"Does he drink? Does he smoke?"

@allknowing (130064)
India
December 27, 2017 5:04am CST
Marriages could be arranged, proposed or they could be love marriages. Many Indian marriages are arranged and when this mode is opted for the first question girls or their parents will ask is whether the prospective groom drinks or smokes. Going further is based on this answer. My next door neghbour is getting married and even before I could wish her she blurted out saying that he does not smoke nor drink How important is this factor that may or may not impact a marriage?
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (137215)
• Philippines
27 Dec 17
I am not sure. I think it is better to get married to someone's he or she loved the most. Since it is a culture concern, then it would be a big problem between a marriage. Regardless, I think the woman lost her freedom.
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Always smiling
@allknowing (130064)
• India
27 Dec 17
It works both ways. Even the man depends on others to get him a partner
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (137215)
• Philippines
30 Dec 17
@allknowing I agree. I think both of them are in the same situation.
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Go Crossbones
@crossbones27 (48435)
• Mojave, California
27 Dec 17
That's not freedom, but not my culture either. Is there a point to living such a way. I am ignorant on the topic.
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@allknowing (130064)
• India
27 Dec 17
When it is an arranged marriage lots of questions are asked as the couple barely gets to know each other before marriage.
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Go Crossbones
@crossbones27 (48435)
• Mojave, California
27 Dec 17
@allknowing So freedom is discussed there?
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@allknowing (130064)
• India
27 Dec 17
@crossbones27 You mean freedom to drink and smoke? (lol)
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prashu
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
27 Dec 17
Lol..it still exists and non smokers and drinkers are preferred. But it's not necessary that the groom doesn't drink at all. .i have heard about many cases where they say they don't drink or smoke that means , they don't do it everyday but occasionally...
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@allknowing (130064)
• India
27 Dec 17
Here the drinking and smoking is related to drunkenness and chain smoking. I assume.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (325809)
• Rockingham, Australia
28 Dec 17
I guess it depends how much he drinks or smokes, particularly the drinking. Someone who drinks a lot is likely to drink more in the future.
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@allknowing (130064)
• India
28 Dec 17
You guys know your limit and you know how to drink. Not so here. They get drunk (lol)
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DJ
@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
27 Dec 17
Those are bad habits socially, physically and even religiously. So, pretty important for me at least.
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@allknowing (130064)
• India
27 Dec 17
It is the first question that is asked. I asked too (lol)
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A loves B
@A_loves_B (1608)
• Indonesia
27 Dec 17
Yes, it's very important for me. My boyfriend used to smoke before I asked himto quit smoking as I've got asthma. Now he doesn't smoke at all. Luckily he never drinks.
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Always smiling
@allknowing (130064)
• India
27 Dec 17
You do have an understanding friend. All do not bother.
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much2say
@much2say (53958)
• Los Angeles, California
27 Dec 17
For me personally, a smoker would be out. My dad was a heavy smoker - and I detested smoking period . . . so smoking could not be in the equation. Drinking - well social drinking is fine - but having a drinking problem would be a problem in marriage.
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peachpurple
@peachpurple (13884)
• Malaysia
27 Dec 17
Looks are not important, the character is
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Maria Sanchez
@Santosvb (346)
• Guyana
27 Dec 17
It depends on the persons preferences but as for me, I don't tolerate smoking at all and light drinking will so but I won't tolerate a drunkard
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