Do you feel guilty after hurting someone emotionally?

April 13, 2018 8:51pm CST
Sometimes we tend to be driven more by emotion and less by brain. We express our disappointment to the responsible person and in return if that person expresses his/her grief (indirectly/directly) after some time we tend to think something about that. Sometimes we stay strong to our choice and sometimes we stay questioned to us...have I done anything wrong? So how does it feel to you , when you scold your junior in the office, when you apply restriction on your child, when you express your anger through loud voice to your partner, when you slam your neighbour for being disobedient......etc. Do you feel wrong for your action?
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• Peoria, Arizona
14 Apr 18
Depends on the person and what they did. If I make someone angry and I didn't intend to, I feel super terrible. But if it is someone who kind of deserved it, I might feel a little remorse but if they were being a total just...ick person, nah I feel good.
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• Peoria, Arizona
14 Apr 18
@prakashj256 Well people need to feel humility. If I am being a jerk, I want someone to tell me. I won't like it, but it will let me think and change my ways.
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14 Apr 18
@DesirousDreamer yes, this approach will truly make a person think if his/her close persons act with him/her in a disheartening way.
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
14 Apr 18
Yes, when I say something that hurts someone, my conscience will give me a hard time.
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14 Apr 18
Sometimes I also think in a lonely place when I do this kind of action.
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@Shavkat (137238)
• Philippines
14 Apr 18
It depends on various situations. If it is at work, I tend to be firm in giving comments or suggestions. It is a part of work. I can conceal my feelings towards others, but if it is out of control, then that's the time I need to say about certain concerns.
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@Shavkat (137238)
• Philippines
14 Apr 18
@prakashj256 I personally think that some people forget the word 'professionalism.'
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14 Apr 18
Brilliant, you like to stay professional to your choice. Yes one need to speak up if the concern gets serious.
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14 Apr 18
@Shavkat Right..one cannot be a good leader without sufficient professionalism.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
14 Apr 18
Yeah I feel guilty when I do something wrong to others or if I hurt someone. I will try my best to mix it up. Making apology to him or her is always my first choice, or I will feel guilty all the time.It's untolerable.
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14 Apr 18
Nice caring heart, Seems like you won't feel complete unless they feel good about you. Great to know that you are sensitive to other's emotions.
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@josie_ (9763)
• Philippines
14 Apr 18
Regret often comes after letting our emotions get the better of us.
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14 Apr 18
Yes you are right.
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@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
14 Apr 18
Honestly, no. I have little interaction and the one I do always, without fail, hurts me, so when I hurt back, I no longer feel guilt. I feel it is deserved.
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14 Apr 18
I am not getting what you want to say.
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14 Apr 18
@Courage7 Nope..who is that someone? by whom you are very hurtful? To whom you are hurting back? Sorry for my questions but I am clueless about your comment. If the questions are personal to you then you are not required to answer it.
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@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
14 Apr 18
@prakashj256 I have someone here with me that is very hurtful every day to me. So I do the same back and I no longer feel guilty about it. I used to feel so, but not anymore, does that help to understand?
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@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
14 Apr 18
If the person deserves it, no. If my actions were uncalled for, yes... but just a bit!
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15 Apr 18
Nice..greeting a person with smile after hurting their emotions works beautifully. They may start to feel good for themselves.
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@jstory07 (134727)
• Roseburg, Oregon
17 Apr 18
I have been hurt emotionally so I have never hurt anyone emotionally. I will ignore and walk away.
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17 Apr 18
It's painful to be emotionally hurt. You have picked a nice way to eliminate this odd trouble. But do you think it will always be good?
@Freelanzer (10744)
• Canada
17 Apr 18
Sometimes I think I could have handled a situation better or differently. Not sure about emotionally hurting someone since it can go both ways. But I think if we are all well adjusted individuals, feeling remorse is a natural instinct.
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18 Apr 18
Yes agree with you, well explained.
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@nela13 (55761)
• Portugal
14 Apr 18
When I realized that I have hurt others feelings I feel quite guilty and if is someone close to me I always try to fix what I did.
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14 Apr 18
Nice..that's the real beauty. We should always have control over our anger so thar it doesn't take a toll on other person.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
14 Apr 18
I do feel a lot of guilty when I hurt others and try to realise and apologize for it .
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14 Apr 18
Great...Every human should have at least this type of thought in their mind.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
I am human so of course I feel guilty when I hurt someone. I think I am more hurt when I hurt somebody rather than the person I have hurt.
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14 Apr 18
You have such a special heart who is always conscious about other's feelings. Great to hear your thought. Stay blessed.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
@prakashj256 Thank you for the kind words, J. Youre most welcome too. I wish you the same.
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@deba12 (2951)
• India
14 Apr 18
Yes, I feel guilty if the person whom I have hurt is close to me. For others, I don't care.
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14 Apr 18
Yes, close person are always special for us. We should always be aware about our actions with them.
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
14 Apr 18
Yes dear, whenever I hurt someone emotionally I always feel guilty , but I will ask for his/her forgiveness..
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14 Apr 18
It's so awesome. You are so kind hearted person and you don't want anybody to feel unhappy because of you. To be honest You really have a big heart.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
14 Apr 18
@prakashj256 thanks for your compliment . But I am not that perfect .. hehe!!!
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@marguicha (215992)
• Chile
14 Apr 18
I try my best not to do it.
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14 Apr 18
Yep, We can control our anger much better if we want.
@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
15 Apr 18
Well, I don't purpose hurt anyone so I never feel any guilt .. but of course I feel sorry if I cause them to feel hurt ..
15 Apr 18
So great of you. Our purpose should always be good. Thank you for your comment.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
14 Apr 18
If I feel my actions are warranted then I don't feel bad, I am the type of person who likes honesty and would expect nothing less from someone if I did something wrong. If I do unintentionally hurt someones feelings, then I feel bad
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14 Apr 18
It's great. You are an open hearted person and always believe in honesty is the best policy. Nice to know your thoughts.
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