Was surprised such still exist...
By Toni
@toniganzon (72279)
Philippines
March 19, 2018 6:22pm CST
Took a ferry boat yesterday and visited another city they call the City of Smile. Didn't really expect much from that city but got really surprised!
City isn't that big. Went all over that city the whole day yesterday. Every time I took a taxi, the driver would greet me 'good morning' and 'good afternoon!' A really good sign.
Then I went to this bicycle shop, an authorised reseller of Specialized, and people there were friendly too, but they already know me so that's not really surprising. But what caught my attention was this tall handsome guy, in a business suit. Typical me? No. I don't usually notice such guys. But why this guy in particular?
Said my goodbyes to the people in the shop, pushed the door open, and then this tall handsome guy who just got out of his BMW car suddenly rushed to the door to hold it open for me! Now that's something that really caught my attention.
With how the world is today, and how the feminist are, that act has become a rarity. And I was just so grateful that this one guy made that gentlemanly act that I really appreciate.
Do you, guys, still do the same?
To women, do you still see this act from guys especially the younger generation?
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
I would expect that from my son. My cousins are the same with their parents.
It's hard to expect that from a stranger.
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@moffittjc (118642)
• Gainesville, Florida
19 Mar 18
I always hold doors open for women, it was how I was raised. I was taught that it was the courteous thing to do. Some women get upset or offended though when a man holds a door open for her. I don't do it because I think women are inferior, I do it out of respect.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
That's why older guys are the nicest. I said older right? Not old. 
But young guys these days? I can't seem to see young men doing anything for women. Perhaps it was how they were raised.
But young guys these days? I can't seem to see young men doing anything for women. Perhaps it was how they were raised.1 person likes this
@moffittjc (118642)
• Gainesville, Florida
20 Mar 18
@toniganzon I'm glad you clarified that I'm not old! haha
And us older guys have so many advantages over the younger dudes; we know how to take care of the ladies!
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@topffer (42156)
• France
19 Mar 18
The younger generation can be polite but often does not know how to hold a door to a woman. Basically an accompanied woman should never open any door. If you follow the French etiquette, in a public place the man enters first to make sure that the place is secure, and holds the door to the woman. In a private place, the man holds the door to the woman who enters first. For a car he opens the door to the woman.
And an etiquette guessing game : why a woman should precede a man when climbing up a stair, and a man should precede a woman when climbing down a stair ?
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
@topffer I think I'm gonna love French men more.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
Just in case she might fall a man would be there to catch her when climbing up, or hold her back when going down?
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
Yes, indeed. Younger men here ignore women unless the woman is one they pursue. They don't care about older people. In fact they don't give up their seats. In fact when I was waiting for the boat, there was this man I started at because he was seated and his bag is on a chair while other people, young kids, old people, and women were standing up coz they're no seat left. I stared at him and at his bag and he just started back at me. What an awful man.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
@SIMPLYD Oh yes and sometimes, they make The complaints of the feminists as an excuse. Sometimes I would hear men talking to each other saying, "they want equality, now why would we give our seats up?"
Stupid men.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
@toniganzon Yes, I also encountered one like that. I told him, the seat is for seating. He removed it from the seat.
It is disappointing that some men are like this. I think it reflects their bad upbringing. 
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
That's such a wonderful country. Mine is a country greatly influenced by the US. We have lost some of our cultures coz we love to imitate others.
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@LadyDuck (459742)
• Switzerland
20 Mar 18
@toniganzon I know what you mean by countries that love to imitate the others, Italy is now imitating the United States and only in what is wrong, never for the best. Switzerland is small and still very old fashioned.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
@LadyDuck Yeah it's sad. I like old fashioned.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
19 Mar 18
I have gotten yelled at for holding a door open before, but I still do. Every now and then, you'll hit a feminist who declares that she's not weak and can open a door by herself. However, I sometimes hold doors open for other men, and they don't complain. XD
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
19 Mar 18
Exactly why some men stopped doing that as feminist can't seem to see that it's just an act of kindness and not showing them they're weak. I think it's extreme to think that way.
Don't ever stop doing what you enjoy. I think I have tried opening a door for a man, a frail old man.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
19 Mar 18
@toniganzon Well, they are an extreme lot! Too much girl power in their veins to recognize kindness. :P
I'm just being considerate. It takes less effort to hold a door open than to open it.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
19 Mar 18
@OneOfMany That is so true! It's less effort to hold the door indeed.
That is so true! It's less effort to hold the door indeed.2 people like this
@shaggin (71676)
• United States
20 Mar 18
@toniganzon aww well that is very heart warming then he did that for you!
