then when go sell I am not my own boss and hate it.
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