HOW MANY TIMES CAN YOU FORGIVE A CHEATING PARTNER?

@ammyluv (626)
Abuja, Nigeria
March 16, 2018 1:06pm CST
Dear All, How are you all doing? So, I wanna throw this question to everyone and let's rub minds together. During my school days, I dated my first boyfriend from my first year to my final year(a 4 years course) I loved him so well, but he cheated on me plenty of times. I loved him then and felt life would be so meaningless without him so he kept doing it again and again. I would cry my eyes out most of the time. He kept begging for forgiveness each time that happens. I was so innocent and naive! I took the last straw during our final year. When I caught him with two women. I was in pains and couldn't prepare for my exams. My friends kept encouraging me to forget about him and concentrate on my exams. I finally did and swore never to accept him back. He came begging and saying all sorts of things, but I locked up. Today, I looked back and I realised how foolish I was, but on the brighter note, I was happy. I was proud of myself for taking that bold step. Ever since then, I've never tolerated a cheating partner. Once, I noticed any form of cheating, I easily take a walk and never look back. What would you have done if you were in my shoes at that tender age? Would you accept back a cheating partner? How many times can you forgive a cheating partner? What can make you forgive a cheating partner? Thank you for reading and stopping by!!! Image source:
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@Corbin5 (96026)
• United States
16 Mar
I would not forgive cheating even one time. Trust is broken with a one-time cheating for me.
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@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
16 Mar
I totally understand. I'm not ready to take back a cheating partner ever again
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@Prdhan (603)
17 Mar
@ammyluv No more chance for him.
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@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
17 Mar
@Prdhan It's a closed chapter
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@1hopefulman (24796)
• Canada
16 Mar
Love gets us to do crazy things. So when we love someone we put up with things that should never have taken place. If we love them and they cheat ones, maybe we can forgive once. Cheating is a horrible thing for one to do. Thankfully and proudly, I can say I have never cheated. There were occasions but I walked away. I wish I could say the same about the women I loved.
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@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
16 Mar
You have strong principles and that's cool. Kudos
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@marguicha (88023)
• Chile
16 Mar
That is easy: none.
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@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
16 Mar
Lol...okay
• Cuddalore, India
16 Mar
It's an life issue,How can we forgive? They were not child to do mistake.
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@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
16 Mar
Well, it depends on your heart. Some might others might find it hard to forgive so it all depends. The truth is that it's not okay to forgive a cheating partner. It's always better to move on
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@Essjayd (1620)
16 Mar
Depends on the situation and how much I cared for the person! A drunken mistake I could probably forgive an actual relationship I'd tell him to bolt!!
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@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
16 Mar
A drunken mistake can happen over and over again. So will you keep forgiving?
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@Essjayd (1620)
16 Mar
@ammyluv Nah once is stupidity twice and she's welcome to him cause I'd be gone!
@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
16 Mar
@Essjayd Hahahaha! I understand
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@mohit459 (9283)
• Haldwani, India
17 Mar
It's true when we love someone we forgive him or her though we may not be with him or her in a relationship. As we never can make our heart to let them..feeling always stay same.
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@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
17 Mar
Yeah, I stayed because I felt it was love. But just like someone rightly said " a man that truly love you will not cheat on you" I think that should be enough reason to leave
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@mohit459 (9283)
• Haldwani, India
17 Mar
@ammyluv yep... Have a wonderful day
• Russian Federation
16 Mar
0. I would never forgive as I respect myself. Forget and turn to a new relationship, you deserve better I don't know how old you are, but with age, you will learn not to react that much to such things and care more about your health. You look beautiful, will find a better boy... Good luck!
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@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
16 Mar
Yeah, I ve learnt my lessons. I can accommodate a cheating partner any longer. Will never make such mistakes again. It was in the past
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• Russian Federation
16 Mar
@ammyluv I like your spirit!
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@Icydoll (10324)
• India
16 Mar
Trust once broken is broken that's it...trust is the main thing in any relationship...I can't tolerate a cheating partner.i would have reacted the same as you did.
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@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
16 Mar
Thank you
16 Mar
Cheating a partner is a psychological problem. It's actually a thought may has been introduced by any society or an area of locality or may be by friends. Sometimes it helps them in boosting their ego, self respect among friends and sometimes they feel happy because it gives them the feeling of winning. Always avoid these kind of guys.
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@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
16 Mar
Sometimes, It's not done intentionally like my case.
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@iridion9 (4938)
• Philippines
16 Mar
Only once. When he/she does it again then it's break up time.
@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
16 Mar
Fair enough
@iridion9 (4938)
• Philippines
16 Mar
@ammyluv Only stupid people allow it to happen twice.
@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
16 Mar
@iridion9 Well, in my case I didn't think I was stupid. I thought it was love. I mean, who wants to be stupid? nobody
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@AKRao24 (10270)
• India
16 Mar
I agree with your views and appreciate them! Basically human being is a social animal and in society all of us need a trusting companion without which our lives would become hell! i appreciate your guts and wish you all the best in your future life! stay blessed @ammyluv!
@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
16 Mar
Thank you so much! I appreciate and wish you all the best in life too
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@AKRao24 (10270)
• India
17 Mar
@ammyluv , Thanks take care, Gd bless!
@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
17 Mar
@AKRao24 You too
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• Philippines
17 Mar
well it depends, like for me it happened to me also... i caught my partner a lot of times cheating but still accepted.. i couldn't count how many times i've caught him maybe bacause i loved him so much.. you can't count but if you just feel that you are already numb to pain then that maybe the signs it's enough.. that's what i experienced...
@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
17 Mar
I'm so sorry for your experience. I was there and It wasn't nice
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• Philippines
17 Mar
@ammyluv yeah it really wasn't that nice.. so painful indeed... i suffered the pain a lot of years.. but it's ok... every pain has a lesson it gives to us..
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@toniganzon (47891)
• Philippines
17 Mar
You were young back then and you were in love you failed to love yourself more. The good thing is, you were able to realize your mistake and would never do it again. I could never tolerate cheating. If there's one thing that can make me leave a relationship, it's cheating and violence. Cheating over and over again is a form of psychological abuse.
@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
17 Mar
It was truly psychological
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@mlgen1037 (8105)
• Manila, Philippines
17 Mar
I experienced being cheated on at 15. My first ever bf did that to me and I broke up with him. I forgave him once but then I decided to really call it quits. Ive had several bf cheating on me as well. But then I learned to move on. I guess once is enough because cheaters think they can get away easily.
@ammyluv (626)
• Abuja, Nigeria
17 Mar
Yeah especially if they noticed you truly love them. They would want to ride on it
• New Delhi, India
17 Mar
You are right. I also had someone like your bf in my life and I literally beat him down infront of others.
@rheicel (5416)
• Philippines
17 Mar
I don't know if I can tolerate cheating but I can't really tell I think it depends on the situation. My mom always forgive my father back then when we were young he cheated a lot but mom has always forgiven him because she didn't want to have a broken family that we needed a father. But now they're okay and never got separated. I don't know if it's good or bad but I'm happy that there's still together.
@Shavkat (54045)
• Philippines
17 Mar
I think a person should not need to cheat.
@augusta123 (3435)
17 Mar
No forgiving he or she will cheat again