The Lists
By Darcy Nemo
@YrNemo (20261)
April 2, 2018 10:17pm CST
I heard of bucket lists, task lists...
A friend reminded me recently of an old colleague who had his specific list for his Miss Right: the lady had to be in that specific age group (20ish to his late 20s), her hair must be blond, she must be French and of a certain height, etc.
(He was from the UK, highly educated, with average height, reasonable looking, from a good family. He had a good job at the time etc.)
He played the field for a long time, searching for his Miss Right. Then one day he met her. She chased after him too so it was all good. They married and had a good marriage. His only regret: she was really a brunette. (He laughed hilariously, told me this. He was in his early 50s at the time.)
NB. she left him for his best friend shortly after this. He aged suddenly overnight.
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Did you vaguely have a list re: your perfect match? I think I did have one when I was in my late teens. Of course, the list got changed with time. 
And with time, we tend to subconsciously set up more relevant lists. My current list is a task list. Do you have any? (eg, list of countries you would like to visit?) 
And with time, we tend to subconsciously set up more relevant lists. My current list is a task list. Do you have any? (eg, list of countries you would like to visit?) 18 people like this
21 responses
@DesirousDreamer (34780)
• Peoria, Arizona
3 Apr 18
I don't really have a list, I have preferences and maybe some things that if they don't have will be a dealbreaker. But nothing that is really about looks though. Though I do enjoy chubbier people more than anything else haha
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@DesirousDreamer (34780)
• Peoria, Arizona
6 Apr 18
@YrNemo I do love the cuddly type haha I am a cuddly person myself. Most skinny people don't find me attractive anyway.
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@YrNemo (20261)
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6 Apr 18
@DesirousDreamer Who said so . Children and real men all love cuddly females (I was told so).
. Children and real men all love cuddly females (I was told so).
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
3 Apr 18
i have only one wish now, and that is i will still work even after 60 years.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
5 Apr 18
@YrNemo no, what i mean is, i hope i will still be healthy working even after 60 years old. a pioneer of the college of nursing where i studied still holds a high position in the hospital and he is already more than 60. my brother who is 53 also had his optional retirement and now, he is a consultant of a government agency here in the city.
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@YrNemo (20261)
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4 Apr 18
You mean the hospital where you work, may not accept you if you pass 60? or that your health may not let you? I have acquaintances who work in South East Asia, they told me that some countries over there seem to force workers to retire at about 50 or so. So odd to me.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Apr 18
all i have now is my list of things i have to do to live each day. but when i was a little girl, i wanted to marry a man with a mustache that smoked a pipe. married 4 not ata all like that. but the last one number 5 at least smoked a pipe. no mustache
married 4 not ata all like that. but the last one number 5 at least smoked a pipe. no mustache1 person likes this
@YrNemo (20261)
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7 Apr 18
@bunnybon7 I think my brother in law has a moustache 
. (I used to think he was a bit odd (because of that moustache) when he first married my big sister years ago. With time, I sort of forgot that he is different to us 
.)
. (I used to think he was a bit odd (because of that moustache) when he first married my big sister years ago. With time, I sort of forgot that he is different to us .)1 person likes this
@snowy22315 (170701)
• United States
4 Apr 18
No, but I need to do lists. I think it would help me focus..I used to make fun of my mother for making lists,,but crossing things off is empowering. My sister has to do lists..that probably stretch out the lenght of a legal pad. She has always been very driven. I think I am the opposite..she may get more done, but I think I am going to live longer..
..She burns herself out.
..She burns herself out.1 person likes this
@YrNemo (20261)
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4 Apr 18
Some are happy that way, burn themselves out as fast as possible. I have a daughter who is like that so I know. A real go getter even if she had no energy left. The main thing is, she is happy (but I am not since I am her main support 
). Oh well...
@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
4 Apr 18
lol Yes well I always liked tall men with lighter hair and I married a man who is 5'7" and has dark curly hair, I think sticking to a list is crazy, just let love happen.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
4 Apr 18
@YrNemo lol I like the Clint Eastwood type, Al is more of a Ricky Ricardo lol
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@YrNemo (20261)
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7 Apr 18
Mine remains short & simple too, or I forget that I ever make such a list.
@LadyDuck (459538)
• Switzerland
4 Apr 18
@YrNemo I have a small blackboard on a wall of my kitchen. As soon as I notice that an ingredient is needed I write it on the blackboard, when I am ready to go out shopping, I copy the list on a piece of paper. As I do not drive and I used to go shopping by foot, I learnt to be sure not to forget anything.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
3 Apr 18
Yes I have a bucket list until now .
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@shaggin (71671)
• United States
3 Apr 18
I did make a list when I was a teen and had seen a woman do that on a reality show but mine didn't have appearances just qualities like loyal honest etc. I don't think most French women would be natural blonds so he really slimmed his chances there.
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@Freelanzer (10744)
• Canada
3 Apr 18
As a teenager the only thing I remember wanting in a boyfriend was height. I was always attracted to tall men and I married one. Countries on my list is all of Europe and China. But ideally I would like to visit every con=untry on the planet - I am a traveller
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@moffittjc (118625)
• Gainesville, Florida
4 Apr 18
I certainly have preferences, but I have noticed that those preferences have changed over time. Features in a woman that I sought after in my teen years are different than features that I sought after in my college years, which were different than features I sought after when I was looking for marriage. But one constant that has remained steady for me throughout the years was that any woman I was interested in had to be blind so that I wouldn't scare her away! Haha, just kidding! She had to have a sense of humor in order to put up with me! LOL
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Apr 18
Back in the day of youth I had a type. Now I would have to say just a non smoker and believes in God.
My lists nowadays are tasks also.
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@YrNemo (20261)
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4 Apr 18
I chatted with someone recently, she is a pretty Scottish but likes dark tall guys who come from places like Mauritius or Tahiti. I thought that was so amusing...
