How to deal with being unemployed in a marriage?
@Grayse (28)
Venezuela
April 9, 2018 10:09am CST
It may seem odd. I understand because it's actually odd for me to writte this. If you are a stay-in-home parent i truly support that decission, but if you aren't... If you are married or in a relationship and are staying in home because you don't find a job i want to know.
Probbably i should explain a little bit more before continue.
I am married. Not for long, less than a year, and i'm currently trying to work freelancer in this long a angust journey. My husband is a doctor. An amaizing, loving and carring husband. And i feel i'm drowning every time i don't see any benefit of my effort. I'm starting to think my work, my knowledge doesn't have any value.
Reading about other experiences may help to redirection my way.
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11 responses
@neha211985 (780)
• India
9 Apr 18
I too faced this situation few months back. Freelance is not easy as it sounds but don't worry freelance is not impossible. All the best.
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@Grayse (28)
• Venezuela
9 Apr 18
@neha211985
How are you doing now? Continue working on your own?
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
9 Apr 18
Hi Grayse. Welcome to mylot. I am married too and is doing homebased. It can really be frustrating to have no work when you are well-educated and knowledgeable. it took me some time to get on my feet after I resigned from my work. I suggest that you do on online selling or find a website wherein they offer all freelancing jobs.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
10 Apr 18
@Grayse always a pleasure, Grayse. If you dont mind me asking, what happened that it ended very frustrating?
@Grayse (28)
• Venezuela
10 Apr 18
@mlgen1037 Well, the short story is that i live in a country were the materials for sweets are very expensive (sugar, butter, flour...) and when even things like thoes are hard to get, trying to make something special like apple tart is like saying i want to stay in a five stars hotel. Something nearly impossible if you don't earn much. And i don't :( So, if i want to start a bussines that make and sell desserts, i should reduce the quality of my creations or sell them to very rich people.
I have made a lot of studies of costs and rentability trying to find a way, and i realize that a pastry shop, or at least a little business of custom made dessert is nearly impossible.
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@Grayse (28)
• Venezuela
9 Apr 18
I am very grateful @mlgen1037 that you have taken time to review my publication. I have a degree in economics but my passion is to make sweets since I was a little girl. I went to the pastry school right after I had enough money, and I thought it would be less difficult if I really was passionate about what I was doing ... But it ended up very frustrating.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
9 Apr 18
Hello and welcome to myLot dear friend...
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@Grayse (28)
• Venezuela
10 Apr 18
@maezee Thanks for the advice. We don't have kids, and we are not planning to have them in a short time. I think that makes us a little more... Free, of taking risky desitions in life like this. I used to work in a travel agency and later on in a company that works with takes and i was always so sad, and he knew i was sad. That's probably the main reason why i feel so pressionate, because i know that if i fail i'll have to return to those types of jobs.
@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
9 Apr 18
Welcome to myLot. Enjoy the site!
The first step for all newbies is to read the Guidelines to learn what is allowed or not on the site. Then you can write a post introducing yourself. Tell us a bit about yourself.
Furthermore, read around as much as you can, Like and Comment on other members' posts. Only then will members come to your site and do the same. This is called interaction.
Don't expect too much money-wise. If you reach $5 a month (the payout limit), you can call yourself lucky.
@stapllotik (1933)
• India
9 Apr 18
Don't give up. You are on right path. It requires consistency.
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@Grayse (28)
• Venezuela
9 Apr 18
@stapllotik
Thank you. I will try to stay motivated. It's a sad thing because I started with such hope.