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
@shaggin Yes it was. And I say it was impossible he was a valet as valets here couldn't afford expensive clothing.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
Impossible hahaha! That building has no valet parking.
There was none when I came. And I've been there several times.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
20 Mar 18
Yes, I do gentlemanly acts and I only remember two times in years where a woman said that she can open her own door. I just ignored what they said and walked away.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
20 Mar 18
@db20747 Yes, there is no way of knowing what that person has gone through and why she responds that way. Some things are best left alone.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
You'd get into more trouble if you tried to push your way with those women.
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@infatuatedbby (94921)
• United States
20 Mar 18
Glad you had a good time at the city =) It is such a gentleman when men open the door of course! But I will hold for men/women sometimes too, if I'm near and someones approaching me, I find it rude to just have the door shut in their face.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
Just a few hours ago, I gave up a seat for a man and moved to another seat available. I was at the charging port next to my son at Honda's customer lounge while I wait for the car's change oil. A man came in and charged his phone. I'm a sensible person and gave my seat to him coz I wasn't charging anyway. He said thank you and I just smiled back.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
@infatuatedbby I'm sensible like that. I always mind other people around me and I care.
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@infatuatedbby (94921)
• United States
20 Mar 18
@toniganzon Very nice of you :) I think nothing wrong with being courteous.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
With the people around us especially those who care for us, we seem to expect that. But what about from strangers?
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@nela13 (55761)
• Portugal
20 Mar 18
@toniganzon Some are gentleman but I have already found very rude ones.
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@nela13 (55761)
• Portugal
21 Mar 18
@toniganzon those kind of idiots exist every where. 
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
2 Apr 18
right. That's why it came such a surprise to me as well. Most of the handsome guys would turn our to be conceited and a snob. I was looking shabby when that happened and I would never get anyone's attention looking like that, so I believed that he was really such a man with a gentle heart. His wife or girlfriend should be lucky.1 person likes this
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
2 Apr 18
@YrNemo oh no he's not. I can tell when one is gay here. I have many gay friends. And they wouldn't dare open the door for any woman.
oh no he's not. I can tell when one is gay here. I have many gay friends. And they wouldn't dare open the door for any woman.1 person likes this
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
29 Mar 18
@augusta123 Not at all. I was in a hurry. Don't have time for that.
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
22 Mar 18
Yes. I still see and experience this act even at this stage.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
22 Mar 18
I think the people from Baguio are really nice then.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
22 Mar 18
@Jessabuma I had been there and I have lawyer friends from Baguio. All are males.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
22 Mar 18
@toniganzon of course, you are welcome here in Baguio City. Try this kind of gentlemanly
@quantum2020 (12040)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
21 Mar 18
It´s not on my culture to do that, but yes, I have acted gentlemanish when the situation arises
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@quantum2020 (12040)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
22 Mar 18
@toniganzon Like offering a seat or simply smiling to her
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
everything that topffer described is what i saw and how things were when we were growing up. i still see it sometimes, but not all the time.
i open doors and leave them open for anyone (regardless of age and gender) if i'm ahead of them, or if their hands are occupied, or if they have a companion.
i've also seen females give up their seats for older people, treating them as if they're their parents or grandparents.
however, i don't think i've ever witnessed or heard of females here smirking at or dismissing males for helping them.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
I have seen females smirking here and complaining..
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
@hereandthere Especially the young ones.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
@toniganzon i'm honestly surprised that we have those types of females here now, which is sad.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
21 Mar 18
My husband is always very polite to me. I think good manners are rare these days.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
22 Mar 18
True. But do you get that from strangers?
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
22 Mar 18
Good to know. It's customary in most countries but it's simply disappearing.
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@Madshadi (8841)
• Brussels, Belgium
23 Mar 18
@toniganzon that is true. I don't see the younger doing it
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
Older guys seem to be much better.
That's why it's hard to see this kind of behaviour in younger generations plus a lot of feminist just would complain when they are being helped. They seem to take it the wrong way all the time.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
20 Mar 18
@JudyEv Sad fact. I simply want to enjoy when men does act of chivalry without any motive.
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@JudyEv (326431)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar 18
@toniganzon You're right about the feminists. Some of the men now don't know where they stand or what they should do. If they try to be 'gentlemen' the feminists are just as likely to give them a mouthful of abuse.
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@teamfreak16 (43419)
• Denver, Colorado
24 Apr 18
I open the door for women. And I let them get on the bus ahead of me, too.
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