Don't become a don'ter. Love has no don't about it. Love just loves.

Yes, I think so too. It is more the attitude that saying don't fosters in you too. For example, for good health reasons we should not smoke, but it's more the way we say things. Instead of saying I don't smoke, or telling others to don't smoke, say I love to not smoke, or to be a non-smoker. It is the best thing to do for our health (not to smoke). Sometimes, it might seem to be splitting hairs, but even so, it's still important the way that we phrase things. The way we think is important, and so we should base all of our thinking from love downwards, so to speak, positively phrasing it, rather than using restrictive language that resets the love switch in you from all positive to partially negative, as it allows the negative to creep back in and blanket over some of the love with its doubts, fears and negativity stand, or stance.

@mlgen1037 Yes, we must learn or try to love with our whole person, not holding any of it back. This is what Jesus Christ told us to do in his great advice to us, which is given a few times in the bible. One such stating of this comes from Saint Mark's gospel, chapter 12, verse 30 and 31. Jesus replied, “This is the most important: ‘Hear O Israel, the Lord our God is One Lord, and you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.”… It confirms what you just said. "Love must be the central theme for these mind, body, and soul."

@innertalks You are right, Steve. So we must change our thoughts and in those thoughts, we speak and we act it out. Love must be the central theme for these mind, body and soul?

@innertalks Yes,. love explains things in a kind and gentle way and with a nice tone of voice.

@1hopefulman Yes, exactly. That is the main point that I was trying to get out here, in my own sort of tongue in cheek, humorous way. I like to take things one way to the extreme view, and then that makes others think of the opposite, and then usually a consensus position is reached, a balanced view, which is usually the best view too, somewhere in the middle, somewhere...LOL...

I guess you are right, but if we always just say, don't do this, don't do that, in a harsh way, to our children, they could grow up feeling stifled, without the confidence to do anything much at all. I think we should explain these types of dangerous don'ts as well as we can to the children, by saying, for example, if you touch the stove it is hot, and you will get burnt, that is why we are telling you not to do that. What is the best loving way to warn children of danger without saying don't, like don't touch a hot stove, if this is indeed possible? Love never hurts anyone, but explains itself at all times, and love approaches others to help them, not to bash them over the head, with too many harsh don'ts.

@innertalks That is oh so true. At times I find me festering about things that no longer have any significance in my life. Why am I wasting my life for that, I have to remind myself. Review is fine because it teaches lesson. But if lesson is already out do I want to gloat that I overcame the problem and had to use harsh behavior for escaping? Why do I recall and seethe? I quite like continuing conversations with you and siva. :) We have to reflect in depth, and at this stage of my life, that is essential. I do want to know life's philosophies and ways to achieve peace and spread peace, if not love. :)

@vandana7 Thanks for appreciating my attempts to answer you from what I think that I know or feel as being how I see things working in life. We need to open the book of life, and keep it open, rather, than closing it down, and stewing over the last chapter. When we do this, we open up the next newer chapter in love's book of life for ourselves. "It is uncomfortable not to follow love." Love makes our life comfortable in ways that bring us peace, happiness, and feelings of good will to others. When anything other than love is held onto in our heart, mind, or soul, this festers like a sore on the surface of ourselves, and prevents us from feeling love because we then feel that sore instead. We need to then go back to love, and forgive the sore, or the bad experience. Let it go and move on, and it will heal, and so the sore will not distract us anymore from love, and to the connection to all that love brings to us then too, peace, love, happiness, contentment, and satisfaction in its way too, not gloatingness over past "victories". I suppose we recall, and seethe, because, we are upset with ourselves in a way, for our not knowing at the time, how to have handled that situation differently, or betterly. (I like to make up words, sometimes. "Betterly" is not really a word, but I think that you might know what I mean...LOL...)

I like that saying too. Why put things off, especially in relation to love. I sort of hope that I have a loving nature deeper down past my mind, but most of the time I find myself more a stranger, out of my depth, more than someone who is connecting to everything else through that love. I am still a bit afraid to love openly like that, I think it can seem a bit over-the top, so people might not know what your agenda is. Someone who is gushingly loving puts me off too. Yes, I can feel your loving nature, in the way that you connect to and reply to people here.

@Shiva49 Yes, a great wit tends to soften a tough exterior a bit, so it doesn't rub on you too hardily.

@innertalks Thanks Steve, I think I was always like that. I have taken after my mother in this respect as my father had a tough exterior when it came to dealing with others but he was humorous and very witty in his repartee - siva

Yes, there are no don'ts included there, as they were in the 10 commandments previously. "Though shall not kill." "Don't commit adultery" etc etc. That was a list of don'ts, perhaps more relevant though during those times, than today, and so Jesus rightly pointed out to forget about don'ts, and to just love first of all, as our first priority.

@aureliah Yes, they don't love like he wanted them to do, and they don't keep to the 10 commandments either. Yes, a very sorry state indeed.

@innertalks Sadly, people have chosen to do just the opposite. Very few people adhere to this today

Yes. That's sort of what I was saying, or trying to say. (It probably comes across a bit tongue in cheek what I said, but what you said spells it out quite clearly. Thank you) I can't imagine God don'ting. God just does, just loves, and everything that he does, is good, and everything that he does is loving. No don't about it!

@innertalks Yup!

@Starmaiden Thanks