Is it important to have closure in every breakup?

It's good to be able to talk things through, but if that's impossible just get on with your life.

I would just move on.

Hello @rheicel There should be closure so that their hearts can move on for some one else that would have it.

Every one has a different view of what closure means to them. Just accept the realization of the situation and move on.

It'd be nice to have closure after a bad break up between friends or a romantic relationship but a lot of the time with a bad break up it doesn't happen. I think most the time you just have to let time heal and move on

Closure is better way in my opinion

Finding closure and being able to move forward is always the hard part. Especially if you have kids together. But many times how do you ever move on completely when it is someone you have been severely abused by?

I had a bad start in having a relationship which turns into a nightmare for me where he had some bad threat about doing something to me if ever he sees me around I was so scared of him that time but my mom went to a barangay station and bond him that if something happens to me he will be the suspect It was a hard life to me and was afraid going out

It would be nice to end every breakup nicely and still maintain civility but that is not the case. What kind of closure would you want? Isn't the breakup the closure?

I've had some very painful breakups but my biggest one was my children's dad. I didn't want to split up so it was very painful for me at the end. At first things were very bitter and I wanted to hurt him like he had hurt me but with time we learned to get along and he is one of my best friends now. We were able to move on in time and have the greatest respect for each other now. A couple of breakups I had I just never saw them again. Even though we didn't have closure,the fact I didn't have to see them with other people made it easier.

Closure is a personal decision.. and can be done without talking to the other person...because what usually happens is that the more you talk to them the more pain you both feel...

I believe closure is very important, after a breakup between two people Yet, I don't think this happens, in most cases.

Hm, you raise an interesting question. I think some people feel better by talking, and some people by ignoring it.....

What some people see as closure is really an acceptable reason for the break up. Let's face it, everyone is different and acceptance is going to be different for everyone as well. I think many professionals would agree that closure is necessary and healthy part of the moving on process. But what it really comes down to is acceptance. If that acceptance can happen more easily for a person face to face with possibly some unknown and more hurtful reason for the break up or that acceptance can happen from a distance while understanding that the relationship can longer exist when the other clearly doesn't want it ... closure will different for everyone.

I am willing and have had still been friends with most men that I have had a romantic relationships with or a woman that has been a friend except for a person that keeps being inappropiate.

I feel it is better to talk and close the matter, when you become somewhat normal after break up.

It depends.

I never had bad closures, I only had two breakups before dating my husband. I was the one who broke, we stayed friends.

One other perspective that was not discussed yet is break up from an abusive relationship. I think that for such cases, closure is not needed. The concerned parties should stay as far apart from each other as possible.

I definitely believe in closure. Sometimes we need to establish that the relationship has come to an end that there’s no chance of repairing it so we both can move on. Often, one person is left confused not knowing if they should stick around or let go.